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Online activities reflected in search engines.

04:21:27 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Search engines have become an increasingly important part of the online experience of American internet users. The most recent findings from Pew Internet & American Life tracking surveys and consumer behavior trends from the comScore Media Metrix consumer panel show that about 60 million American adults are using search engines on a typical day.

These results from September 2005 represent a sharp increase from mid-2004. Pew Internet Project data from June 2004 show that use of search engines on a typical day has risen from 30% to 41% of the internet-using population, which itself has grown in the past year. This means that the number of those using search engines on an average day jumped from roughly 38 million in June 2004 to about 59 million in September 2005 – an increase of about 55%. comScore data, which are derived from a different methodology, show that from September 2004 to September 2005 the average daily use of search engines jumped from 49.3 million users to 60.7 million users – an increase of 23%.

This means that the use of search engines is edging up on email as a primary internet activity on any given day. The Pew Internet Project data show that on a typical day, email use is still the top internet activity. On any given day, about 52% of American internet users are sending and receiving email, up from 45% in June of 2004.

Women Like Alpha Males. Tips for making up "an alpha profile".

02:55:03 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Women Like Alpha Males- as an author of the article at http://www.articledashboard.com/says.

He determines an alpha male as "guys who seem to be leading the pack, the hunter, the ever-reliable male god. They are all around us, in the ranks burly blue collar workers to the impeccable corporate leaders." Women determine this conceipt as "someone who is vocal about what he wants and who does everything to get it. An alpha male is not just cocky our loud, but there is a semblance of authority in his voice that seems to attract others, male or female. An alpha male is filled with confidence about his looks though he may not be handsome and is confident about his intelligence though he may not be a Wharton graduate."

So the main charachter features of an Alpha male are: Born leaders, Confident, Assertive- these are the qualities that make women swoon over the alpha male.

The other thing that you should take into consideration is that it's really difficult to express this in your dating profile. First you can add these personality features to your profile. Then, you can describe yourself as "the like" person. For example confidence manifests itself in the way he carries himself and the way he deals with others. So in online dating you can communicate with your ladies in such a way.

Being assertive means that you should be able to know you can do it and do something to achieve what you want to do.

That's all that you can do for the beginning and then just be yourself to reach your goal.

First date: how to avoid weirdness and awkwarness.

02:24:14 by Julia Dorofeeva

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First dates for some can be intimidating and stressful. Often, one’s mind and emotions are overcome with insecurities and fears.

Conversation normally is a big factor for a positive date outcome as well as a great influence on the failure of your date.

Carrying a conversation during a first date can become difficult and uneasy at times, since you hardly know the individual you are dating (specially on a blind date), making it hard to open up and think of a certain topic to talk about and with slight tension and nervousness, things can be really awkward.

On dates, usually a person is scared of rejection and failure; thus is nervous and conscious on what to say. It has to be the right things; sparking his/her interests as the wrong words may either injure your date’s feelings or make the conversation boring. This is because usually one is very concerned about one’s impression that he/she is able to convey to his/her date.

One’s apprehensions can lead to damaging results, usually paralyzing one’s thoughts and emotions, thus inhibiting one’s capability to behave confidently and normally like one would do when he is in the company of family and friends.
As a result, one ends up in a very humiliating and embarrassing situation, which one describes in dating as “awkward silence”.

Almost everyone is capable of carrying on an effortless, enjoyable and easy going conversation with individuals they are familiar with and therefore having the proper approach, so one can do it with the girl/guy on one’s first date.

One solution here is to think ahead of time the things that you can open up or topics that can start a good conversation; ask a common friend of his/her interest, hobbies, sports, career, etc.

Another solution is to relax and be yourself; never pretend to be somebody that you are not. Keep in mind that it’s no use when your date will like for putting up a front; it will be a great feeling to know that your date liked you for what you are.

Never brag, talking constantly of your awards and accomplishments as this would only set arrogant impression on you. Keep your conversation as simple as possible keeping away discussions about politics or religion.

Also, do not intrude or ask personal questions; whatever your date wants to relate to you, he/she will tell you on his/her own. Never too, talk about your experience about past relationships, as this will make your date feel uneasy. Making your date feel at ease with your conversations, for sure there will be a second time around for both of you.

Let your date talk and you have to listen well, as this will allow you to collect ideas of the things that interest your date and make these as topics for your conversation as well as be acquainted with your date much better. Furthermore, being a great listener is one positive feature that any ideal date can possess.

Take note that most often than not, people are tempted or even talk about their life story. Be careful, as this might only bore your date. Instead, loosen up and select an easy topic or general things such as movies, food, or anything that is of interest to your date. Or be funny and joke a little, you do not need to be all that formal.

Basically, when you are listening well to your date, you’ll know what you both have in common, so talk about that, so you can develop a good bond.

Do not let the “awkward silences” worry you, at some point those silences will come, but know that as they embarrass you, they also embarrass your date. Awkward silences are never a basis for you to conclude that your date is not interested in you; he/she just might be in a similar situation as you.

Relax and be yourself. When “silence” do come, break it with a joke, a compliment or a question and remember to be honest; let your date know how nervous you are (when you are). Letting your date know how to feel on this first date will take away the tension on he/she is feeling and will make him/her comfortable and can handle the situation better.

Article source- http://www.adultdatingonline.com.au/

How Free Online Dating Services Make a Profit.

04:22:52 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Perhaps you’ve visited a free online dating service like PlentyOfFish.com or Okcupid.com and have wondered, how does a free service (which has huge server fees when thousands of people sign up) turn a profit? If they are paying a few thousand a month in various fees what in the world could posses them into thinking offering online dating is smart?
(read more- http://www.onlinedatingmagazine.com/columns/industry/08-freeonlinedatingservices.html)

Really free onlione sites do earn money. They get a lot of traffic to their sites and as a results get profit from placing ads, profiting from Google Adsense. As a result they can earn up to $10 000 a day.

Sometimes the sites are not very attractive for people and users try to escape the site by clicking the ad links, making profit for the owners.

On the other hand users look for one and the same things on dating sites: love, romance, friends, hobby mates and so on. But as statistics say most of them do not want to pay for membership if there are free sites. Free sites as a result have larger user databases, more possibilities to find your perfect match and get the right person to talk to.

May be that's why many administrators who are just launching their sites online and starting their dating business make their sites free for all the members to get more traffic on their site. Then in a course of time when there are many members registered on the site, it suddenly becomes fee based. This can be really frustrating for the users, to my mind.

Summing it up, it's possible to say that free sites can make much money on advertisement. Nevertheless, people on these sites cannot be fully trusted. Fee based dating sites are safer and more object oriented. And your business plan idea depends on the community you are planning to cover.

Bad date as a stimul for new challenge.

09:23:43 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Bad online dating experience is a great thing indeed. You get the idea how all this can be in the worst situation and get happy when something is better than it was the previous time.

As a result you become more open for new ideas and more loyal to people's drawbacks. Some of then do not really matter if you see a sincere feeling in everything he/she does on a date.

This is what one of the users wrote about his bad date experience:

"Well, it finally happened. I had a bad online dating experience. Prior to this past weekend, I only had two stories that came close. One of them involved a woman who used a picture taken ten years prior. The other involved a woman who photoshopped some noticeable features off her face – and we’re not talking a nose or ear. This past weekend takes the cake. A few emails on a dating site turned into a couple of phone calls. There were some questions as to the validity of her age as she claimed that she was using a friends profile. As it turns out, she was pathological. She seemed together -- both on the phone, on IM and when we met in person. She told me prior to meeting that she was just fooling around on the site, that she had no kids, was divorced, quit smoking six months ago and was self-employed. However, during out time chatting she had sent me a photo of herself at what looked like her work. I noticed a purse behind her with a pack of smokes in them. When she showed up with the purse, I asked he when the photos were taken. A few days ago was her response. Ah ha! Lie number one! No problems. I can deal with someone being embarrassed about smoking. That can be handled. She apologizes and says she smokes a pack every month or so and mentions that she’s actually out of them at the moment. At the end of the date, we go out to her car – a car that she says she’s had for a week. There we find another empty pack of cigarettes. Lie number two! She now smokes at least a pack a week. Scary? Yes, but still not enough to run for the hills. Finally, she text messages me over the weekend about meeting up. She claims she can’t because her phone doesn’t get service – yet somehow she’s receiving text messages and I know that she lives in a major urban center. I try to call her and a young girl picks up the phone. Lie number three! At this point I’m sure she’s pathological and it’s time to call it quits. In four years of online dating I have never experienced anything like this. I’ve heard stories from women, of course, as men are just right nuts it seems. This, however, was my first run-in with the female version of a man gone mad. Gentlemen, these ladies do exist. They can, as in this case, look like completely sane and well-adjusted individuals. Keep on your guard. It’s better to put an end to it quick as opposed to spending a chunk of your time coming to the harsh realization yourself. Online dating is fun and a good way to meet people but keeping on your toes is forever the best advice when any new romance comes to call."
(article source- Cupids Reviews)

This is a kind of advise you can take into consideration and continue dating with new people, cause it's always fun and challenge.

Arecent survey prompts to target into female audience in online dating business.

09:16:12 by Julia Dorofeeva

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According to a new report, European women will soon be spending more time online than their male counterparts.

Traditionally it has been men that have embraced the Internet, spending an average of 11 hours a week online in 2005 compared with women who spent around 9 hours a week. However, according to new data from the European Interactive Advertising Association (EIAA), in the last three years the number of hours spent online by female Internet users has grown by 63%, while men's time has grown only 54%. If that trend continues, women on the continent will be spending more time online than men in 2007.

In fact, the EIAA report shows that the Internet is now Europe's fastest growing media among women. While the amount of time European women spend on the Internet has grown by 63% since 2003, the time they spend they watch television has grown by only 12% and the amount of time they spend reading magazines actually fell by 4.5% in 2005, compared with 2004.

"The way women now engage with different media is evolving," said Michael Kleindl of the EIAA. "Whether it's sharing opinions through blogging, saving time on the weekly shop with e-commerce or communicating more efficiently by instant messaging, the internet is becoming increasingly integrated into the woman of today's lifestyle."

He continued: "The internet offers advertisers a huge opportunity to get to know the[se] customers better and to engage and interact with them, ultimately building deeper relationships."

The fastest growing Websites visited by European women are travel, auction, shopping and banking / finance sites.

Women are becoming increasingly sophisticated in their understanding and use of the Internet and related technology. Evidence for this is in the fact that 60% of female European Internet users now employ broadband to go online, compared with only 17% three years ago.

"The increasing popularity of broadband is clearly having an impact on who is using the Internet and how," said Mr. Kleindl. "Three years ago 48% of European women couldn't tell you whether they had a broadband connection or not. Today, that figure has dropped to 5% and they are using its speed and convenience to help in many different facets of their lives."

Conducted between September and October 2005, the EIAA study involved 7,000 random telephone interviews with 1,500 respondents in Belgium, France, Germany, Italy, the Netherlands, the Nordic countries, the UK and Spain.

Article source- http://www.emarketer.com/

Why Online Dating Is Taking Over.

08:55:50 by Julia Dorofeeva

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It’s official; the stains of partially digested pizza and a shirt wringing from a gallon of beer-induced sweat does not make you attractive to potential partners. Chatting a girl up at the bar may work well until in the middle of your very best line that you’ve been reserving for the right moment you decide to bring back the 2 bottles of Budweiser and Jack Daniels chaser that you sunk as Dutch courage. Of course, as soon as you’re sober you know that this really wasn’t the right move but at the time, partially because of your alcoholically induced stupor and partially because your best mates egged you on, you gave it your best shot. Regrettably for you, your best shot resulted in the contents of your stomach landing in some poor unsuspecting girl’s cleavage.

If this has ever happened to you then it will come as no surprise whatsoever to learn that picking up your partner in a bar is reserved for those that have been going out for years and are giving them a lift home. Statistically speaking, you are much more likely to find love in the superstore than you are in a bar. In actual fact, the most likely way you will find a partner is meeting them through friends or family. The second most likely way is at work but the one method is quickly increasing is the Internet.

There was a time when most men believed that the women they were talking to in chat rooms and on forums were most likely called Bob in real life. However, things have changed and it is much more socially acceptable to at least look for your ideal partner on the Internet. There are so many dating websites online now that you would be forgiven for thinking that nobody bothered going out anymore and that the population of the world was in mass decline because everyone is involved in long distance relationships with little or no chance of actual, physical procreation. I don’t even think Google knows how to do that online yet.

You can log on to dating sites that are geared towards particular religions, races, ages, nationalities or specific hobbyists. It’s a bit like meeting somebody at the gym if you are a fitness fanatic and you know that you will at least find something you have in common. The trick is to try and meet somebody who also lives within a reasonable distance from you. If he or she lives hundreds of miles away then it is really unlikely that you are going to want to travel that far for a first date.

Always look at a person’s profile carefully before you jump into arranging a meeting and if the picture looks too good to be true then there is a chance it is. Ask for more pictures and check it’s the same person before you go turning up to any date and always try to make your first date somewhere public. Not only will this make you feel better but it will put your date at ease about meeting some weirdo off the Internet too. If possible try to tell people you know where you are going, what time you will be there and who you will be meeting.

It may sound like a lot of effort to go on a date but there is a good chance you will be bragging about it anyway, so giving out these essential details shouldn’t be that difficult. Obviously you should go out with the intention and aim of having fun but your safety should not be completely replaced by fun. Always take care and be sure you know where you are meeting and when. By telling someone where you are going you can be always be assured of your safety.

Article source- http://www.articlesphere.com/

The Simplest Path to Success.

05:27:40 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Let’s imagine a person whose life is in a mess. We’ll call him Chuck. Everyone around Chuck can see how bad his lifestyle is. It’s making him miserable. Here’s the problem: Chuck can’t see it himself. He goes on feeling wretched, but is completely unconscious of the cause—the mess in his life.

Of course, so long as Chuck remains unconscious of the cause of the problem, he’ll be unable to help himself. No one else can help him either, since pointing to the way his life is means pointing to something he cannot see. He rejects such advice and say there’s nothing wrong with the way he lives. His problem is something else; something outside his control, like his bad family background and upbringing, his poverty, and the prejudice against people like him who weren’t born in the right place or with the right color of skin. Because Chuck also spends many hours watching TV (he’s frequently out of work or feeling sick), he’s now become a connoisseur of medical terminology. He’s sure he’s suffering from ADHD, Restless Legs Syndrome, and probably undiagnosed emotional problems. But he’s too poor to get treatment, so he’s condemned to lifetime illness, as well as poverty and unhappiness. How could changing his actions do any good against such overwhelming problems?

This sad fellow has a sister, Martha. She’s also miserable and her life is as much of a mess as his is. But Martha can see the problem. She knows her way of life is making her wretched. She sees the causes of her unhappiness clearly enough, but does nothing about them. Why? Martha is convinced she has to “get herself straightened out inside” before she can tackle the mess and muddle of her life. So she avidly consults self-help books and magazines . She’s always analyzing her emotions, reviewing her past mistakes, and delving into her family history—which is, of course, as dysfunctional as Chuck’s. She too blames the external world for much of her misery, noting all the neuroses and traumas it’s left her with: problems that prevent her from moving forward until she can finally discover how to make them go away. Chuck tells her about his medical problems, and she agrees she shares most of them. Once she can get herself sorted out mentally and get some money, she plans to go to a suitable specialist. In the meantime, she takes vitamins and herbal remedies, since they’re all she can afford.

Chuck and Martha are becoming Mr. and Ms. Normal in our world today. They’re unhappy and they know it, but they either blame it all on problems outside their control (like Chuck); or have become convinced they must first sort out their emotions and thoughts (like Martha) before they can do anything about the mess they’ve made of their lives.

Let’s look as Lois instead. Lois’s life is just as much of a mess and she’s at least as miserable as Chuck and Martha. She can list a string of handicaps, from poverty, through an abusive parent, to boyfriends who beat her and the last one who made her pregnant, then disappeared. One morning, just after the birth of her daughter, Amy, Lois wakes up and decides—seemingly for no reason—she has to stop her life being such a disaster area. She’s miserable, she’s poor, she has no confidence in herself and her emotions are a nightmare. She’s certain she won’t be able to cope with anything complicated, so she looks at her life and seizes on the simplest, most obvious thing to do—and she does it.

That’s how it goes on. Each day, Lois does the next most obvious thing she can see to improve her life. She has no plan; no long-term objective or vision of a better future. If you ask her what she’s doing, she’ll tell you she has no idea and it’ll probably be a mistake anyway. But, rain or shine, feeling good or feeling wretched, Lois plods on, doing whatever she can and whatever is most obvious to her.

Months pass. Lois still feels bad much of the time. She’s still poor. When she has time to consider her emotions, she can see they’re just as volatile as they always were. Still, her baby is well fed, properly clothed and healthy. They live in a small apartment. It’s not a wonderful neighborhood, but the place is clean, the rent is paid and they have food, warmth and basic security.

After a year, Lois can look back and notice how far she’s come. It makes her feel good. After two years, she has a job she likes, enough money to ensure Amy has a comfortable childhood, and she’s attending the local college to better her education. That makes her feel even better.

Five years pass. One morning, Lois wakes up with a jolt. Her mind is in turmoil. She doesn’t know what to do. It’s just dawned on her that she’s happy. What’s more, her life is no longer a mess. She has a happy, healthy daughter. She has a great job. She even has a boyfriend who cherishes her and Amy and has never offered either of them anything but love and respect.

At work that day, Lois confesses her confusion to her closest friend, Juanita. Juanita is fascinated and wants to know Lois’ secret for real lifestyle improvement.

“I don’t have one,” Lois tells her. “I never did. I’m as puzzled as you are. I just kept doing things. Most were really small, dumb actions. The kind of things anyone with half a brain would have seen needed to be done. I’m not clever enough to come up with proper plans. I guess they worked out.”

Too many of us swallow the prevailing myths of our society: that our problems all lie outside ourselves; and we have to spend time getting our minds and emotions in order—or motivating ourselves—before we can tackle the problems in our lives. Believe either of them and you’ll never advance much beyond where you are today. Actions alone make a difference. Not necessarily big, dramatic ones either.

You don’t need a life plan. You don’t need motivation, self-confidence, peer support or even luck. All you need is the willingness to take the next most obvious step—then repeat the process again and again, regardless of how you feel. Try it. Happiness comes from seeing the results of your efforts. You don’t need it before you start.

Article source- http://www.lifehack.org/articles/

What is your dating speed?

10:00:22 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Do you go out with every guy you meet or are you a conservative dater? Take this quiz to find out.

1. What first date would you most like to go on?

a. A couple hours drinking lattes at a laid back coffee house
b. A goofy romantic movie or mini golf
c. A romantic dinner, followed by a walk around the city.

2. You’re at the end of a pretty good second date, right in front of your door. What’s going to happen?

a. A hug
b. A kiss
c. An invite upstairs.

3. You’re having a goofy girl’s night out at the ballpark and keep making eye contact with a gorgeous guy (who has plenty of friends for your friends). You:

a. Walk over there alone and introduce yourself. You’ll regret it later if you don’t at least try
b. Make eye contact occasionally, while smiling. If he’s interested, he’ll come over
c. Convince your friends to get closer to his group. One of those guys has got to be bold enough to make the first move.

4. You’ve been dating a guy for a few months, yet he hasn’t said he loves you... you:

a. Wait for him to say it. If he hasn’t said it by now, he’s just not ready
b. Say something like, “I think I’m falling in love with you.” He needs a little push
c. Have already said “I love you” by now. You always seem to say it first..

5. While waiting in line at a cafй or restaurant, you notice a cute guy - reading one of your favourite books. He seems to be alone... what do you do?

a. Approach him and say, “Hey, you’ve got great taste in reading” but move on if he doesn’t respond enthusiastically
b. Quickly say: “Great book” as you stroll out the door
c. Go over to his table and say, “I’ve never seen anyone reading that before. It’s my absolute favourite. Mind if I sit down?”

SCORING

Maximum As: You are a look before you leap, yellow light dater. When it comes to the dating game, you fall in the middle. You aren’t going to ask out any cute guy that comes your way. That doesn’t mean you’re a total wall-flower though. You’ll smile and flirt — for Mr. Almost Perfect.

Maximum Bs: You are a go-go green light dater! If you see an opportunity, you go for it. Life’s too short to pass a guy by. You know that rejection’s a part of the game and that your risks make the victory even sweeter.

Maximum Cs: You are a cautious red light dater! Your dating motto is “slow and steady wins the race”. You prefer a long courtship to a whirlwind romance. This doesn’t mean that you are anti-social or cold. You just need time to warm up to the right guy.

(article source- http://www.mumbaimirror.com/)

Breaking up is complicated in a digital age.

09:57:56 by Julia Dorofeeva

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A few days after breaking up with his boyfriend, Jeff Ramone couldn't resist logging on to Friendster - a popular online social community - to check out his ex's profile page. Two things caught him off guard: Ramone had already been deleted as a "friend" and his ex had updated his status to "single" from "in a relationship."

"I was about to do the same," says Ramone, a 32-year-old massage therapist from the Chicago area. "He just beat me to it."

Ramone then did his part to sever ties: He removed his former partner as a "buddy" on his computer's real-time Instant Messenger service, erased his information from his email contact list, and purged his cell phone number.

Splitting up with a boyfriend or girlfriend wasn't always this complicated. But the digital age has bound people together in ever more complex ways, making it tough for lovers old and new to completely disconnect. Among the rituals: bowing out of email lists, updating online profiles, and clearing cel lphone memories of phone numbers and old text messages.

The electronic connections can endure, awkwardly, long after the breakup. Susan Plummer and Brian Snow called it quits a few months before both landed Peace Corps volunteer posts abroad in the summer of 2003. The two barely kept in touch. Then in November of 2004, Snow, 26, copied her on a mass email about how he'd proposed to someone else. "My offer was accepted after some hysterics and we plan on getting married when we return to the States," Snow wrote.

In the ensuing months, Plummer, 25, says Snow sent several batches of photos as part of mass emails: the engagement party, holiday travels and various pictures of Snow's fiancee. As a final indignity, she received a Web link to 352 images from the wedding.

Snow says he thought the mass emails were a way to stay in touch "without having to talk to the other person directly." The emails eventually stopped, and the two now say they are on good terms.

Courtney Reed, a 30-year-old economic-development consultant in New York, says she met someone through Jewish dating site JDate.com and went on just one date before politely brushing off the suitor. A day later, she received a mass email from the gentleman celebrating the birth of his nephew. The next week she received two more emails recommending accessories for Apple Computer Inc.'s iPod. Reed had seen enough, and asked to be removed from his email list.

Some exes are unwittingly reunited in cyberspace. One Philadelphia couple of 29 years got divorced and both the ex-husband and ex-wife posted profiles on JDate.com, entering in details such as their age, education, marital status and location. Shortly after signing up, the ex-wife says, she received a message from the site declaring her a match with her ex-husband.

The cell phone is usually among the first items that need cleansing. Wireless-handset maker Nokia Corp. even touches on the idea in a TV ad that features a woman named Jill, who says cellphone-number deletion is a sort of post-breakup therapy.

"It is so great because when you go to the phone and you delete (the number) and your phone asks 'Are you sure?' You look at your phone and you're like, oh yeah, I'm sure," she says in the ad.

Forgetting to delete a former partner's digits can make for some awkward moments. A month after breaking up with his girlfriend, Steven Rovery, a 23-year-old New York-area graphic artist, called his ex from a bar in what he calls "a drunk incident." With her number still stored in his phone, he instinctively scrolled down to her name and hit "send." He says he got no answer - and was embarrassed the next morning when his ex, whose phone indicated he had called, sent him a scolding text message.

Even when a breakup is complete, the Internet makes it much easier - and therefore more tempting - to find out what a former partner is up to. People track down old flames using search engines like Google and they troll wedding-registry sites such as TheKnot.com to see who their past honeys have ended up marrying.

Debra Burrell, a New York-based therapist and founder of the Mars-Venus Counseling Center, says people check social networking sites such as Friendster and News Corp.'s MySpace.com, as well as Internet dating haunts, to see if their ex has met someone new. "They monitor the other person's progress in re-entering the dating world," Ms. Burrell says.

Among the breakup tips offered by the Web site soyouvebeendumped.com are several technological tasks, including purging cell phone numbers and "buddy list" handles on instant-messenger services. The site, launched in 2000 and based in Glasgow, Scotland, also says old emails should be deleted or burned to a CD so obsessive types "won't be tempted to continually reread each one over and over."

"Today's information technologies record such a large amount of data, often with little or no effort from users," says Jonathan Lillie, an associate professor of new media at the University of Hawaii at Manoa. "To delete someone from your life can actually be quite a hassle."

Lillie, 33, recently went through a divorce and says his own case is instructive. He still needs to clean up some "digital skeletons" such as photos of his ex-wife and the files she kept on his computer. He'll then have to update his password on most computers and Internet sites, which is currently his ex-wife's nickname.

"I still haven't changed it, just because it's going to be a big pain," Lillie says. "Although I know eventually I'll push myself to do it."
(Article source- http://www.azcentral.com/)

All i can say in comment is that life is life and things do happen. The only way out in such situations is to risk one more time to get the result. This my opinion. Please share yours.

How To Be More Attractive: Gotta Have Sense Of Humor!

09:44:07 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Men having great sense of humor ranked number three as being a personality trait that attracts women on survey results conducted by several magazines. Topping the survey is physical appearance and number two, financial stability.

Laughing can be very beneficial to one’s health, according to researchers. And a great sense of humor, which creates laughter, can make a lot of difference specially when dating women.

A lot of women see a guy with a great sense of humor very attractive mainly because it makes the conversation a lot lighter, it makes them laugh and dating a man who is very serious in his outlook in life makes the conversation heavy and can become very boring, according to studies, among two hundred college students.

The same study indicated that women like intelligent men and a great sense of humor is linked to intelligence, as a man with wits can think fast, able to produce a joke instantly that is suitable to the situation is clever indeed and is no “non-sense”.

Indeed, “laughter is the best medicine”. Considerable research and studies have proved that laughter and humor benefits the body as well as the emotion. It boost the “immune system”, reduces stress, relax the muscles, “lowers blood pressure”, increases pain tolerance and hastens the process of healing. No wonder women feel so good being with a man with great sense of humor!

Men having good sense of humor are always cheerful. To them, each day is sunny. Should dark clouds appear, they depend on laughter, confident that all problems will pass and instead of being discouraged, they move on with so much hope.

Even if a man is not really that attractive physically, but with a great sense of humor, women are usually drawn to him. Why? Because according to most women in a survey result, they are more at ease with these types of men, as they make the women laugh and as a result, let them feel that they can open up almost anything; a man with a great sense of humor encourages the woman to be confident.

Generally, men with a sense of humor have so much spunk in life. Not only can they come up with a joke unrehearsed, but also can take a joke.

Here are ways to sharpen and improve your sense of humor:

1. Encourage an environment of laughter and humor in the relationship that you have by concentrating on the comical or funny side of things and delighting in the laughter that they bring to mind. Then, you will soon begin to see humor in things that you do, including the problems that may come and handle them without stress in your relationship.

2. When you feel that you do not laugh that much and you feel that you should correct this, associate yourself with fun loving and humorous people. Try to go to happy places and you and your partner can engage in fun and lively activities.

3. Try laughing at yourself and at the situations around you. Many individuals are not able to laugh because they are insecure of themselves and because of personal fears. Often, they are scared to look silly in front of others and give the impression to be foolish, according to psychiatrists. It is essential to become conscious that all people make or commit mistakes and it is when you put up a pleasant laugh can make such mistake appear human.

4. Read on humorous books and collect clean jokes. Then when the need arises, there is always a joke ready to lighten up someone else’s day!

5. So as to neutralize disagreement in your relationship, use humor. When things in your relationship get uptight, “self deprecating humor” can lighten things. “Self-deprecating humor” encourages humility and nurtures courage, needed to take off the mask that one wears when insecure and uncovers one's weakness to his partner.

Having sense of humor in your relationship will add so much zest, help it become rewarding and can help both partners see life in a different perspective. A more carefree, cheerful and positive relationship will prosper as a result of a happy disposition between couples.

Article Source: http://www.articledashboard.com

A recent survey gives light on women personality.

09:22:34 by Julia Dorofeeva

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A recent survey revealed that fifty two percent of men date for intimacy. Men are looking for that “someone” to get romantically involved with and a potential mate for life.

There are women that a man should avoid dating. Here are signs to watch out for:

1. The overly feminist. This type of woman assumes and believes man is the cause of all the pains and suffering of a society. It is her strong belief that women are much more intelligent than men and are capable of doing things “the correct way”.

Men would not want to spend some time with these types of women, anything that a man will do will always be negative to them. They can never be pleased by a man.

2. The material girl. She is just after the money! These types of women are “high maintenance”. They not just expect, but often demand that a man should finance all her luxuries in life. To her, the man has the responsibility to pay for dinners, drinks, trips, jewelry, flowers etc. while she absolutely feels compulsion or guilt to reciprocate.

Simply put, she is a prostitute in disguise. She is a greedy person, having no perception of the feelings of others and her only concern is achieving and obtaining things that she wants. Never be fooled; some appear to be really nice at first, until they know that you would do anything for them. Then the asking for material things starts!

3. The hopeless romantic. These women live inside a perfect world of romance in novels, where love and relationships are perfect and her night and shining armor will always come and they will live happily ever after.
She has always been pampered by her and considered a "princess," thus have no idea that what the real life is. She will expect the man to take care of her constantly and that all her wishes be given; if not, she can turn out to be a screaming nag.

4. The angry girl. Similar to the feminist, she actually hates men. They often look down on men accounting a long list of all the injustice and transgressions of every guy that they shared a relationship with. To her, all men are "creeps", "pigs." and jerks. These women have boiling rage at men that can, at any given moment explode.

5. The insecure Miss. They will seem to be very pleasant, loving and accommodating at first, treating men very well. Later, when all her innermost insecurities go up the surface, she can be annoyingly calling the man she is dating at least ten times a day, asking where are you, or that she just missed your voice.

This woman demands frequent and persistent reassurance that you love her and you find her attractive; because of this insecurity, she worries continuously about her hair, make up, clothes etc. She can be clingy, needing constant attention and insistently torments you with her thoughts that you will leave her soon if you find someone better.

6. The abstract or elusive type. She is romantic but with a mysteriously dark side. She has been hurt in past relationships and has not gone over it. These bad experiences drive her to subconsciously stay way from or damage her new relationship.

She will be very frustrating to deal with, as at first, she will show a lot of interest with the man, however runs away very quickly; she will repeat this cycle again and again. She will date and flirt with the man, but will insist that they both remain as friends.

7. The desperate Miss. She is desperate to get married. She does not even choose to know the man; she just wants to trap him and bring him to the nearest altar!

8. The controlling type. She can be very nasty in a very subtle way, but when given the opportunity, will direct each phase of a man’s life. She will always have a “say” as to what the man wears, where must the man go, who should the man talk to, who can a man have as friends, what a man can and can not eat; as in everything! The man can not insist on his own rights or else, there will be no sex, a lot of crying, screaming, pouting and everything just so the man will give in.

To all men, careful!

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Does a real partner really exist? How to become the one.

09:02:11 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Does a real partner really exist? Is your partner the perfect man or less than perfect? Does perfection even exist when it comes to dating?

This is rather a complicated question. Ideals are diffrent for diffrent people. Some people say that they take perfect images from film starts, some like ancient heroes. Who knows? What is good for you will be owful for the other person. In every single situation the decision is diffrent.

Online Dating makes it easier to fulfill using perfect match idea. When you fill in your desired portrait and then make a search. The search criteria match each other with someone and you get possible variants of ideal partners.

Strange as it may seem but computers do a great work for us. It's just a matter of technical match which doesn't involve emotions and feelings. And in areal life it might have taken dosens of days for 2 people to get to know each other and even more to follow the same process with several "volonteers".

In this aspect online dating is much safer then real meeting and dating. It saves your time and efforts.

Nevertheless, the look can be wrong and there's a possibility to decline a person which you don't like from the first sight. From this point of view it's better may be to make your photos on a dating site available only for friends or use your personal approvement. In such a case people will be interested in your inner world, especially if you note in your profile that you'll email photos after contacting you. This is a king of mistery even.

Everyone can be perfect for a person he loves. But the most important thing is to love and to be loved in turn.

The last advise is to think about the other person as if it's you and guess his/her desires, ask the questions you wish to know yourself, do the things you wish to be done for you. Then you'll be the best partner for your beloved.

Myths and Misconceptions About Starting an Online Business

09:23:02 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Are you trying to start an online business? Are you overwhelmed with the many online business programs available or concerned that you'll lose money by investing in them? While many offers sound too good to be true, there are some very good ones available - but how can you be sure? Learning to read 'between the lines' will better prepare you for what's really involved.

Here are some common phrases used to promote online businesses and what they really mean:

#1 - Simple & Easy

Simple and easy depends on who's speaking. A doctor may tell you it's only a 'simple procedure' but that doesn't mean that you should attempt it yourself.

Many online businesses ARE simple to operate. If you understand how it works you will be amazed at the simplicity - but getting to that point will require time and experience. You may just need to try a few to get a 'feel' for the business before deciding which one is easiest for you.

Those who have learned from experience can look back and see how simple it COULD have been if they'd known what to do all along. Finding a trustworthy guide can be a great assistance to your business efforts.

#2 - Anyone Can Do This

Sorry - starting a business of any kind is stressful and requires a learning curve. If you are attempting an online business out of desperation or the belief you will make easy money you will face enormous obstacles. On the other hand, if you are truly seeking a business you can learn, work at and make a living from, you will find something online that fits your needs.

Studies of successful business people concur that those who make it have common qualities of persistence, patience and desire. These qualities are essential when trying to start an online business - do you have them?

#3 - Turnkey

The term 'turnkey' use to mean that a business was set up and ready to go. You will find the term in business classifieds where the new owner can just step in and start running the business. Unfortunately some marketers use the term to suggest a business is fully automated - that there is no work involved.

There is always work involved. If the business really is turnkey then you will begin work right away because it has already been set to go. If you want an automated business you will have to do the work to make it automated. Either way, nobody is going to give you an automated, turnkey business that makes money - they had to do the work, so why would they share it?

#4 - It Won't Cost Anything

You absolutely CAN set up an online business with no money, but be prepared that a combination of no money and lack of experience will stifle your efforts immensely.

Most individuals who start or run a business with no money have learned how to make use of the best free techniques through experience. They have paid their dues by trying businesses that cost money. They have spent time in and around their industry or market and they've been able to see where they can cut costs.

If you are prepared to spend a LOT of time researching before starting your business you may be one of the few who does it right the first time. For most people though, expect to pay something towards your online business education before seeing results - you just can't buy experience.

Online business obviously has its share of work involved, but finding the right one has enormous payoffs many people are willing to sacrifice time and money to achieve. Running your own business is satisfying and can give you more time to do what you really want to do in life.

Creating a successful online business is within the grasp of nearly everyone who is prepared to stick to it. Face the task of starting your business with realistic expectations while continuing to dream big and you may just surprise yourself!

If you would like to short-cut a lot of the learning curve, Stone Evans and I can help. Stone has developed a program
called Plug-in Profits that pulls in income streams from 5 different sources. The step-by-step instructions are flawless and much of the work is done for you.

Make no mistake there is work YOU must do. However, it is explained in detail and the steps are easy to follow.
Anyone who tells you all you have to do is sign-up and collect checks is not living in reality.
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Sometimes it’s hard to keep the ladies from loving you TOO much.

08:47:45 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Sometimes it’s hard to keep the ladies from loving you TOO much.

From falling head over heels and wanting something deeper than you’re looking for. The trick to avoiding this trap – without losing a good fun partner – is to not activate the TRIGGERS which lead to the deeper emotional bonds of relationships. Once triggered, it’s hard to stop, especially without hurting someone. So steer clear.

A Good Problem

As you get better and better at picking up women, you’re going to encounter a new problem.

It’s a high-quality problem, and for many men they’d give their left nut for such a problem, but it’s still a problem.

What do you do when a woman wants a relationship, and you don’t?

Yeah, I know what you’re thinking; if only I could have such problems. But as you get better at seducing ladies, this problem gets worse and worse – because it’s an inverse deal. The smoother, the more relaxed and confident you are, the more women will be attracted to you.

And the more time those women will want to spend with you.

So what’s a guy who’s enjoying the field for the first time to do when some of his favorite ladies start pushing for exclusivity or, at the least, more of your time that you’d rather spend playing around?

The key to this is, DON’T LET IT HAPPEN.

Things that work… in a shmucky way

Now you could keep this from coming about by turning yourself into an insecure clingy wuss. But that’s bad programming, even if you’re just playing, and it precludes the chance of having anymore fun with the woman once you’ve driven her away.

You could turn into the ultimate asshole and drive her away with such means. Thing is, no one really wants to be an asshole, and the f*ck and flight thing not only is a negative experience for both parties, but it ALSO will stop you from seeing the girl again.

Remember, you want to leave every woman better than you found her, and being an abusive jerk is NOT the way to do it.

Besides, it can backfire; every once in a while you’ll find a neurotic woman who just gets MORE attached the more you abuse her. This is EXTREMELY damaging for her, tends to bring out your own worst traits, and selects for you women that are not the kind of high-quality, stable ladies you want in your life.

So what’s a mac daddy to do?

The answer is actually much simpler than you’d think.

Establish Parameters

First, make sure you make plain the ground rules going IN. These can be whatever you want them to be. You can say you’re just looking for a little fun, or you don’t want anything deeply emotional, you don’t want anything exclusive, or you just want to search and experiment for a bit. Or that you want to wait until you’re SURE you’ve found the right woman. Or you’re only interested in orgies.

Whatever, it doesn’t matter. All that matters is the ground rules come from YOU, in a confident relaxed way, and that you’re self-assured enough that you WON’T change just because she wants you to. Yeah, you enjoy your time together, and you WANT to spend that time together, but you don’t NEED to. If she cramps your style, you’re perfectly fine leaving for greener pastures.

She needs to know it, and more importantly, YOU need to be ready to FOLLOW THROUGH if you get to a point where she’s not satisfied with anything less than a deeper relationship. As long as you’re confident in yourself and your beliefs AND you’ve created a strong attraction, she’ll accept your reality and go along with it. Simple as that.

Control Your Contact

HOWEVER, this still needs maintenance over the course of a relationship. And that’s starts with CONTACT.

Let me explain: if you meet a girl, like each other, and you talk and go out, cool.

If you talk on the phone once a week, and see each other once a week or every other week, awesome.

If you talk a couple times a week and see each other once a week, cool.

If you talk five or six times a week and see each other three or four times a week… you’re in trouble.

She may know the rules, she may agree with them and they might even mesh with her own goals, but once you start seeing someone often, all those rules go right out the window.

Once you are seeing or contacting someone that often, you flip an emotional switch. The rules are purely intellectual, but once you get that emotional attachment in action, there’s no amount of thinking that’ll make it go away.

She might fight it – fight it to the point of being miserable about it – but eventually it WILL spring forth. And then you’re in a bad spot.

Luckily, if you’ve set the rules out well, you can break it off at that point with the minimum of heartache. But once you’ve gotten this far, the hearts involved WILL ache.

Watch for the Warning Signs, and ACT FAST

Exacerbating the situation is the fact that all this cool non-clingy attitude can cause her to become MORE clingy, as she feels the distance is greater than she’d like.

If she starts down that clingy road, you need to clip it early – either let her go, or increase the space and the length of time between meetings and conversations.

Avoid going too deep

Speaking of conversations, keeping them relatively short and practical is ALWAYS better for stopping those relationship tendencies from developing. Three five or ten minute chats confirming plans and organizing events is better than one three hour dialogue which ranges from her fear of snakes to your younger brother’s first razor burn.

If she starts to talk with you too much about FEELINGS, you should try to stop that. The more you get into emotions, the more emotional she’ll become about you (not to mention most emotional talk tends to be negative, thus associating you with negative energies).

If she’s complaining about some problem she has with her family or an ex, listen for a bit, sure – don’t be rude – but when she stops for a breath, say something like “It’s obvious this is bothering you a lot. But when you’re with me, I want you to have fun – that’s what our time is about. So now, I want you to shrink your ex and all your feelings about him down into this napkin. Now, crush the napkin and throw it behind your back. He’s gone. He’s out of your mind. Feel better? Good. Let’s grab a bite.”

It’s important to not be dismissive, but you don’t want to get stuck in deep emotional conversations too often. That’s what her girlfriends are for – and often her boyfriend. If you’re not looking for that sort of committed relationship, don’t let the path start up.
(Article source- http://www.girldatingtips.com/)
Reading this article I can say that any person can find himself in such a situation and associate this or that described item with him/her. And it's really important to know such items to avoid problems in dating.

Woman Dumps Fiance After Browser Gives Him Up

06:09:58 by Julia Dorofeeva

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A woman has posted a bug for the Firefox browser because it alerted her to the fact that he had been visiting dating sites during their engagement.

Basically, we share one computer but under separate Windows XP user accounts. We both use Mozilla Firefox -- well, he used to use it more than I do but now we don't really use it. The privacy flaw is this: when he went to log-in under his dating sites (jdate.com, swinglifestyle.com, adultfriendfinder.com, etc.), Mozilla promptly asks whether or not he'd like Firefox to save the passwords for him. He chose never, obviously. However, when he logged off his user account, and I logged onto my Windows XP account X amount of days later, I decided to use Firefox because hey -- it loaded everything much more efficiently, was better to work on with website designs and is a lot more stable than IE7beta2.

Firefox prompted whether or not I'd like it to save my password for logging into my website. I chose never and changed my mind. I went into the Password Manager to change the saved password option from Never to Always and that's when I saw all these other sites that had been selected as "Never Save Password." Of course, those were sites I had never visited or could ever dream of visiting.

Then I realized who, how and what... and hit the fan. Your browser does not efficiently respect the privacy of different users for one system.

Article source- http://dating.corante.com

After dating humor: Man Catches Train, Forgets Baby In Car.

08:00:21 by Julia Dorofeeva

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WASHINGTON (AP) - Commuters racing to catch the train typically forget things in the car - keys, wallets, briefcases. But a baby daughter?

That's what happened Thursday just north of Washington, police say.

"Dad forgot baby was in the car, parked the car, got on the Metro," said Lucille Baur, a spokeswoman for the Montgomery County, Md., Police Department.

"I don't know exactly when he got the memory flash, but he was in D.C. when it was the horrible defining moment, 'Oh my goodness, I think I've left my child back in my car,'" Baur said.

At that point, she said, Jonathan Sander got off the southbound train and onto a northbound one, returning to the Shady Grove Metrorail station about 12 miles north of Washington.

By that time, other commuters had noticed the 7 1/2-month-old girl in the back seat of the car, firefighters had opened the locked door and the child had been taken to a hospital as a precaution.

She was reunited there with her mother.

"Child Protective Services was comfortable with releasing the child back to the mom," said Baur. "We all believe that the child was not intentionally left in the car."

Sander, described as "terrified, embarrassed," was charged with leaving a child under 8 unattended in a car or building. He could face a fine of up to $500 and 30 days in jail.

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The Bad Boy Image- this is what attracts women.

06:57:15 by Julia Dorofeeva

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See the tip given by Derek Vitalio in his article. Here are some advise to get the bad boy image in you:

Clean is good; squeaky clean, not so much.

Sometimes you’ll want to have an edge to your personality. Some of the times you're MOST attractive is when you’ve got a hangover and just don’t give damn. Capture that spirit, full of sarcasm and edge, and you can be the Motley Crue bad boy dating the Pam Andersons of the world – without all the baggage those bad boys usually bring to the table.

A Different Kind of Attraction

Something to remember: clean does not always mean clean-cut.

Smelling bad is always a bad thing, but looking less than crisp can work to your advantage.

In Japan, there are men who spend four hours making their hair look the perfect kind of disheveled. In Europe some guys go days without bathing – as a way to attract women, believe it or not.

I don’t suggest either of those extremes, but there is something to being outside the norm, the rebel appeal.

Think about it: why do bad boys get so many ladies?

The Appeal of the Rebel

Simple: they do what they want. They are independent, leaders (even if only of themselves), don’t give a sh*t what others say about them and THAT is what’s attractive.

Trust me: it isn’t the fact they’re abusive, but women will sometimes put up with all sorts of crazy awful repercussions IF the James Dean attraction is strong enough.

Perfect example, from one of Dean’s movies: he’s sitting with a girl who’s got a stump for a leg. Everyone dances around it, is uncomfortable with it, tries not to notice but their body language says they’re thinking about nothing else.

Dean sees it, and immediately asks about it. He’s direct and to the point, asks how it happened, if he can touch it.

The other people all are apologizing for their forward friend and his rudeness, but the girl with tears in her eyes says it’s alright. In fact, it’s better than alright – it’s honest and, for once, comfortable and exactly what she wishes everyone else will do.

THAT, my friends, is the attractiveness of the bad boy. He’s so REAL. He says what others think, he acts while others wish. He takes his destiny in his hands, instead of reacting to what fate throws at him – but, in the best of cases, continuing to listen to the world and acting in a way that fits his path.

The Look

Whoa, deep stuff, but even though it’s often unspoken (and the fact a bad boy doesn’t need to verbalize and justify himself is attractive in and of itself), THIS is what women go crazy for.

So, how do YOU capture some of that magic?

Well of course, acting playful, confident, and unafraid helps to achieve the same thing.

But since we’re talking about appearance, you KNOW you don’t want to look straight out of a J. Crew catalog.

Stubble. A few days without shaving makes a powerful visual impression.

Leather. I’d advise against red shiny vinyl pants (unless you KNOW you can pull it off – it’s like the thong for men), but a nice leather jacket is always sexy.

The Way

Devil-may-care. The attitude is so important here. Intense, yet entirely relaxed (especially about the little things, which are so unimportant the most they’ll elicit is an eyelid-twitch). When you talk to a girl, it’s because something about her legitimately INTERESTS you. Skip small talk. Converse on insights into her soul, and the soul of the world.

There should also be a hint of danger in you. Not that you go starting fights or beating people who displease you – rather the danger that comes from not caring about niceties, and not caring if that seems rude to some people, and not caring about the consequences of your perceived rudeness.

Your hair is unkempt. Your eyes glint. You NEVER lean in unless it’s to make a point. When you talk to someone, you stare into their eyes like you see through them, and NEVER look away first, never look away at all unless you feel that segment of conversation is over.

Plenty of directness. There’s no tricks to you, and subjects which others avoid you go straight into with the burning of curiosity about the world.

Don’t be Intimidated by her Intimidation

Now this kind of approach will intimidate most women. That’s fine – in fact, when you see her getting scared, TALK directly TO THAT POINT. OBSERVE a lot, and don’t be scared to say things like “I see I’m making your uncomfortable. You aren’t used to strangers being this direct, are you? And that puts you ill at ease, but at the same time, it interests you, doesn’t it?”

The question clause is a pretty useful thing here. You should either make direct statements, or attach a question clause like “…, doesn’t it?” so you give her an opening to comment on your remarks. Statements as facts are best, but if you’re worried about offending her by telling her who she is (strong people in general don’t like that), then the question clause gives both of you enough wriggle room to avoid confrontation.

In fact, unlike the traditional bad boy, avoid confrontation. Say you say something like “You’re a very shy girl.” And she responds “No, I’m not at all.” You can be playful and suggestive in your response, but if you want to play the bad boy image to the hilt, you pause, search her face intensely, then say something simple like “Ok.” and move quickly to the next subject – or leave a long pregnant pause, like you’ve got something to say but you’re not sure if she’s ready to hear it.

Get Her Head Spinning

This is brilliant because it leaves her guessing. Did he say ok because he agrees with me? Or did he say ok because he doesn’t want to argue about it? What did he just see? Is it something I can see myself? Does he think I can’t HANDLE what he sees? This is a wonderful hook to get her thinking more about you, your insights – and the hidden parts of herself that you might be able to bring out.

And the other great thing about this is, in truth, we ALL have EVERY characteristic somewhere in our souls. If you hit on one that isn’t readily apparent or seems contradictory to her image of herself, you can slowly play with it and discover exactly WHERE she has that trait. Because she has it somewhere, and if you’re with a strong brave chill girl, she’s going to want to see what you see in her.

A Little Dab’ll Do Ya

Again, be cautious with this bad boy profile – DON’T be a b*stard with it (even if it might work, you’ll hate yourself eventually), and DON’T use it too much on the more timid or vapid.

But if you use it on the right women, suddenly you are strong AND sensitive, a leader AND a listener, someone with insights AND searching questions. You are the most intriguing man she’s ever met. And she’ll want to know why.

(Article source- http://www.girldatingtips.com/articles/)

Online dating- its advantages and profits.

06:39:48 by Julia Dorofeeva

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An online dating system that gives you the opportunity to get to know people before you waist your time, money and energy. We have learned that not all people we take out would really turn out to be a prospective partner in future.

Matchmaking Do you have specific needs? We provide you with a healthy way to find and meet people that would very possibly meet your needs. A way to know very much about someone prior to even meeting them. You know and can check accurate data about someone and our members are encouraged to submit photos onto their profiles and this gives you a second method of really implying the “seeing is believing” method.

Chat Rooms This is where you really find out all about someone. Log on in your own time and chat to those you are interested in. Find out about their good and bad habits and get to know them. The fact that you are able to remain anonymous is your biggest benefit. You don’t have to invite unsafe and unpleasant situations into your life anymore.

Meet Friends that could become partners How many in the crowd you met last month are people you would like to make your friends or partners? A wise man once said that he would rather have a hand full of friends then hundreds of acquaintances. It is al about really getting to know people well.

A non embarrassing way to meet hundreds of single people online. That dreaded moment of walking up to someone and asking them if they single…the fear of being rejected by someone already in a relationship or simply not interested in you. We provide you with a method to go about dating without this initial embarrassment. With online dating you know that close to all profiles online, are looking for some form of companionship. Do you know this by watching a crowd of people in public? You don’t! But fortunately for you we have put a method in place for you to find out.

Personality Profiles This gives everyone the opportunity access the key data about someone in order to make a decision. You know their age, height, religion / beliefs. You can get to learn how they think, reason and get to what type of people they are and more important then any looks what type of personality the person has. You also have a means of contacting them. Not just any old way, a very advanced way to write an e-mail to them or chat in a live real time chat room. The old school methods of keeping a little black book no longer needs to be employed, we give you a state of the art way to keep track of everyone.

The Power to choose The best thing in life would be choice. You should be very cautious when choosing a life partner. We provide you with the opportunity to move onto a different person very quickly, if in the current one, you find unhealthy characteristics that are simply not compatible with you. Nothing compares to our ability to at one time, get so many potential partners together in one single meeting place. It simply does not happen in the physical world.

A cost affective method Have you done your calculations on the costs you really run up to find love? We have and it’s astonishing what people spend going out, buying movie tickets, taking people out for dinner and paying your way in general. Again, nothing wrong with spending money on the nice little extras in life from time to time. Do you however, really need to buy into being loved ? Does finding love mean spending your paycheck in one weekend ? Part of the reason why online dating was invented is to save our members big money.

A great magician once said : “don’t believe me, try it for yourself”
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Terence Coleman, the author of the article, really supposes online dating to be a timesaving and a positive element of our everyday life. May be he's right. Really, in our hectic life when we have no time for dating and families, giving all the efforts to work and trying to sleep at least 5 hours a day, it's really very difficult to get to know a person for a short period of time. In a real life most people become lazy in dating, they think of their appearance and forget about inner world. Online Dating gives them an opportunity to discover their inner personality and to open it for everybody.

Senior Dating Can be Easy Using Internet Dating Websites

06:17:47 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Senior dating presents different challenges. In some respects it is harder and in some respects it is easier.

As you age your perspective changes. What was incredibly important in your twenties, has a lesser importance in your forties, and may not matter at all in your fifties. You will have a history and emotional baggage, but so has everyone else.

People over 45 have more complications in their lives than younger people. Your histories will all be different, but the common factor that you will have is that you do not want to be alone for the rest of your lives. You may have had a series of long fulfilling relationships, and know that you want another. As you age you have become more realistic about what you want from life.

Some of you who have had a series of unsuccessful relationships will find it harder to connect with others’. Possibly age or caution has meant that you find it harder to share your true feelings and empathise with others. However there are still compensating factors. Other areas of your life may be more balanced, you probably have a successful career, and independence.

Identifying what is holding you back from having a successful relationship may be the first step to solving the problem. The barriers are as diverse as the number of people that have them. You may not even be able to identify what your personal barrier is.

It is possible to change your perspective, but you have to become motivated to do so successfully. It may be necessary to get help from a professional, either a trusted member of your church, or a therapist, or by using the services of a good long time friend.

If you have had a long term relationship, then the chances are that you are out of practise in the dating game, but it is a game, and however nerve wracking it seems, it can be fun. Expectations are different today, and it is more acceptable to want to live with some one else and be happy as a senior. Forget about whether the etiquette has changed regarding the dating game, the chances are that if you are dating someone else of a similar age they are going to have the same fears.

The whole point of a first date is to get to know someone, with a view to deciding whether you want to see them again. Try and arrange the activities of a first date in a setting where conversation is possible. Try being a tourist within your home town, by doing something that you have never done before, and preferably something that neither of you has done before.

Arrange a fun activity either around a shared interest, or a completely new one. Then have lunch - you will have more things to discuss at that point and it will all come together.
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I absolutely agree with the Author & Publisher of this article Billy Baker on tjis point. I think online dating really shows people as they are, their inner world. This is really important for senior dating. That would be interesting to get your ideas on this point.

To trust or not to trust this is a question.

10:01:19 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Trust is a very important thing especially if this concerns relationships between peole. It's really important if this concerns online dating. This is a situation when peole do not see each other and their communication is based on trust.

This is first of all refers to the administrator of the dating site. A site owner has to be aware of the fact that some of the scammers can register on the site and then cheet the members. As a result the trust to the dating site itself will loose it's positions in the users souls. To avoid this one should look through the lists of users and check the addresses if possible and some other information. There are some resources that can really help to determine scammers. Recently I've visited one of such sites at www.stop-scammers.com. It was really helpful.

The other danger of the dating online service lies in dating itself. Here's a story that heppened with one lady in the Internet.

"Heather is a 42 year old American lady. Divorced with two children,she decided to try online dating to possibly get a new partner.

She signed up with one of the popular dating sites and set up a profile. The anonymity and security of online dating appealed to her and she hoped it would work out for her.

In a matter of days, she was contacted by a man who also claimed to be looking for a love relationship. The man was handsome, also divorced and in his mid-forties. He claimed to be an engineer living in the United States, but was sent on an assignment by his company to Nigeria.

They began to chat and exchange mails, and soon began a relationship online. He sent flowers to her from time to time, sent poems everday, called her up twice a day. Heather felt that she had finally found the man of her dreams. Surely, this was the perfect relationship that she had wanted since her divorce. Here was a man who was caring and who showed it. She readily agreed to his proposal when he called her over the phone and asked her to marry him. They began to make plans to get married as soon as he returned to the United States.

Heather felt all was going on well with their plans until he made a distress call. He had been involved in a road accident and had been hospitalized. Could she help out with some money to pay the bills? Well, she did help. A sequence of events followed afterwards. Weeks later, she discovered that the man she had fallen in love with was not the real person she had thought he was. She had just been taken by the newest form of online scams that is just showing up--the romance or dating scam.

She was heartbroken. She had lost thousands of dollars to this man. She was behind on her mortgage and was in debt to the bank. But painful as the experience was, it could not be compared to the emotional pain that she had to go through.

It would take many months before she would get over the whole experience, which she described as a nightmare. Heather is not the only one that is a victim of this new form of scam.Many thousands of people online are losing millions of dollars monthly to these scams. But due to the secretive nature of the internet, most people that have been scammed this way are either too embarassed or ashamed to talk about their experience. In a particular finding, 145 men and women reported that they lost over $1 million in two months in 2005. In that same finding, thousands of people refused to disclose any information about their losses."
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As you can see all this leads to one single idea. That is "All is not gold that glitches". Anyways, the site owners try to make their sites reliable cause trust nowadays is the most important criteria for choosing a dating site. If people trust you and your site, they will register willingly and make profit for you.

This is a point to think over for both the sides.

How to Deal with Rejection from Women?

00:59:57 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Are women actually interested in you when they first see you? Or is it that they are interested in what they are seeing as a reflection of their own ideals and expectations?

And what about when women reject you or don't even give you a chance? Has this hurt you before even though other guys will tell you not to take it personally or to just 'keep on approaching and you'll get over it'?

Well I'm going to help you deal with this 'rejection' and set it more straight right now (for free).

What's really going on are many different things and on different levels.

I want you to be able to differentiate a woman's response to you so that you can understand it so that it doesn't hurt you or even affect you but rather that you can learn what hasn't been working and take advantage of what does work.

When a woman sees you for the first time, she is extrapolating every little detail about you to determine whether you might be a fit for her.

These usually accurate judgments she is making off of the smallest details about you will help protect her or open you up to having a chance with her.

In the future I will get deeply into getting yourself to the point where you are communicating that you are everything she could want even if you don't have the best looks or money, age, etc.

But for now, this data that she is judging off of you is either working for you or against you. You may have had women blow you off or flat out reject you after you approached and started talking or they never even gave you a chance before you approached.

Is this something you should take personally?

I don't want to give you a shallow answer, I want to give you the MEANING behind it; the schematics and reasoning so bear with me and it will be worth it.

Does a woman even know you when they she first sees you?

Then how can you possibly accept any kind of rejection?

Just because you approached her and she rejected you does not mean that you have a low character or are undesirable.

Does it?

Here's the bad news; some of the readers on this list may actually have a low character and the women ARE judging accurately (albeit without knowing more b/c they feel they don't need or want to find out more).

This can all be changed so that any man can not only more accurately portray more of what she is attracted to but actually BE that man in congruity.

The primary key is for him to get in touch with his own natural/ universal character and stop relying so much on his limited independent or social character.

The rest of the guys probably do have a higher independent or social character but just aren't being themselves when they approach a woman. They're using a pick-up persona or player front or they're just being a nice guy (overly nice and not their true self).

Otherwise they're just not in touch with their natural/universal character in order to spark attraction anyways.

Too many guys these days (and it's being taught) are focusing on the social and even independent (I'm a nice guy) parts of their character when it comes to attracting women.

This sets a man up for rejection because these two areas are the least important and are what women respond to the least when it comes to attraction and her wanting you; it's just really hard to see through it when women have become the rulers of the social 'matrix'.

Natural order is flipped around in our social behaviour patterns so you just have to see through all of the social influence and deal with her biology; the one thing that doesn't change and is what is the essence of what she desires that (healthy) men would realize.

So if you are focusing on your social 'pick up game' you're going to have to get real good at it and then because of your high character, the charts work in reverse so that eventually she may feel a spark of attraction. In other words:

You have to talk her into it and let her realize that you are a man of high character.

This takes longer because you started on the wrong end of the character continuum in your communication and portrayal of yourself to her.

Like I said it also sets you up for failure because you have to get all of the words just right and her temperance is wavering.

Hopefully this will help you understand why men are rejected more and perhaps yourself in the past sometimes. Understanding it is key to putting it in it's place and then changing to do the more effective things.

When you are a man of high natural/universal character and communicate this with your body language (often enough alone), the universal/natural part of the woman knows to respond to you and you don't have to use words.

She is prewired to know how to respond and be attracted to a man that has a strong connection to his universal/natural (which used to be almost all men but people were more localized then).

Today, very few men are in full touch with this and those that are, are the guys that are scoring the most with women. It's that simple.

When you can get in touch with the natural/universal power that is greater than you (and is your inheritance) you can have that power to create attraction (naturally) and make it a part of your own character...add it to your game and it will make ALL the difference.

You won't even have to deal with rejection anymore because you'll be able to read and communicate with women on the nonverbal level (the unspoken), that which was formerly invisible.

So back to the rejection issue...when a woman sees you and you aren't effectively communicating that you are a man of high character (either incongruently or because you just aren't there yet), she most likely won't give you a chance.

The key is to understand where you are on the character continuum.

If you ARE a great (nice) guy, then remember that she is just judging her initial impression of you. You may have a high independent character and be a great guy so just separate that from the fact that you were currently LOW on the natural/ universal part of your character and that is the part she was disapproving of, not YOU.

So don't take it personally. When you do develop a high character across the charts not only will you never have to deal with rejection again but when you play it by certain rules (your rules) SHE will be the one who is rejected or disqualifying herself to you and you will have the power by far. You will always have the last word.

All you really have to have even if you have a low independent and social character/status is a strong connection to your natural ability (esp. if you aren't good looking, poor or are much older).

So if you've been focusing on the social character and using techniques and pick-up lines to develop your character to be able to pick a woman up...just consider working on your natural/ universal character instead; it's what matters so much that a woman will HELP you pick her up by giving the right signals when you do have a high character. You won't even need pick up lines then.

In fact it's not until recently that we actually had pick up lines or a need to study this. You just have to differentiate the forced reality from the natural, timeless reality of attraction and female response and separate out all of what doesn't matter (such as her fickle independent character when it comes to attraction and don't deal with it).

Prevent rejection and isolate the possibility of it by understanding the model magnet system and charts. She isn't rejecting you, she's just placing a perception onto you and judging you initially to see if you meet her expectational response/ideal.

I like to say;

She can't sleep with a man of low (m.m.) character just as much as you can't sleep with an ugly, fat chick. And if you've taken one for the home team, that's about as often as she slept with a man of low character (despite his looks). So make sure that you not only communicate the right things but BE the man of the highest character that you can.

It's more important than your social character/status or your own inner game and personality, it's about your connection to the universal power of masculinity and secure inner strength.

The feminine energy in her will rule over her fickle independent behavior and her body just may not be able to resist. This can all happen within a few seconds of her seeing you.

At this point women will be approaching you like crazy and throwing out all kinds of signs because this kind of man who is in touch is so rare these days. The works already cut out for you.

What would it be worth for you to turn the tables, never get rejected and live that kind of lifestyle with women no MATTER your looks, age, income or social status? It's not a trick. It's real. And it's every man's inheritance but he has to embrace and accept it. I am the
messenger because this power is greater than the greatest of any man in history's own independent character.

You don't have to be a superstar pick up character, you just have to be a man of (natural) character and you'll be able to catch women's interest just by walking in the room.

And when you're already spurring attraction in her and she can trust you by your body language, there's less of a chance you'll get rejected anyways.

And if you're living in a dominant reality where she is attracted to you and wants to be plus take the natural approach you can prevent rejection entirely.

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Online Dating Tips

04:53:52 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Finding your soul mate online is a wondrous thing; however, there is the potential for danger. While you have access to a wide variety of people, you also have the impending complication of meeting those who are not what they seem to be--there are some tips of the trade, though, to help you become more discerning with your choices. These tips can help you stay safe and stay away from men and women who are not what you're looking for. Tip One: Start Slowly. There are all kinds of people on the Love Empire; not all of these people, however, will be right for you. Take your time--if you meet someone and start up a conversation, proceed with discretion. The person at the other end may not be who they claim to be; take your time and watch for inconsistencies or odd behavior. If something bothers you, simply walk away. Do not rush into any relationship without thinking first. Tip Two: Protect Your Identity. One of the benefits of dating online is that you can get to know someone based solely upon their personality and not deal with the more social conscious real world. It is up to you to decide when and how you reveal who you really are--be careful, however. If someone receives your personal information, they could use it against you. If a member tries to pressure you into giving out your last name, email address, home address, phone number, place of work or any other identifying information, then walk away. Tip Three: Use Common Sense. When speaking to someone through the Love Empire, do not throw good judgment away simply because this is an online service. What may sound wonderful on the screen can be masking something not so wonderful in reality. Use caution and do not fall in love with the first profile you read. Take your time and go through all of your potential choices. Then, after you've researched enough, go from there. It is a common occurrence for people to fall in love? after only one conversation. Do not do this! Retain your common sense and view online dating as you view real-world dating. You do not have to love every profile you read. Tip Four: Request A Photo. If you meet someone, chat with them, and see the beginning of a relationship forming, then you might want to request a photo. Often, this can tell you more about the person than any email or instant message. First of all, it can keep them from lying about their looks; secondly, you will know if you're attracted to them in the physical sense; finally, if they continually refuse to send a photo, there might be a reason other than embarrassment. Proceed carefully. Tip Five: Pay Attention. This is, possibly, the most important tip you could follow. In an email, any one can sound wonderful--in real life, it's much more difficult. When you are becoming involved with someone on the Love Empire, watch for red flags', or odd behavior. For example, if during an online session, your date suddenly becomes angry or aggressive toward you and then, won't explain why, you should take this into consideration. If one sentence could upset him/her in such a way, it might be cause to worry. Also, pay attention to any attempts to pressure or control you. For instance, if your date is constantly making demeaning comments about you, there is a strong chance that he/she is trying to manipulate you into feeling inferior; therefore, you become an easier target to control. Finally, watch out for inconsistencies with information that your date provides you or evasive answers to questions. If your date displays any of the following problems, it would be well-advised to reconsider your relationship: 1. He/she provides inconsistent information about age, interests, appearance, marital status, profession, employment, etc. 2. He/she refuses to speak to you on the phone after you have established an 3. online relationship; or, he/she will only speak on a strangely specific 4. timeframe. 5. He/she will not answer any direct questions about themselves. They will 6. either give you a vague answer or will simply turn the question back to you. 7. He/she will only provide photos of large groups of people, making it 8. impossible for you to find them. Online dating can be an exciting and fulfilling part of your life; just remember to follow these tips and act accordingly. Article Source: http://www.articledashboard.com

Writing a Profile With Spark

04:52:56 by Julia Dorofeeva

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A profile is an online representation of yourself so why not represent the best parts of you? There are four areas of a profile that you should keep in mind: honesty, creativity, research, writing. By mastering these areas, you will be able to write an excellent and self-elevating profile that can capture anyone's attention.

Part One: Honesty

Always be honest with the readers of your profile; remember that you and the others on the site are searching for that special someone--how can a relationship grow when there is deceit from the beginning?
Speak candidly about who you are and what you are looking for. Then, at least you will know that, when someone messages you, they are genuinely interested. Putting up a pretense will only summon people who are interested in your lies; this will not build a solid relationship.
Being honest doesn't mean to be sell yourself short; you don't have to dwell on your faults and misgivings. Showcase your good qualities (just don't exaggerate).

Part Two: Creativity

Nothing can turn a potential relationship sour more than a dull profile. There are thousands upon thousands of people looking for the exact same thing you are: a genuine connection. You must be able to catch their attention.
Try to avoid using phrases like Looking for Mr. Perfect? or In Search Of That Special Lady? or descriptions like hard-working?, romantic? and attractive?. These are all cliche and overdone. Spice your profile up with original ideas!
Show off your strengths. Give your readers anecdotes or narratives that display you in a good light.
Get yourself a thesaurus. As silly as this may sound, a thesaurus can help you avoid using words that have been used too many times before.
Do not use letters to describe yourself; for example, SWF (single white female) can mean a variety of things to a variety of people. Don't limit yourself to this.

Part Three: Research

You know what kind of relationship you want; whether it be a friend, a casual date, or something as deep as a marital partner, you have a clear picture in your mind of how far you are willing to go. Seek out people with that same goal.

Write a profile that will appeal to the kind of person you're after; the only way they can find you is if you help them. Check out other profiles for ideas.

If you receive interest with your profile but still can't seem to find that right person, then go do some online window-shopping. Scan through profiles, find some that catch your attention, and start messaging. They don't all have to come to you.

Part Four: Writing

So, you've gathered your information and you have a clear idea of what you want out of this site; however, your writing seems a little...lifeless. Be careful of this! By paying attention to the three steps before you, you should be able to write a profile that is distinctly you.

This is an example of what not to do: I'm a SBM looking for a SF. Good looking, funny. Message me. Eyes are going to glaze over; you cannot limit yourself like this. It will only hurt you.

Spice it up: I am a 22-year-old female, blessed with long, blonde hair and big, brown eyes. I'm short, only 5'4, but what I lack in size, I make up for in spirit. I am looking for someone that can keep up with me; come and get me, boys. She gives a description and a challenge, all within a few sentences ”you don't have to be long-winded to get the point across.

A good profile can bring you all of the attention you want and lead you to a successful relationship; follow these steps to what you want.

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African Dating - Pride and Ambition

04:52:04 by Julia Dorofeeva

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It is no secret that African culture is known for its pride. Most Africans do not have a problem standing up for their beliefs and causes, and are often ambitious when it comes to obtaining specific goals. That being the case, if you are of African descent and are seeking a relationship with someone of your ethnic background, you probably already have an idea of the type of man or woman you are looking for.

When it comes to finding the African man or woman of your dreams, there are many options awaiting you if you hook up with the right community. You can find the ideal connection you are aspiring for, by getting to know others who share your same ambitions and dreams.

Of course, like seeking any relationship, there are certain character qualities you will want to avoid such as:

Money Suckers avoid a relationship with someone who is only interested in how much money you make. Dramatics someone who takes things to the extreme could really put your patience to the test. Desperation If your date is clingy, this is a good sign that he or she could have self-esteem issues or are desperate for reasons you may not want to know. Shady If for any reason you suspect that your date has something to hide, or has been caught telling you a half-truth or a lie, it's time to move on. Once a liar, always a liar.
Control Freak It's true that relationships are about giving... but if you have to give up all of your free time or interests to appease your date, it's time to take back control and walk away.

Now that you have an idea of what to avoid when dating, here are some of the things to look for:

Beauty is Only Skin Deep - Of course appearance is an important part of dating, but remember that it isn't the only aspect that should attract you. Look for someone who's intelligent; someone with personality.
Common Sense This is an attribute that goes a long way, and is a good indication that your date is knowledgeable, and can think on their own two feet.
Self-Respect Any date that has self-respect, will take pride in their own ambitions, and should also respect yours.

There is no reason why you should feel pressured into perusing a relationship with someone who does not interest you, or who is looking for different goals. You need to think about what you want, and give it all you've got. And you can be sure, if it is meant to be, love will find a way to reach your heart.

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Only You Can Decide If Your Interracial Love Will Stand the Test of Time

04:45:45 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Interracial dating has really evolved over the past two decades due to the fact that the younger generations have had the chance to grow up in multicultural communities, allowing them to interact and make friends with individuals from a variety of cultural backgrounds. Although this has provided them with a different perspective and fewer prejudices, in most cases their parents and grandparents disapprove of their children mingling with others, whom they consider to be "not like them".

This ever rising diversity in culture can often leave older generations feeling defensive and fearful over the loss of their own cultural traditions and values, if their children choose to seek an intimate relationship with someone of a different ethnic background. Some people also fear that if their children begin to join with those from different races, their individual ethnic community will begin to shrink, while others are simply afraid of what they do not understand.

If you are someone who is interested in seeking interracial dating, you need to understand that there are potential challenges that await you and your date. You can be sure that there will always be those who disapprove of interracial mixing, and that being the case, you should prepare yourself for shocked or negative reactions that you may experience from certain public places, and perhaps from yours or your date's family, relatives and maybe even your friends.

Since interracial dating differs for every individual, what may be an easy experience for someone else, could prove to be more of a challenge for you depending on your family situation; therefore, one of the best ways for you to meet someone is to join an online dating community like Love Empire, where you can safely meet and chat with a variety of individuals of different ethnicities such as black, white, eurasian, etc.

At Love Empire you need not concern yourself about criticisms or disapprovals. No one will judge you, and you will discover that the people you meet are exactly like you - interested in dating, being themselves and having fun.

You don't need to limit yourself to your own culture when it comes to dating, and you shouldn't let anyone but yourself decide who you should date and love. Because when it comes down to it, the only opinion that should matter to you more than your own is your date's.

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Asian Dating - Respect and Honour

04:44:31 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Honour and respect are two of the most important elements in Asian culture, and they shouldn't be overlooked when it comes to dating. For instance, traditionally, Asian women are taught at a young age to know their place around men, treat them with respect and accommodate them, while men are taught to protect and provide for the women. Although these traditions have become a faded practice in Western culture, respect still plays an important role in the Asian dating scene.

If you are Asian and are seeking a serious relationship with a man or woman from your ethnic culture, you will need to take into consideration that every move you make could be watched carefully by your partner's family, who may very well act as the third party to your date. With this in mind, here are a few tips you will want to think about when you begin dating:

Make an Impression -Be on your best behaviour. Listen to your date, create casual conversation, and be accommodating and thoughtful.

Treat your Date with Respect - Remember the saying "treat others as you would like to be treated", well this is when it really counts. Be considerate and patient, even if you find the topic of conversation to be of little interest to you. You should acknowledge what is important to your date and respect it.

Give them space - You don't want to come on too strong in the relationship, as this could either scare off your date, or make him or her jump to wrong conclusions. Creating a comfortable dating experience is the best way for you to discover if what you have found is an acquaintance, friend or potential lover.

Every once in a while visit the planet Earth - Be careful not to be mislead into believing that your dating relationship is something more than it is. Remember, not everyone is seeking a long term commitment (which could include you) therefore, before you let your imagination run wild from misinterpretation, make sure you take a realistic look at the relationship that is developing.

Above All have fun - Let's face it, the whole point to dating is about having a good time, and enjoying the other person's company, so don't be afraid to loosen up. Let your personality shine and take pleasure in your dating experiences.

In the end all that should matter when it comes down to dating, is that you and your date enjoy one another's company, are comfortable together, and share similar interests and values. If you find that there is no chemistry forming, it's time to say goodbye, and move on, regardless of how much your family may like him or her. After all, it is you who has to make the choice when it comes to your love life, for only you can determine who truly makes you happy. Therefore, grant yourself the respect and honour of making and standing by your dating decisions.

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Latin Dating - Beauty and Romance

04:43:41 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Like any other society, Latin culture is one that is embedded with traditions, values and celebrations. Of all the different attributes that are associated with Latino's, there is no question that passion and romance are considered to be two of the most intriguing.

If you are of Latin descent and are interested in seeking a relationship with another Latin man or woman, there are many ways you can go about creating the perfect romantic dating experience, that both you and your date should be able to enjoy with no strings attached.

The following are a few ideas of how you can create romance on your dates:

Dinner Dinner is always a perfect dating choice, because you can make it as casual or romantic as you would like it to be. It all depends on where you go, and the way you act during the meal. If you are interested in being romantic at dinner, listen intently to what your date has to say, take his or her hand from across the table, look them in the eyes and be honest when you express yourself. However, you should keep in mind that romance can be interpreted as an invitation to sex, or even make the other person feel uncomfortable if they are interested in taking it slow. Therefore, be a tasteful romantic and know when to draw the line. For although you want to capture your date's interest, you don't want to make them feel uncomfortable in the process.

Dancing Dancing is a great way for you to have fun, while still getting to know and remaining close to your date. Going to a club, or attending Latin dancing is how you can keep the romance freely escalating without having any further expectations hanging in the air.

Walking - You would be surprised to discover the power behind a nice leisurely walk. There is something truly magical about making nature apart of your date. Although not everyone is fortunate enough to have a beach close to them, there is sure to be parks, waterfronts and old fashioned neighbourhoods awaiting your footsteps. Holding hands and talking on an evening stroll, watching the sunset in silence, and gazing up at the stars, are just some of the ways you can use simple beauty to add to the romantic atmosphere of your date.

Due to the fact that traditions are an important part of Latin culture, dating someone of your same ethnic background is usually a plus when it comes to family relations, especially if you are interested in perusing a serious relationship with your dating partner.

Nevertheless, despite your dating intentions, there are many ways you can make your dating experience a beautiful time that you can truly enjoy who knows where a little romance can take you.

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Find the genuine online dating site

02:01:32 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Online Dating started with a 'usenet' kind of newsgroups to social networking and has become one of the most important part of our personal lives in less than 10 years time. With the growing demand in online dating, thousands of online dating sites were formed. Some sites unbelievably reached millions of members in short periods. With the easiness and forwardness of online dating, millions of singles became couples and got married. But as in all part of our lives, 'cyber-thieves' or nowadays we call them 'scammers' created millions of fake profiles on online dating sites and suckered money from innocent people, who were looking for love on the internet.

So the question is how you can know if the dating site of your choice is reputable and how can you know the person you are getting in touch is a genuine match?:

On the huge ocean of Internet, there are hundreds of free dating sites with maybe a dozen of them reputable enough to give them a try. But the biggest problem with trying totally free dating sites is that it just doesn't attracts innocent individuals like you. It attracts scammers who are creating hundreds of fake profiles everyday, looking forward to wrong moves from genuine people. So most of the time, giving hundreds of free dating sites a try is waste of time which may discourage you to find someone genuine online. So if you really intend to find someone to build a relationship, it's better you find a reputable and cheap dating site where you can meet real people.

After you decided to go with a dating site of your choice, you must keep in mind some of these simple rules for avoiding ghost profiles:

* Use a dating site with distance searching. That tremendously effects your chances.

* Before trying dating sites with millions of members, try cheap but reputable growing sites with hundreds of profiles You will have more chance to meet someone who can reply to you as these profiles will not be overwhelmed with thousands of messages everyday.

* After you sign up with the dating site, whilst searching for your dream mate, always look into the photos that may be fake, eliminate your options to a smaller pool.

* Read profiles,look for sincere and honest descriptions in their personal ads.

* If you receive a message from a too good to be true beauty especially from overseas with so much interest in you be careful with them. Look into their messages and if any part of their messages, they talk about financial problems or even if they tell you their salary honestly, run away from them as you are 90% approached by a scammer.

* Even if you exchange tens of messages with someone, never send money for plane tickets, visas, etc. as this is 99.9% scamming technique, cyber-thieves using everyday.

* After exchanging a few messages, try chatting online and/or on the phone with your match.

So these are some clues for finding a genuine match that you can try building a relationship with. Keep these rules in your mind and go with your instincts. Who knows, maybe you'll be the next success story on a decent dating site.

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Dating Service as a home-based business.

10:44:50 by Julia Dorofeeva

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There are numerous ways to utilize your computer for a home-based business. The key is in finding the right one for you.

First, consider your skills and expertise and most importantly what you enjoy doing. Remember, it’s a combination of the three that make for a winning business.

Once you decide on a business, then you’re ready to make it happen. The first thing you’ll want to do is to write everything down. All your thoughts and dreams and how you plan to achieve them. Decide on the hours you want to work, the price you want to charge, the marketing you plan to implement, the equipment and supplies required, and your goals and visions for the business. This is essential.

Next, research and read everything you can on starting your business. Find out how the pros have done it and gain from their experience. Read books, look to the Internet and find message boards and chats that relate to the area that you want to go into. These will be others who are starting a business, or who are succeeding in business, and willing to share their knowledge with you. Also, do a search on the Internet for the type of business you want to go into. This is just research, but it will help in providing you ideas for what you want to do with your business.

Get additional training if necessary. Once you decide what you want to do, then find out exactly what other skills you will need to make it possible.

With the knowledge that you now have, and with it all written down in your plan, you’re ready to take the next step in starting a business - YOUR business. (source- http://larsonconcepts.blogdrive.com/)

Certainly Dating business is a great idea for home based business.
If you wish to start a Dating business then you'll certainly need all these set up to have a good start. They say "A good beginning makes a good ending". So first of all you should be careful and predict all the difficulties that you can face. Such as for example, no people at your site though you've designed a great dating site and spent much money on advertisement. Please note that it's not only the design that makes a site profitable.
One of the most important things you should do is to do in-depth research on online dating services, statistics, the marketplace, and what users are dissatisfied with so that you can make it a strength.
(source- http://www.onlinedatingmagazine.com/columns/industry/07-startanonlinedatingservice.html)

It's evident that there's still lack of some great ideas in the Internet and if you feel that you can produce one of them, then you'll be rewarded in the nearest future. Just let other people know about your innovation and they will make "a word of mouth advertisement". This source always works perfectly especially if your site is set to be for a local community.
Being customer oriented is really important and from this point of view you can arrange a number of vote boxes or surveys on your site.

Standards usually help to create specials. Be sure to make a special service and you'll get your customers on your site. If you get any other advise feel free to post reply. That would be really helpful cause everyone designs his own strategy and each idea can turn to be profitable.

When Your Widowed Parent Re-Marries: An Adult Child's Perspective

03:27:31 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Chances are that you grew up in a two-parent family, a mom and a dad. Went to a local school, away to college, married, had children of your own. And then, tragedy struck and your mother passed away, leaving your father a widower. He has mourned his loss and, in time, while still embracing the memories of your mother, met someone new and fallen in love, ready once again to enjoy a full life, perhaps to even re-marry, and you find yourself exchanging parenting roles as you concerns are not unlike that of your parents when you dated, fell in love and eventually married. While their expectation is that you will be thrilled when your older parent finds happiness in remarriage or has someone special in his life, it is seldom that simple.

It could be that you have been protective of your parent, especially caring since he became a widower and are uncomfortable with someone else taking over your role. Or perhaps this new person is assuming the role of your much-loved deceased parent. You may perceive the new partner as competition for your parent’s time or may have difficulty thinking of your parent as a sexually active person, especially if your parent’s involvement is with a younger woman.

Although the choice of mates is solely that of your parent, he will, naturally, be influenced by your opinion, suggestions, feeling and certainly your actions. As such, be aware that the more accepting you are, the easier it will be to deal with the problems intrinsic in blending and re-blending families. You can lessen the pain of assimilating new people into family gatherings, for example, by being welcoming and flexible, with a willingness to establish new family traditions.

Often there are financial or inheritance issues that can be sticky. In this case, try seeing things differently. Try to think of your new family members as more people to love you and your family as an extended support system.

With a life of your own and different priorities than when you were younger, consider what’s really important and allow the small things to fall by the wayside. Establish weekend visits, holiday meals, occasional celebrations, perhaps vacations together in a new way. So what if your parent's choice is not ideal. Be appreciative that someone cares for your father. Consider these suggestions:

• Do try to put yourself in your parent’s shoes and consider how difficult it might be for them to be caught in an emotional tug-of-war between their new love and adult child.
• Do keep reminding yourself that your parent is an adult and has the right, and smarts, to choose their new mate.
• Don’t put your parent in the position of having to choose between your love and that of their new mate when both are important to their sense of well-being.
• Don’t discuss issues such as family inheritance, your late parent’s possessions, and your feelings of being pushed aside by their new love when angry. Try to understand where your angry feelings are coming from so that you can calmly discuss your concerns with sensitivity and caring.

Keeping the channels of communication open for discussion, dialogue and sharing of experiences requires listening, and not necessarily agreeing. Each party needs to be heard and wants to be understood. Joy is to be treasured; the challenge lies in working it out in a way that is respectful to family members. The reality is that being gracious takes less psychic time and energy, and you may indeed grow to like, even love, your parent's new spouse or partner. Family harmony often means only relatively minor-changes in long held perceptions or entirely new perspectives that genuinely reflect your own maturity.

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Australian Labor Party Wants to Block Porn Sites

01:55:40 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Under a new Labor Party plan to protect minors from viewing pornography online, ISPs will have to provide a “clean feed,” excluding websites that show extreme violence or graphic sexual material.
Current Australian law, which bans domestic Internet pornography, only applies to Australian websites. According to government statistics, 85 percent of the offensive content in the country comes from sites operating abroad.

The new proposal will seek to limit access to all offensive sites by giving the Australian Communications and Media Authority the task of categorizing questionable sites. ISPs would then consult a list of banned sites before granting Internet access.

According to the Labor Party, adults would still be allowed to opt out of the “clean feed” by contacting their ISP. However, the aim of the proposal is to help the households that lack adequate filtering.

Opposition Leader Kim Beazley believes that nearly two-thirds of Australian homes have not installed filtering software because of a lack of technical savvy or cost. In the past, Beazley called upon the government to subsidize filtering software for families.

The Labor Party believes that its proposal will be both technologically feasible and economically viable. Although, Labor did concede that negotiations with ISPs would have to take place to insure that the added costs of enforcing the plan would not be passed along to consumers.

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Make Your Relationship New Again

01:53:58 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Relationships are generally seen as our main source of support, love, self esteem, enthusiasm and pleasure. Naturally there are differences of degree and type when we look at our relationships with friends, coworkers and acquaintances versus family members or someone we are intimately involved with in a love relationship. Many seek a permanent love relationship which they'd like to last throughout their life. In theory then, we should be exerting every effort in order to nurture and to perfect those relationships.

Do we? Not usually. We may dream of the perfect relationship but actually putting in the time and effort seems beyond us as we struggle with all the details of day to day existence.

Our relationships, then, often become sources of distress, anxiety and feelings of failure when they fail to meet our needs and expectations. Potentially even more damaging, they can become a source of a deep inner rage that can poison one's life. These are some of the dimensions of relationship problems. Certainly having a problem with a relationship isn't going to doom it to failure - every relationship has its problems. We are each individual and our needs and desires vary and are sometimes in conflict.

How we deal with these inevitable problems, the effort we put in to resolve them and to allow space for our differences can determine whether a relationship succeeds or withers in misery and failure.

Would you expect to become a great athlete without work? Learning how to have, nurture and protect a love relationship is work. Unfortunately we were not born knowing how to do it and often our early experiences were less than helpful in shaping our abilities to relate. The statistics on divorce are disheartening.

To succeed in any relationship, we must make an effort to keep things intact. Taking our partner for granted, failing to see our partner as a unique and special individual is the beginning of the end. Merely hoping that things will be good is nonsense. What you do day by day to support, encourage and enrich your partner will help a relationship grow.

Too many people simply go from one "relationship" to another seeking some perfect automatic solution that simply doesn't exist. We all know the excitement of a new love, the craziness and the powerful emotions of falling in love. Some become addicted to that newness and confuse it with being in love. They expect those feelings to endure and when those feelings fade, they seek to recapture them. But the only way to truly do that is in a new relationship.

We do not see clearly, we do not know our partner as we are falling in love, To build a relationship that will last over time, the couple must move beyond falling in love toward being in love. This is a much more conscious process and requires some work and understanding. It requires an ability to share and to recognize the unique value of the other person. It requires building experiences and feelings and activities in common. All of this takes time and as time passes, we have a tendency to start taking our partner and our relationship for granted. Our responses become automatic. We hardly even see the other person any more. We have reduced everything to a dull habit.

And that is a major relationship killer. The same way you can drive a familiar route without even consciously seeing the street, the other cars, or the people on the sidewalks, your relationship turns invisible.

There's no way a short article like this can cover every aspect of building a successful relationship. Nor can it describe every problem. After all, every one of you is a unique person and your relationships all have their own unique qualities. What I want to stress is that letting your relationship turn into a routine, letting it become a habit is one of the very worst things you can do.

Look for opportunities to do new things together, explore each other's ideas and beliefs. Take your partner seriously and pay attention to everything. Force yourself to see, really see, your partner again. Regain a sense of play, fool around with each other again. Flirt and tease. Does it sound absurd? It might, but if you want a love relationship that lasts, you must make the effort. Starting right now.

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Love- About Loyalty In Love

01:53:07 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Loyalty or fidelity means devoted commitment that cannot be broken easily. To be loyal, means to adhere to all the promises made for the lifetime. To keep all the commitments made forever. Loyalty is rather a very easy word but a very laudable quality that is difficult to keep for a lot many people.

Loyalty does not consider change in circumstances. If I am loyal to my partner and my partner meets with an accident that disfigures him/her badly, does not mean that I go away to somebody better looking. If I commit to someone about my relationship and that person goes broke after sometime, does not mean that I will look for richer persons. Every situation that comes tests loyalty. In some countries the law allows you to break your marriage owes if your partner goes lunatic. But many loyal people don't break the relationship even at that time.

Every relationship rests on trust and truth. If the relationship began with lies, it can never sustain. The foundation is of lies. How truth can grow from the seed of lie? The first need or requirement of going in a long-term relationship is to be truthful in all respects. Fooling others into believing untruths is a sin.

Once you have decided to and committed loyalty, you should never break it under any circumstances. There can be no excuse for that. By doing any such act, we hurt the other partner who believed in us, and we hurt ourselves by becoming an unfaithful and unreliable person. We lose our self-esteem totally after that. Once that happens, the path is only downhill, all the way to hell. Love and loyalty go together.How can we be disloyal in love? That is an impossible thought.

To love and to be loved is a blessing. To break that by being disloyal is sinning against goodness and God. If by any chance one does an act of disloyalty, one must immediately confess and ask for forgiveness. Will the relationship ever remain same after this act of disloyalty? No. Unless one is lucky to have an extra ordinary partner, the relationship will never remain the same. Better to be a loyal and truthful person always.

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5 Signs That You Have Found the “Right One”!

08:58:06 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Nancy is 38 and has been dating Barry for a year now and is wondering if he is the one for her. She would like to be married with a family and is starting to think about if she should break up with Barry. My advice is that if she isn’t sure, then it is not right. This is why. Of the couples I have interviewed, they expressed having these signs about their mates they married:

1. There is a feeling of “home”.

There is a sense of comfort, and a familiarity. The word recognition comes up as knowing that this person is the one. It’s like you have known the person your whole life. It’s so easy to talk to one another.

2. There is a Flow.

The relationship has ease. The couples finish each other’s sentences. Time just flies when you are with the right person. Yes, relationships take work, but this is joyous work. The concept of flow is true for both in and out of the bedroom!

3. You are able to laugh together and have fun.

You enjoy being with each other and get each other’s jokes. You may not have exactly the same humor, but you at least crack a smile. My husband and I both blew straw wrappings at each other like kids! It’s okay to be silly with this person. The couple has fun doing activities together and has some similar interests.

4. You are each other’s best friend.

There is a sense of trust and loyalty. You are know your partner will be there for you through thick and thin and can be counted on. You want to share everything with this person- the good and the bad stuff. You are always excited to see that person walk in the door.

5. You both act in a “we” way rather than a “me” way.

The couple makes decisions that the benefit the relationship instead of only the individual. You share life goals and work together towards them together. You care about how your actions affect the other.

When all these signs are in place, then it is natural to want to take the next step towards marriage. The only things that would stop the progress in a relationship would be one or both of their internal fears and external circumstances.

When Nancy realized that several of these signs were missing in her current relationship, she became clear that she needed to move on and find someone better suited to her rather than hoping that things would change in her present situation. This wasn’t the easy path, but she was determined not to settle for anything less.

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Will You Survive a Relationship Breakdown?

08:57:28 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Relationships connect us in this world with each other. We have many kinds of relationships-parental, sibling, friends, professional and love. We go through many phases in all these relationships. Ups and downs are part of our life and our relationships. Most of us can bear break down in most of the above relationships except those of love. Why? Who will survive a breakdown in romantic relationship and who will get shattered? Let us discuss.

The higher the attraction, the higher will be the shock. The closer you are, the break up will give you more shock. It is very simple equation. But let us remember that life is not made of equations and emotions do not behave mathematically. So it all boils down to personality. There are some who expect the relationship to break sooner or later. They are pessimists and call themselves practical. These people are never surprised if the relationship breaks. They may wonder about the reasons but will not suffer trauma.

On the other extreme, we have some people who believe that they are made for each other and that the relationship, the loyalty and the faithfulness will last for the life and if possible beyond. This is the vulnerable class. If by bad fate, they are ditched by the partner, they will suffer very bad trauma. They will never believe that this could ever happen and all their life they will spend wondering how it happened. Their faith in their partner is absolute. They trust their partners most and for them the shock of the broken trust is unbearable. They need psychiatric help. Hopefully with professional help they may recover. But at times the trauma is uncontrollable. They lose their faith in life and everyone else. The betrayal kills their inner core and the will to carry on. If you are one such type, please go into any relationship with the awareness that your partner may not be as honest as he/she looks.

Relationship is a beautiful feeling and a wonderful experience. One tends the relationship as one cares for a tender plant. One gives ones whole being to the relationship. The breakdown therefore becomes unbearable. Sometime I feel that the world is for people who are practical and never allow their heart to rule over their mind.

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Online Dating Attracts Older Daters

08:04:38 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Susan Gladstone‘s moment came when she turned 50. Divorced, with two children, she was getting tired of asking friends to fix her up and being told they just couldn‘t think of anyone. And so, she turned to online dating.

Gladstone is part of a growing trend: people in their 50s and beyond searching the Internet for romance, companionship, sometimes marriage. As in any age group, there are ups and downs. There‘s the old stale-photo trick (it‘s him, but 20 years and 30 pounds ago), or the date who asks right away how much money you have, or the ones who say how fabulous you are and then disappear. Still, many older online daters say that even if they haven‘t found true love — yet — it‘s been worthwhile.

The main reason more mature singles are going online for love is simple: more widespread access to the Internet, hence more familiarity with online dating. And dating sites are catering to older members. Yahoo Personals, for example, has an advice column for users over 50, with tips — on everything from etiquette to sexual health — for those whose romantic radar may be a tad rusty.

Match.com, another large online dating site, says boomers (which it defines as ages 45-59) are its fastest growing segment — they‘ve increased by at least 350 percent since 2000, and now number 3 million — or 22 percent of total users. Spokesperson Kristin Kelly says older users tend to be much clearer and more realistic about what they want: "There‘s no substitute for the wisdom gained with age."

Polley‘s work takes her around the globe — Africa, Europe, the Caribbean. "It would be wonderful to share that with someone," she says. Aside from intelligence and flexibility, she looks for wit and humor. Physical appearance is less important. (Surprise! Surveys say appearance is more important to male users.)

Rudy DiLieto is one of the rarer ones: At 51, he‘s never married. "I wish I had an explanation for that," he says. A New Yorker who works in the fashion industry, he figures he simply enjoyed his independence too much over the years. Now, though, he‘s more inclined for something serious: "I am looking for that one last romance," his profile reads.

The only downside, DiLieto says, is when people misrepresent themselves — as in the old-photo trick. "Why lie?" he asks. "It‘s illogical." One woman a few years back told DiLieto that if she‘d given her real age and weight, he wouldn‘t have called her. His answer? "That‘s correct."

Balash, who‘s divorced, says a friend described online dating well: "The odds are good, but the goods are odd." At this age, he explains, "you have a lot of people where there‘s a REASON they‘re not in relationships." He also bemoans the lack of common courtesy that comes with a medium as anonymous as the Internet. "People can be flaky. They don‘t call you back, they don‘t show up for a coffee date." And there‘s another problem with dating in Los Angeles, Balash finds: an excessive emphasis on material wealth.

Of course, it‘s all a question of chemistry. The spark you perceived during countless e-mail chats can simply fizzle upon meeting the person in the flesh.

And for Balash, there was the moment he suspected his coffee date was a transsexual.

"You could tell from the hands," he said.

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Will You Survive a Relationship Breakdown?

08:00:29 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Relationships connect us in this world with each other. We have many kinds of relationships-parental, sibling, friends, professional and love. We go through many phases in all these relationships. Ups and downs are part of our life and our relationships. Most of us can bear break down in most of the above relationships except those of love. Why? Who will survive a breakdown in romantic relationship and who will get shattered? Let us discuss. The higher the attraction, the higher will be the shock. The closer you are, the break up will give you more shock. It is very simple equation. But let us remember that life is not made of equations and emotions do not behave mathematically. So it all boils down to personality. There are some who expect the relationship to break sooner or later. They are pessimists and call themselves practical. These people are never surprised if the relationship breaks. They may wonder about the reasons but will not suffer trauma. On the other extreme, we have some people who believe that they are made for each other and that the relationship, the loyalty and the faithfulness will last for the life and if possible beyond. This is the vulnerable class. If by bad fate, they are ditched by the partner, they will suffer very bad trauma. They will never believe that this could ever happen and all their life they will spend wondering how it happened. Their faith in their partner is absolute. They trust their partners most and for them the shock of the broken trust is unbearable. They need psychiatric help. Hopefully with professional help they may recover. But at times the trauma is uncontrollable. They lose their faith in life and everyone else. The betrayal kills their inner core and the will to carry on. If you are one such type, please go into any relationship with the awareness that your partner may not be as honest as he/she looks. Relationship is a beautiful feeling and a wonderful experience. One tends the relationship as one cares for a tender plant. One gives ones whole being to the relationship. The breakdown therefore becomes unbearable. Sometime I feel that the world is for people who are practical and never allow their heart to rule over their mind. Article Source: http://www.ArticleSphere.com

Friendship - Do You Value?

07:59:19 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Friendship is a gift of God. Some of us are blessed with good friends. But as it happens, these friendships are taken for granted in some cases and not valued. It is similar to a case of two couples. Say one has no child even after many years of marriage and the other has many children, more than they can manage. What do you think? Will the couple with many children value the children as much as the couple which has none? Everything is relative in life. We value what we don't have and give less valuable to what is freely available with us. Friendship is one such relationship.Why should we value friendships? What qualities does a good friend bring in our relationship that makes the friendship so valuable? Let us examine some of these.

Judgment - a good friend is rarely judgmental. We can be open in our behavior with our good friends because we know that they will not judge us. We can enjoy this freedom only with friends. It is nothing short of a blessing, because with other people our actions and behavior are always calculated and guarded and that takes away lot of pleasure from our life.

Share Sorrow and losses - A friend can be depended upon to share all our problems and sorrows. This sharing may not reduce the impact of loss but helps us to unburden ourselves. This is no small gift of friendship. Once I saw the image of a man left alone in the village after an earthquake. The whole villages got killed except this man. With who, will this man share his sorrow? A friend gives us this gift.

Hope - During our times of trouble, only a friend comes forward and gives us encouragement and hope. With that inspiration one begins afresh. At times in life when we feel totally devastated and hopeless, and when our self-esteem reaches a big low, a friend helps us regain confidence in ourselves.

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Back to Reality...

00:59:32 by Julia Dorofeeva

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To understand how to build and/or run a good online dating service, it’s vitally important to first understand the industry.

If you’re thinking about breaking into the industry, here are a few things to consider: http://www.onlinedatingmagazine.com/columns/industry/01-onlinedatingindustry.html

A Look at the Five Different Types of Online Dating Service

00:56:15 by Julia Dorofeeva

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The online dating industry is a very competitive marketplace as more than one thousand dating services compete for market share. But unlike Abraham Lincoln's famous "All Men Are Created Equal" speech, not all online dating services are created equal.

At the moment there are five different types of online dating services. Today we'll explore these different types of services.

Read more: http://www.onlinedatingmagazine.com/columns/industry/06-typesofonlinedatingservices.html

So... You Wanna Start an Online Dating Service

00:55:21 by Julia Dorofeeva

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I had the opportunity yesterday to interact with someone via email who is looking to start a new online dating service. But there was something different about this gentleman. He had all of his t's crossed and i's dotted. He has a background in marketing and it showed in his email because he was listing specific marketing concepts he had to make his service work. Then he asked me for my brutal honest opinion. I gave it. And it was a positive response, despite our estimation that 99% of new online dating services fail.

Read more: http://www.onlinedatingmagazine.com/columns/industry/07-startanonlinedatingservice.html

The Irresistible Power of Dating Other Women

00:45:40 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Variety Brings Spice to Life!

I have decided to bring upfront this important aspect of the dating scenario - multiple choices of women that lie ahead of all of us. This should be one of your primary priority area of consideration - because it is under your control if you so decide.

There happens to be existing a bit of dichotomy in this dating game - mostly created by women themselves. For your understanding, I want to break the existing myth - women do not like men dating more than one man. Did I hear someone say - Monogamous?

So many times I have heard some one say something on similar lines: - This one’s made just for me. - I knew she should be just right for me - I know my soul mate, when I see one - God, help me, I don’t want to lose her

The lists of such exclamations are endless. A man meets a woman, finds her extremely beautiful and desirable, and then goes and spoils it all by idolizing her. He instantly puts her on a pedestal and from then on his entire world revolves around her.

What a waste, what a mistake!

This kind of infatuation and fixation is a sure no-no for women. It kills any sense of excitement and thrill expected to exist in a budding relationship. Let me take you through a discussion, where I analyze WHY you should keep on seeing other women, even if you have your eyes fixed on one.

1. Attitude and confidence - Open other windows

When you are “fixed” or “stuck” with only one woman, you immediately shut out any buffer zone - or the comfort zone, which all of us need, in case something goes seriously wrong. In case she gets you out of her life - you spend the next few miserable months, or even years, thinking what is it that you said wrong, did wrong or hurt her unintentionally. Remember that song of the Beatles - Yesterday? You keep on longing for that single Yesterday.

Since you have pinned all your hopes, aspirations and dreams on one solitary woman, you have lost all your sense of balance and proportion. Our inherent “fear of loss” arises out of the belief that there are “no options” anymore. This is it. The moment you realize - O my God, so many women, so little time, your spirit automatically lifts up sky high. As a natural consequence, you will relax, learn to be calm and collected in your deportment. You no longer fear any one, now, isn’t that a wonderful feeling?

2. Perspective and comparison - Compare, Contrast, Consider

If you start believing that the single woman who you have selected is the end all and be all of life, how are you going to assess her unless you know some other women too? You need to draw some kind of standard parameter guidelines, by which you can weigh the attraction level and find rationality for your feelings. If you have nothing else to compare her with, how will you ever know the millions of alternative behavioral norms that even exist?

3. Perceived value - Women’ envy, Owners’ pride!

Women go for the Jones’s. Whatever the neighbor (in this case read it as other women) has, I must have it too. Right from jewellery, clothes, perfume to men! A man who is popular, talked about, seen everywhere and goes around with another woman, well, what is he like, is there any chance for me? Make a beeline for him! Join the race. A man who is WANTED. Who you see at the pub is ordinary, within reach. The “unconquered” triggers the killer instinct.

4. The Obsessive Self-destruct - Killing You Softly

Any sort of compulsion results in hasty, unrealistic and destructive decisions. The moment the world of choices open up, you automatically cease to show any compulsive behavior. The essence of this message is that you see and date as many women as there are available, till you meet the most promising one and it should be YOU who take the final call and NOT the woman!

5. Don’t let her feel “tied” down too early

Women hate to be treated exclusively right from the word go. Even if your intention is a temporary liaison, she gets a wrong signal. She immediately concludes that you are intent on a serious monogamous relationship. Now her pace and sense of rhythm does not allow this. The whole episode then becomes full of disharmony.

So the take home is message is this: Keep your options open. Keep all windows open. Date as many women as you like, more so, if you have located the woman of your dreams. Do not over-indulge or spoil everything by idolizing her. To keep her interests alive, see other women. It pays, both in the short and long run.

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Network Marketing and Online Dating The Next Internet Phenomena

04:52:57 by Julia Dorofeeva

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The power of network marketing combine with the online dating industry is a combination that can’t be missed. Over 1,000 firms use this distribution model and it drives sales of over $50 billion annually in the marketplace.

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Fort Wayne,IN (PRWEB) March 18, 2006 -- For network marketers, the future looks very bright indeed, because there are economic trends already in process that will drive more and more people to participate in this business in the years ahead.

People Want More Freedom. Gone are the days when a person takes a job at age 25 and stays there for life, doing as he's told to keep that job secure. Today, people want to be more mobile and have more choices. They want the freedom to live their lives on their own terms.

A part-time network marketing business offers people more control over their lives; ultimately, it provides more freedom. It provides a low-cost-of-entry, ready-made system for those anxious to make a change.

The power of network marketing combine with the online dating industry is a combination that can’t be missed. Over 1,000 firms use this distribution model and it drives sales of over $50 billion annually in the marketplace. Online dating is one of the fastest, if not the fastest growing industry on the Internet today. Fox news reported that celebrities are dabbling in the online dating Scene, such as, Halle Barry “I am never who I am,” Berry told Contact Music in July about her experiences online. “I have been to a couple of dating ones just to see what everybody is talking about. I chime in and say a little fun stuff." In the US alone one half of the adult population is single. Statistics show that in the US there were 45 million visitors in 2004 most with 2+ subscriptions to dating sites. With the added Phenomena of Social networking just beginning to flourish the timing is perfect for a Network Marketing twist.

With nutritional products saturating the marketplace this opportunity will have serious marketers salivating at the mouth. Not to say that those products don’t work, it’s just that in my opinion the service of online dating as a product, is a unique niche. With no monthly product auto ships to make, a distributor can focus on the core of their business, Building Leaders.

UltimateMatch is the company that brings these two industries together. Stephen R. Smith is the Chairman, Founder, President and CEO of UltimateMatch. He was the co-founder of Excel communications and responsible for the marketing plan that propelled the once unknown start-up into a $1.4 billion company in just over seven years. Excel became one of the largest telecommunications companies in the United States and was the youngest company to ever go public on the New York Stock Exchange. Steve has applied his expertise and phenomenal success in the network marketing industry to personally mastermind the marketing plan that has UltimateMatch positioned to become the market leader in the online dating industry.

Imagine getting paid for sharing this opportunity with people. No matter how good or bad the economy gets, there will always be people that are single! Imagine getting paid immediate cash income combined with a residual income month after month, year after year. The best part is, your own personal website does all of the work! Young or old, married or single, employed or not, this program can work for anyone.

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4 Steps To Finding Joy In Your Relationships

04:46:23 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Usually we enter relationships hoping they will make us happy. We hope that this person is the right one, that we aren’t repeating mistakes of the past, and that finally we will receive the love, support, companionship and admiration we have been waiting for. Each person has a shopping list of hopes and expectations, secret demands he/she is making of their partner and of relationship. When those are fulfilled, and continue being fulfilled, they are then willing to say that they have found a good relationship and they are happy Although this is kind of approach to relationships is normal and common, it usually brings disappointment. It fails to take into account some very crucial truths about our human nature, and what we really need to find on-going contentment and joy.

To begin, happiness is always fleeting. It comes and goes. It has to. Happiness depends upon circumstances. When things go well, we are happy. When we get what we want we feel cared for and understood. These moments are lovely - we cherish them in memory. The only wrong with this kind of happiness is when we depend upon things going our way in order to feel good about ourselves and our relationships.

Joy is different. It doesn’t come and go. It doesn’t depend upon outer circumstances. When things are difficult, our hopes are not fulfilled, it is still possible to feel joyful. Joy arises from within. It is an attitude of mind that can be developed and nurtured. It represents growth from being a child, wanting to be taken care of and admired, to an adult, able to take responsibility for their lives. Joy is not reactive. It is a positive decision we have made about ourselves and the world we live in. It is our unique response to life, which has been carefully developed.

In order to find joy in our lives and our relationships, certain things have to be developed and others to be relinquished. A famous saying describes this beautifully, it says, “When we are children we play with toys. When we grow up, we want the real thing.” The real thing is joy. In a sense joy is a practice. It is based upon actions taken, a way of being with oneself and others. There are steps we can practice daily. Joy is a decision we make each day. Here are some steps you can practice to find joy in your relationships.

l) Give Up Blaming The Other Person.

It is very easy to find things disappointing about the person you are in a relationship with. When we are upset, we attribute it to their behavior. This is putting our well being in another’s hands. It is one of the most significant ways we destroy our joy. It is also one of the most significant ways we undermine the other person. Realize that no one made you their judge and jury. Each person has the right to be who they are at this moment. If you are upset that is your response, it does not necessarily mean that something is wrong with them. Realize that you are creating your own unhappiness by blaming and disapproving of them. Give it up. Just observe their behavior. Get to know them. This does not mean you have to stay in the relationship but you have not been put on this earth to fix them. Say to yourself, they have a right to be who they are, and I have a right also. This is their life they are leading.

In fact, it is your own expectations which have disappointed you. When we do not put heavy expectations on the other, but are willing to discover who they are, blame dissolves more easily.

2) Learn The Art Of True Giving

There is a huge difference between really giving to another, and giving so you can get something back in return. Giving to get something back is nothing more than manipulation, and quickly kills our joy. Joy is based upon true giving. It is then impossible to be upset or sad. The giving itself is its own return. True giving means, giving with no strings attached. Giving something to the person that they need, not something that pleases you. Think of them, not yourself. Some fear to give, feeling that they will be drained or stripped bare. The opposite is true. The more we give, the more we have. We have a sense of fullness, out of which grows joy. There are many things that can be given besides physical objects – give time, attention, acknowledgment, let the other be right about something. Become sensitive to what a person is really needing, so they can receive it easily.

Practice giving freely. Do it in little steps at first. Let the car behind you pass you, let the person go first at the check out counter. Give someone a hand with their bags, open the door for someone at a building. Practice being there for another. The more you do it, the more your joy will grow.

3) Learn How To Really Listen

There is no better way of giving to another than by really listening to them. Most of the time we listen, but do not hear what is being said. Listening involves getting out of your own thoughts and truly being there with the other. It means stopping the little voice inside that always comments, or thinks about what it is going to say next. It means becoming quiet and available. This is an enormous gift you are giving. In fact, to many, being really listened to feels like being loved. So, when you are listening to another, be aware of your own inner voice that wants to fight, to answer, to correct or comment. Allow that voice to subside. Place all your attention upon the other Give them the time and space to express all that is inside. You will be amazed at how the people around you will start opening up. You will also be amazed at how joyful your own life will become.

4)Stop Wanting To Change The Other Person

One of our biggest upsets is caused by our desire to fix or change the other person. One person feels they cannot love unless that person changes. The other feels hurt, inadequate and as though something is wrong with them. So often we hear the phrase, if you loved me enough you would change. But true love is the ability to love the person as they are, (including the parts of them that may not please you). A person has not been put on earth to please you, or make you happy. They have been put here to grow, develop and discover who they are. The best way to help them change is through acceptance of who they are at this moment.(This does not mean supporting destructive behavior, it means allowing the person to go through what they have to and make changes for themselves.) The odd thing is that the less we push and disapprove of another, the more they are able to change themselves.

Basically it is necessary to realize that as we are, right now at this moment, we are lovable and acceptable. Now is the best time to give and receive acceptance. And, of course, the more love and acceptance we can offer, the more we experience joy. Cc/author/2006

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A Case for Dating via the Internet

04:45:50 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Believe it or not, there are some men and women who have not ventured into internet dating yet. By not exploring this avenue, these people are missing an important avenue for meeting wonderful men and women like themselves that are having a hard time meeting someone decent to date through more traditional means and their normal daily activities.

A coaching client, Sally* is a 40 year old woman who has n.ever married and was having no luck meeting appropriate men. She is a shy woman who dreaded s.ingles events and “putting herself out there”. So I encouraged her to explore her perspectives on dating on the internet.

“It’s scary out there” came up first. She was afraid of the unknown and the “crazies” that she would encounter during her search. Also, she was afraid of any undesirable types who contacted her. I told her that it was a possibility that some unstable people where on the net, however, the process of weeding out by scrutinizing emails and talking to them on the ph.one would screen out most men she would felt uncomfortable with.

“What other perspective on internet dating comes up for you?”, I asked her. She hesitated. Then I continued with, “What would your mother think of you trying internet dating?” She laughed and said her mother would say, “What do you have to l.ose by trying?” “What would that look like?” I encouraged her further. “It’s kind of like the nothing ventured, nothing gained perspective”.

Then, I went one step further, “What would your best friend say about you trying internet dating?” “Oh that is easy, she would tell me to go for it!” Sally went on, “Also, there’s a whole world out there for me to explore.” She continued to tell me that “Go for it” perspective felt as though it was possible to meet someone this way and that it was hopeful.

“What could be fun about dating on the internet?” I asked. “Well, I could meet interesting people, do interesting things and go interesting places.” “So would you say that this would be the It’s fun out there perspective for internet dating?” “Yes, I could see that”, she confirmed.

Then, a negative thought (a gremlin) came to Sally immediately. “Aren’t only desperate men dating via the internet?” she expressed as a concern. We then went on to explore why someone would be dating using the internet. We came up with the following positive reasons:

1. These men may be time constrained due to demanding jobs and family obligations and don’t have much time for traditional ways of meeting women such as singles events and activities.

2. Men like convenience. This is an easy way to meet appropriate women to date.

3. Men like to be efficient. The internet provides an efficient use of their time and m.oney. You can go to a s.ingles event and not meet anyone. You have just spent your time and your m.oney without any results! Your chances seem better of actually going on dates.

4. The internet provides a lot of information that you don’t get when meeting someone at a bar or a s.ingles event. It weeds through the chit chat.

5. You get to engage with someone and get to know them through emails and ph.one calls before you meet them. Therefore, physical chemistry does not become the only factor for wanting to meet someone.

6. Internet dating is a one on one vehicle. It is not like some of these meat market s.ingles events where you are standing around with dozens of other women around.

7. The internet is great for shy people who don’t have an easy time at parties and group events.

8. The internet is actively being used by all ages n.ow, especially those 55 years and under.

After we brainstormed and uncovered these reasons for trying internet dating, Sally seemed ready to give the internet a try. Then, one last gremlin came up for her!

“It all sounds good, but this may take too much time for me” Sally said. “How much time could you give to this activity during the week?” I countered. “A couple of hours a week” she offered. “How many hours are you willing to commit to spending on internet dating a week?” I asked firmly as her coach. She was willing to commit to 3 hours a week.

“And what perspective do you want to take on as you go forward with this venture?” I encouraged further. “I want to take on the go for it perspective”, she answered. “I know you will go for it and you will be courageous about it!” was my acknowledgement for my client that ended our session.

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Can You Really Trust The Person You Are Dating Online?

04:45:04 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Heather is a 42 year old American lady.Divorced with two children,she decided to try online dating to possibly get a new partner.

She signed up with one of the popular dating sites and set up a profile.The anonymity and security of online dating appealed to her and she hoped it would work out for her.

In a matter of days, she was contacted by a man who also claimed to be looking for a love relationship.The man was handsome,also divorced and in his mid-forties. He claimed to be an engineer living in the United States, but was sent on an assignment by his company to Nigeria.

They began to chat and exchange mails, and soon began a relationship online.He sent flowers to her from time to time, sent poems everday, called her up twice a day. Heather felt that she had finally found the man of her dreams. Surely,this was the perfect relationship that she had wanted since her divorce. Here was a man who was caring and who showed it. She readily agreed to his proposal when he called her over the phone and asked her to marry him. They began to make plans to get married as soon as he returned to the United States.

Heather felt all was going on well with their plans until he made a distress call.He had been involved in a road accident and had been hospitalized. Could she help out with some money to pay the bills? Well,she did help. A sequence of events followed afterwards. Weeks later, she discovered that the man she had fallen in love with was not the real person she had thought he was.She had just been taken by the newest form of online scams that is just showing up--the romance or dating scam.

She was heartbroken.She had lost thousands of dollars to this man.She was behind on her mortgage and was in debt to the bank. But painful as the experience was,it could not be compared to the emotional pain that she had to go through.

It would take many months before she would get over the whole experience, which she described as a nightmare. Heather is not the only one that is a victim of this new form of scam.Many thousands of people online are losing millions of dollars monthly to these scams. But due to the secretive nature of the internet, most people that have been scammed this way are either too embarassed or ashamed to talk about their experience. In a particular finding, 145 men and women reported that they lost over $1 million in two months in 2005. In that same finding, thousands of people refused to disclose any information about their losses.

The worst aspect of these scams has been the emotional pains the victims have had to go through.
Many of the victims I talked with reported that it took them many months before they could get back to their normal life.

A lady told me that she cried for many nights after she realized that she had been scammed. She had thought she had the ideal lover,and had become so emotionally attached to him. Realizing that it was all a lie was devastating to her. The fact that she had been in deep love with a fake person was what pained her the most.

This is the same experience as many of the victims I related with have had.The effects of the scams have had so much of a devastating effect on them all. Medical doctors, lawyers,paralegals and other professionals have been known to lose money to these scams just as housewives, students, factory workers and other low-income earners have. The scams are no respecter of status or race. Not even religious people have been spared from this growing menace.

Till this moment, thousands of people are out there trying to get over these scams. But even as those who have been scammed are trying to get on with their lives, many more thousands are being set up for a scam right now.

Online dating has come to stay with us all, and many people have found true love through this avenue. Online dating has produced many successful love stories. It is a medium that if properly used, with the right education, can be a means of bringing love into the lives of many.

However, it is apparent that it is also increasingly being used for the wrong purposes. Given the high success rate of the scams however, the best way to deal with them is to educate yourself about them.

You need to learn how to separate the wheat from the chaff. Knowing the methods that the scammers use will help you not to fall for their antics. You will be able to know what to do to protect yourself and still be able to date succesfully. The more educated you are, the more you can prevent the scams from happening to you.

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The Single’s Guide To Online Dating Fun

04:44:37 by Julia Dorofeeva

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If you’re single and you’re willing to try out new avenues to dating then you should try out online dating. It’s definitely fun, less expensive and easier than dating the regular way. You’re also able to meet more people since the Internet lets you talk to people from all over the world! With online dating, there’s no need to restrict yourself to dating the same old guys from your very small town (read: population of 817). With online dating, there’s no such thing as social classes because it’s open to everyone!
The Virtual Places To Be For Online Dating – If you’re now open to the idea of online dating, there are several cyber places that you could stop by and see if there’s anyone who appeals to your taste. First stop would be the online dating sites.
These sites were primarily designed to help people meet others with the same interests as theirs and maybe forge a relationship later on. Online dating sites such as these require you to register for membership and maybe even pay to enjoy additional features of the website.

Then, these online dating sites would ask you to create a profile for your own so that other members would know a little about you. These profiles could be the key to catching the interest of your future Mr. or Ms. Right so make sure that you make your profile as interesting as possible – without lying about anything, of course. Most online dating sites also allow you to upload photos of yourself so if you’re reasonably attractive, do make sure that you post your best picture.

The second place that allows you to date online is chat rooms such as those provided by MIRC or Yahoo. These chat rooms are usually divided or categorized according to region, race or interest. If you enter a chat room with the name Singles20-40, then you should expect to meet people belonging to that age group. It’s imperative to choose a chat room that reflects your preferences to ensure that you’ll meet people who are probably similar to you in terms of interests.

The third virtual place to be if you want to try online dating is forums or interactive websites. By joining a forum or registering for membership in an interactive website, you’ll be able to meet people who are sure to share the same interests as you do. These forums usually hold regular meetings so make sure that you participate actively and get yourself known!.

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How To Find The Best Dating Site For Yourself

04:43:43 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Which dating site? With thousands of dating sites all over the web like adult matchmaker or red hot pie in Australia popping up everyday, finding the best dating site for you can be overwhelming. This article will give you some tips on how to test the sites and find the good ones.

Side bar: This article is not about touting certain websites. It is about helping make your search easier by letting you know what to look for, and narrowing the field down to one or two good sites.

There are two common ways to select a dating site. One is to follow the advice of a friend or family member. Not a bad way, but also error-prone. Remember we are talking about the best dating site for you.

The second, and recommended, option is to do some good old fact-finding through research. Don’t panic, this article is about making it easier on you.

What Is the Best Dating Site?

The best dating site is not the biggest, nor the most features-laden. The best dating site is the one that best fits who you are or matches your personality/need(s).

Types of Dating Sites

There are, basically, three types of dating sites:

1. Popular or General

2. Specialty or Niche

3. Community or Special Interest

Now let’s now briefly describe each for a better understanding:

1. Popular or general dating sites: These Cater to the general public and all ages, ethnic groups, religions, sexual orientations etc. Usually they will have huge databases, often running to the tens of millions of members.

2. Specialty or niche dating sites: These cater to specific interests such as religion, ethnicity, age groups etc. Their members have something in common.

3. Community or special interest dating sites: These are similar to specialty or niche sites (#2 above), but cater to even narrower interests. Examples; Catholic (not “Christian”), swingers (not “adult”), Filipino (not “Asian”)… you get the picture.

So, which way to go? The first step towards success in finding the best dating site is to be clear on what you are looking for. You do know yourself, don’t you?

If you have some online dating experience, consider specialty or community sites. But if just starting out, your best bet is to go with popular/general dating sites. Why?

Because popular dating sites serve most interests and you’ll get faster results. This will give you some experience as well as a feel of the features. Subsequently, this helps build your confidence while also learning online dating “lingo” and sub-culture.

What to Look For In a Dating Site

The top ten things to consider when selecting a dating site are:

1. The number of profiles: Online dating is a numbers game. The larger the database the better your chance of meeting the right person.

2. Features: These include search and safety.

3. You should be able to search by age and gender as well as height, hair color, vocation etc. if this is important to you.

4. Privacy: Most high-popularity dating sites provide you with an email address specifically for online dating.

5. Availability of chat rooms and private chat rooms so you may talk with your prospect(s) once a contact has been initiated. Web video would be an additional benefit.

6. Some top-rated dating sites will alert you when someone has responded to your email or expressed interest in contacting you. Not the most important feature but nice to have all the same.

7. relationship intentions: The site should cater to the kind of relationship you seek.

8. Location: The site should have a sufficient number of members in your geographical area, especially if you are not for long distance relationships.

9. Detailed profiles: If a site allows members to skimp on details about themselves, chances are they are doing it. This makes it a mere photo contest.

10. Cost: Don’t just go for the cheapest or free sites (there’s a price to pay for that), but if they are way above average they should give a very good for this.

Signing Up for a Free Trial

Having narrowed your search to one or two dating sites using the above guidelines, it is not time to commit yet. It is time to sign up for a trial run, which most highly popular dating sites offer. Make sure it is a real trial run and not just a tour. What’s the difference?

A tour is just that, a tour. You get to browse pictures of seemingly (may I add unrealistic) happy couples who have “found” happiness using that particular dating site. Don’t buy into this. It is crap and a complete waste of time.

A trial run lets you enjoy most of the site’s features without paying, for a period of time. But note that the trial is geared towards getting you to become a paid member; therefore you’ll get a teaser here and there. Just stick to the trial till it’s over.

Take full advantage of the trial run. This means initiating as many contacts as you possibly can. And post your photo immediately on sign-up. The point is to find out if the dating site is a good fit for your personality.

When the trial period ends, be ready to sign up for full membership or opt out. If you opt out, take heart that at least you didn’t waste your money or time. And you now have some experience. Find another site and do another test. The best dating site for you is out there waiting to be discovered.

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How Design Fits Into Building A Good Dating Site

05:13:31 by Julia Dorofeeva

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What is a good web design? How does hiring a professional web designer help? These are questions I have been asked on numerous occasions. The best way to answer these questions is to explain why you need a good web designer.

To build a professional web site you require a professional design. A professional designer, whether they are from web design company, firm, agency or freelance, needs to be able to display a portfolio of their work. This portfolio should inspire you, allowing you to see what your web site can be.

While building the web design, your chosen designer should:

Understand the business you are in.
The web designer should understand the business you are in so that they can tailor the design toward your business. This can be accomplished by meeting several times with the designer to talk about your requirements and help them to understand your business

Build an initial design using a graphic tool.
The web designer should build the initial design in a tool like Photoshop. This will allow you to view the design and make any desired changes.

Revise the design.
The web designer should be able to work with you through several versions of the design to get it just the way you want it.

Once you are happy with the design, the next step is implementation. If you have chosen a web design company, firm or agency, they will have on staff people that can implement your chosen design.

If you have hired a freelance web designer, you can always hire a freelance web developer. A professional web developer should be able to take a well developed web design, and turn it into a professional web site.

After following this simple plan you should have a professional web site, without the headaches of building a site without a design.

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Dating firms fight gender-price bill

02:27:02 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Two major online dating services have hired an influential Liberal lobbyist to stop legislation that would outlaw gender-based price discrimination.

Lavalife and Quest, two Toronto-based firms, have hired Hill and Knowlton vice-president Bob Lopinski, a former adviser to Premier Dalton McGuinty, to kill Bill 9, a private member's bill by Liberal Lorenzo Berardinetti that would bar retailers from charging men or women different prices for essentially the same goods and services.

The dating services charge men for their phone service, while women get it for free.

A brief sent to politicians by Hill and Knowlton warns the firms "will be forced to leave Ontario" if the bill passes.

Lavalife employs 320 people and has annual revenues of about $90 million. Quest has 170 employees and annual revenues nearing $75 million.

"Why they would need to leave Ontario: Because their servers and call centres are located in Ontario, there is strong reason to fear that Bill 9 would apply not just to their Ontario customers, but to all of their transactions around the world," the brief says.

"Both Lavalife and Quest charge men for using their phone service while providing women with free access. This is the standard industry practice worldwide."

Berardinetti said he was taken aback that the firms had hired a big-gun lobbyist.

"I was a little bit surprised by that, because I really didn't think the issue was really about Lavalife (or online dating)," he said.

"I thought the issue was about fairness and about gender-based pricing when it comes to areas like haircuts and dry-cleaning and alterations to suits and so on.

"For example if a woman spends 20 minutes to get her hair done and if a man spends 20 minutes to get his hair done, the price should be roughly the same for the same kind of work."

Based on consumer law in California, Berardinetti's bill -- inspired by his wife, Michelle -- would use the Ontario Human Rights Code to impose fines of as much as $5,000 on offending firms.

"We're not trying to put anybody out of business. We're just telling them to operate fairly," he said.

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Online Dating Tips! Finding A Date Online Is All About Your Approach

02:24:53 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Singles all over the world are looking for other avenues to find love, and with our online dating tips, you will be one step closer to meeting your future partner and possible soul mate!

My dating tips are not rocket science, and I will not offer you 100 ways to meet your mate. The advice that I will be offering you is simple and common sense tips that many singles should already know, or after reading this article, should understand what it takes to meet someone special online.

We already know that love is complex, and is based on many physical and emotional attributes. When you start getting involved in online matchmaking and sites that offer relationships services, you have to realize that there are certain elements that are not present while you’re dating online.

One major element that is not available as you start to search for your match is the physical contact, and I’m not talking about sexual contact, I’m thinking more on the line of eye contact, innocent touching, and also character influence. If you’re wondering what I mean about character influence, I will explain this further to you.

Attracting The Opposite Sex Is All About Your Unique Character Influences!

How many times have you met someone that you were interested in and later started to have feelings due to their unique character traits. This is common, and for many people that are currently in successful relationships will agree with me that the person they fell in love with have certain character influences.

To expand on this, the individuals that you have dated in the past may have had that certain look in their eye, unique laugh, or humorous they had that personality that really set them a part from everyone else you have met in the past. This is what I mean about attracting to a particular “Character”.

When you’re corresponding via online chat, sending personal emails, or making decision on the posted photo’s, you don’t experience the same personal interaction on the Internet communicating with someone miles away from you? So you may be asking me how do you incorporate those types of feelings that are normally intimate in a face-to-face date?

If it becomes more difficult for you to show emotion through typing your thoughts, you have to start getting a little more creative, and become more prepared to put yourself out there, and realize you will be venturing into a new world of dating.

Online Sites That Claim To Be The Matchmaker Are Wrong! You’re The Matchmakers

Online personals and matching sites may sometime claim they’re the ones that do all the matchmaking, but in reality they only provide the tools for the true matchmaker, and that would be you! How you use the tools will be the key to your success in finding a quality match, and hopefully establishing many future online dates.

Sites such as AmericanSingles in the US, and the popular AllAboutSingles out of the UK provide you extensive dating and matching tools to assist you in finding compatible matches, but if you don’t use them to your full advantage, then the tools are basically useless.

The ultimate dating questions you want to ask yourself before proceeding, is what do you want to achieve when you finally establish an online relationship? If your answer is finding a long-lasting partner, then you have to go in with true intentions, and just like a live date, you have to throw your best attributes on the table and let the other person know what you have to offer them is unique over everyone else out there.

How do you do this you ask? Simple, you have to look within yourself and find all the unique character influences that we talked about earlier and then you have to find a way to express them online. This may be very difficult at first, but once you figure them out, you can really go to work to make your profile knock the socks off your future match.

Your next question may be how do I express my true character through the chat, emails, and photos? The answer to this question is that you have to express yourself in a way that is your true character and personality. If you’re shy, then you should take your profile in that direction, and if you happen to be very outgoing and sexual, possibly that’s the angle you want to work with.

In your emails and chat, try to get the other person to ask you as many questions as possible, only answering the question asked with very little detail, so you don’t wind up telling the person everything in one session. Give them bits and pieces a little at a time to build up their curiosity, and have them coming back to you for more information.

As they soon pick up your unique personal character, the attraction will start to build online to the point that your future interest may soon be putty in your hands, and if you happen to get together for your first date, they will already know the true person they met online, and that’s half the battle when meeting someone through dating services.

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LoveHappens the Darling of the Online Dating

02:21:05 by Julia Dorofeeva

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James Currier, the Founder the Tickle, emailed to share that Tickle's dating service, LoveHappens, got the highest customer satisfaction rankings from online customers of any online dating site. The study was done by Keynote Systems, who you may remember as a presenter at iDate last year.

James mentioned Keynote was just looking at the satisfaction of people using the site, not the overall numbers. That said, it's clear that Monster drives a ton of traffic to LoveHappens.

I was quite surprised to learn of LoveHappens' ranking, so I spoke with Keynote's Dr. Bonnie Brown, in charge of Methodology & Research and Bonnie Morris, product manager.

We covered a lot of ground during our conversation, here are some of my notes. Thankfully, the press release is very thorough and contains a lot of interesting information.

According the Dr. Brown, the customer study was the most surprising.

Keynote measured responsed from 1,500 customers as they interacted with various popular dating sites.

They gather their data from a research panel which screened for having dating site accounts and can log into their existing service and provide feedback.

They polled 100 customers per dating site and constantly cycle the panel participants.

Yahoo! Personals is king when in terms of success in online customer acquisition.

Nearly twice as many prospective True customers described the site as "safe" and "trustworthy" as those prospective customers visiting other sites.

I was confounded at their inclusion of HappyMarriage (part of Tickle) and Lavalife and that American Singles edged out Eharmony.

Keynote's Dating Services Report was done on a custom basis beginning and will be an annual report going forward. Contact me if you're interested in learning more, as I'm trying to put together some research materials affordable by dating sites that may not necessarily have the $10,000 - $30,000 the larger dating sites pay for competitive research studies.

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Dating Services Help Find Safe Online Dating Services Without 'Hassle'

00:48:52 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Online dating services are thriving after almost 10 years now. Some people succeeded in finding that Mr. or Ms. Right through them. Some might not. But for those who still have not lost hope in looking for that potential through these services, here are the top online dating services that might assist a searcher in this endeavor.

MatchMaker.com, with a monthly rate of $8.33 to $19.95, has an approximate number of 8 million members and communication is carried out either through IM or e-mail. Reviews have it that MatchMaker is one of the best online services. It boasts of two major features: a. ) user-friendly site and b. ) One of the most comprehensive profiles online. The profiling consists of an extensive questionnaire and an optional essay.

YahooPersonals has a monthly rate of $7.50 to $19.95 and has more than 5 million members. IM and e-mail is the form of communication with this online dating service. It is loved for its refined search engine. Categories such as living area, age and interests can be used to improve the search process. YahooPersonals has this Premier version that offers a more in-depth profile for those in search of more than casual dating.

DreamDates.com has a monthly rate of $9 to $24.95 and 3.5 million members. Members' interaction is supported by chat, IM, e-mail, and voice. DreamDates offers a better communication option of allowing members to talk to each other. It is available in two versions - a Romance membership or an Erotica option.

AmericanSingles.com can be availed with the monthly fee of $16.50 to 24.95. Its more than 10 million members communicate through IM, e-mail or chat. If one is interested to allow communication with a person who has shown interest first, but is not that totally at ease yet, with American Singles, one can remain anonymous. This service has this "Tease" message feature, which is a fun and non-committal way of getting in touch with members that you find attractive.

Match.com has a monthly membership fee of $9.95 - 24.95. Its 15 million members communicate through e-mail or chat. It takes pride on its user-friendly website that offers side-by-side comparisons of one's requirements and others' requirements to facilitate the "search".

With that parade of information regarding various online dating services sites, one's online search for "the one" will not be as hard as when one is still clueless about them.

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Playing It Safe in Online Dating

00:47:11 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Because the online dating scene, like everything else in the Internet, is a borderless world, it’s hard therefore for people to segregate those whom they should avoid from those whom they would love to meet, date and maybe even have a relationship with. But the possibility of meeting future stalkers and other psychotics shouldn’t deter you from online dating. Rather, it’s important that you just play it safe in online dating.

How to Play It Safe in Online Dating
Good question. Although following our tips to play it safe in online dating to the letter won’t guarantee eternal and 100% protection from the people that no one would ever consider dating, following them would at lease severely decrease the chances of having an encounter with those people.

Never Give Out Your Real Identity
Ideally, yes, it’s nice to start things with whomever it is you’re dating online with openness and honesty but let’s face it – if you’re only dating him online, you still don’t know him that much. Married couples after all still end up divorcing each other because it’s only when they’re living under roof that realize they don’t actually get along that well.

And so, to be on the safe side, never give out your real identity by revealing your real name or using it as a screen name – by then it wouldn’t be a screen name, anyway – on the off chance that the person you’re dating online would turn out to be schizophrenic or something equally horrible.

Never Give Out Anything inside Your Wallet
Okay, let’s review – what’s usually inside your wallet? Driver’s license, credit cards, money, other identification papers and so on. Now, here’s the thing. I’ve already advised you against giving out your real identity, right? Well, here are more restrictions.

Refrain from giving out details of your credit card, the address of your workplace and your home as well as your phone number because who knows if they’ll use these details for unwanted purposes?

Hence, no matter what they say, no matter how reasonable their explanations are, it’s ALWAYS better to be safe than sorry.

Never Be Rude
Since online dating doesn’t require people to see each other eye to eye, many tend to be more aggressive and outgoing than they really are, which is good, because opening up would let people know you better. There are, however, people who also tend to be ruder than they usually are when online dating on the simple premise that they don’t have to be careful of what they say since they wouldn’t see the person they’re talking to anyway.

Wrong way of thinking! In online dating, that’s how the fights start and these could always escalate to more violent forms of disagreement. Online dating doesn’t give any of us an excuse to be rude so when you meet someone you dislike, simply excuse yourself and log off.

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Five Questions You Should Ask Your Online Date

00:46:32 by Julia Dorofeeva

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online dating can be very entertaining and gratifying. Since its inception, online dating has continuously brought people together even though they may be worlds apart. Online dating makes bridges to connect people, enjoy each other, and build dreams together.

However, it’s not always possible to instantly find somebody with whom to share the rest of your life.

Online dating is a continuous, systematic process. It entails careful selection of words, pictures, and representations of the person involved in order to get the best results. Moreover, from the time you first find someone you think you could be interested in, remember the process will continue as you both get to know each other through a series of messages, chats, and other forms of communication.

Along with this comes the careful selection of words used and messages conveyed in order to establish natural, free-flowing, yet enlightening conversations. These are not just a mere exchange of words and phrases but a way of getting to know each other.

Hence, it is extremely important to know which questions to ask so that you can get a better sense of who the person is on the other side of the virtual screen.

Here are some of the questions that you should ask your e-friend in order to assess their personality and attitude. These questions will help to provide the necessary information regarding an individuals personal convictions and preferences.

Those who are involved in online dating just have to keep in mind that when asking these questions, they should make it appear very natural so that they will not sound like they are being confrontational.

In addition, be sure that you are also prepared to answer the same.

1. What is the major error that people make when dating online for the first time?

This question will illustrate some idea about how the other person views the opposite sex. In this way, one could get an insight on the attitude of the other person and his or her personal beliefs on some important matters like dating and relationships.

2. What are you looking for in a guy/girl?

With this question, an individual can get hold of the qualities that the other person is looking for in a companion.

However, one should take note of how the other person tries to answer the question. If the reply is passed off with a joke or some other attempt at humor chances are they have not yet thought about the answer.

3. What is a really successful relationship?

One could get a good view on how the other person values relationship. It would be better to hear the other person provide an answer regarding how the two persons who are involved in the relationship should work together as they grow.

4. What is your view on online dating services?

Through this question, a person will be able to know if the other person has had some serious negative experience concerning online dating or the other way around. In addition, through the answers of the other person, one could guess if he or she is still willing to consider online dating or not.

5. Did you fail on your last relationship?

Most people would certainly blame the other person in the relationship. Others blame themselves too much. It would be better to hear some answers like they (the couple) equally share the blame and that it is just time to part ways.

The point in asking these questions is to establish a solid foundation by finding out the kind of personality and attitude the other person has. Keeping communication open is what matters most.

The problem with a lot of people involved in online dating is that most of them do not have any idea how to carry the conversation. They do not know what questions to ask and how to assess the answers they get.

Remember that asking some reliable questions will give you an edge and you’ll be more confident when the time comes to meet in person.

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The Economics of Online Dating Innovation

00:45:30 by Julia Dorofeeva

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A new trend is emerging where free dating sites add the phrase Skype on their home page and call themselves the next generation of online dating. Let me say it here once and for all. Starting a new dating or social networking site with a core differentiator solely based on Skype or any other VOIP service will not become profitable to a degree where the business can be considered a success.

Smart companies looking to partner with dating and social networking sites have focused on making simple integration a high priority and kept the cost low, going for market share instead of six-figure licensing deals. Adding in Skype costs as much as the time it takes for developers to add a few logos and a link on the profile page. That's clearly not enough, additional strategy and resources must be allocated to come up with a plan that will actually deliver favorable results.

I read about VerbDate at SkypeJournal. The site is a perfect example of throwing a bunch of Web 2.0 buzzwords into a blender, building 1/2 a website, launching and leaving it that way for six months. A quick search shows the site currently has 55 members. I wonder why? The site is unpolished and inconsistent and the stated goal of the company is to "to kick the incumbents big fat ass!" Then they go on to say they have partnered with Skype, which is bunk.

For two years I've been saying it costs at least $3-5 million dollars to get to the 100,000 paying subscriber mark. No one has refuted this except optimistic startup entrepreneurs who base their entire business model on "new" marketing and branding concepts and pray to the gods of viral marketing.

That's why VerbDate and it's brethren will most likely never succeed. I'm all for supporting two people in the proverbial garage starting up the next big thing, but there is a level of sophistication that a dating site needs to attain before it will be truly be taken seriously by the general public. Most of the press releases and emails I get are from sites that fail to address this important issue.

A question to those of you who run ad-supported sites, let us know in the comments what you consider a successful free site. My general take is that more people + higher quality members&site = greater revenue. I'd like to see if anyone is making more money with targeted advertising on a smaller niche site as opposed to a generic ad network serving of mortgage loan ads on a large free site.

Free social networking sites let members add all sorts of plug-in functionality for free. YouTube and 100 other companies offer free file and video-sharing applications, music players and so on to Myspacers. Most of these features don't run on the social networking site, so the cost is negligible.

Innovation for the dating and social networking industry is good, but at what cost?

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Online dating services may be required to post warnings

00:40:58 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Joseph Newcomer met his partner while browsing Myspace.com, a free site that allows people to search for friends and potential dates through pictures and descriptions. After their first meeting at CherryVale Mall, he said, chemistry was not a problem.

However, the 29-year-old Rockford resident said he supports a proposed law that would require online dating services to disclose whether they check members for felony and sex offense convictions. Newcomer said he has younger siblings who spend a lot of time online and is more concerned with their safety.

“To be honest, judging from my own experience, you never know who you’re really gonna meet in real life,” he said. “I was lucky with the one I met, but I’m old enough to handle myself. Everybody lies about their age at one time or another, but to do it with someone under 18 is just too out there.”

Legislation advancing in Springfield would require online dating services that don’t conduct background checks to post this notice on their Web sites: “No background check of felony or sex offense convictions is done on members who use this service. Please take appropriate safety measures to increase awareness of possible risks associated with dating.”

The measure, which represents a practical, but cynical, approach to love, is just in time for Valentine’s Day. It would apply only to online dating services that charge a fee and have at least 1,000 members.

Nate Johnson, 32, of Rockford, has used eHarmony.com, a site that allows subscribers to search for and contact compatible people for a $50 monthly subscription fee. He said the bill could prove to be a double-edged sword if checks end up coming out of pocket.

“For the sites that do the checks, it certainly adds a big level of safety that would be a major selling point over the less-thorough sites,” he said. “If there was a cost involved that they passed along to the users, it might turn a handful of people off, but the positives would far outweigh the negatives.”

A House committee unanimously approved the measure Wednesday, and the full House could vote on it next week.

Rep. John Bradley, a Marion Democrat sponsoring the bill, told the committee he is trying to protect Illinoisans who go looking for love online.

“I don’t have anything against online dating,” Bradley said. “I think a lot of people enjoy it. They derive a lot of good ( from ) it. Let’s make something that’s good even better.”

Bradley said online dating services may be national in scope, but they would need to modify their formats to comply with his proposed Illinois law.

“Obviously, the only jurisdiction we have is within the state,” Bradley said. “But since the state of Illinois makes up a substantial portion of the public, obviously it would have effects.”

The committee hearing ended in comedy. Most of the committee’s members are lawyers and, therefore, are familiar with Latin doctrines. They roared with laughter when Bradley coined a Latin phrase just for his legislation.

Bradley said his goal is simple, let folks know that prospective online daters may not have been checked out.

“Caveat emptor,” he said, which is Latin for “let the buyer beware.”

Then, after pondering for a moment, Bradley suggested a more appropriate doctrine.

“Caveat amor,” he said. Loosely translated, it means “let the lover beware.”

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Online dating attracts older daters

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Susan Gladstone's moment came when she turned 50. Divorced, with two children, she was getting tired of asking friends to fix her up and being told they just couldn't think of anyone. And so, she turned to online dating.

Two and a half years and dozens of dates later, Gladstone, an event planner in Miami, hasn't yet found her perfect soul mate. But she's had lots of enjoyable dinner dates, met fascinating people from around the globe, and to her delight has made a number of lasting friendships.

Gladstone is part of a growing trend: people in their 50s and beyond searching the Internet for romance, companionship, sometimes marriage. As in any age group, there are ups and downs. There's the old stale-photo trick (it's him, but 20 years and 30 pounds ago), or the date who asks right away how much money you have, or the ones who say how fabulous you are and then disappear. Still, many older online daters say that even if they haven't found true love - yet - it's been worthwhile.

"I had minor back surgery recently," Gladstone says, "and I got about a half-dozen e-mails from men I'd met online, checking up on how I was! Even if I never meet my partner, I'll be happy for the wonderful friends I've made."

The main reason more mature singles are going online for love is simple: more widespread access to the Internet, hence more familiarity with online dating. And dating sites are catering to older members. Yahoo Personals, for example, has an advice column for users over 50, with tips - on everything from etiquette to sexual health - for those whose romantic radar may be a tad rusty.

Another reason: "Baby boomers are seeing their children use online dating, and watching their success at finding mates," says Rochelle Adams, spokesperson for Yahoo Personals. "They're seeing that it's not such a crazy concept."

Match.com, another large online dating site, says boomers (which it defines as ages 45-59) are its fastest growing segment - they've increased by at least 350 percent since 2000, and now number 3 million - or 22 percent of total users. Spokesperson Kristin Kelly says older users tend to be much clearer and more realistic about what they want: "There's no substitute for the wisdom gained with age."

Claudia Polley certainly knows what she wants. The beauty of online dating, says the 56-year-old museum consultant from Washington, D.C., is that you can tell right away if someone can write well - a key test for her. "If they can't spell, and they start out with 'Hiya!' - well, I wish them a wonderful life, but not with me."

Polley's work takes her around the globe - Africa, Europe, the Caribbean. "It would be wonderful to share that with someone," she says. Aside from intelligence and flexibility, she looks for wit and humor. Physical appearance is less important. (Surprise! Surveys say appearance is more important to male users.)

So far, Polley's had no major disasters. There have, though, been disappointing moments: "You want someone to be fabulous, and they're not." And so, says Polley, who was briefly married, then widowed, "You just have to say, "OK, well, that's all right. We'll keep looking." (For inspiration she has her daughter, who met her husband online. The first grandchild is due in July.)

Rudy DiLieto is one of the rarer ones: At 51, he's never married. "I wish I had an explanation for that," he says. A New Yorker who works in the fashion industry, he figures he simply enjoyed his independence too much over the years. Now, though, he's more inclined for something serious: "I am looking for that one last romance," his profile reads.

"I absolutely adore women," DiLieto confides, and he goes on at least 10 Internet dates a year. A yearlong relationship ended when the woman wanted to get married, and DiLieto wasn't ready yet. Now, he's happily embarking on a new online courtship.

The only downside, DiLieto says, is when people misrepresent themselves - as in the old-photo trick. "Why lie?" he asks. "It's illogical." One woman a few years back told DiLieto that if she'd given her real age and weight, he wouldn't have called her. His answer? "That's correct."

Ask Jeffrey Balash, a 57-year-old private capital investor in Los Angeles, how many online dates he's had and he can't even count - a couple hundred is his best estimate. Logging on is a daily habit.

Balash, who's divorced, says a friend described online dating well: "The odds are good, but the goods are odd." At this age, he explains, "you have a lot of people where there's a REASON they're not in relationships." He also bemoans the lack of common courtesy that comes with a medium as anonymous as the Internet. "People can be flaky. They don't call you back, they don't show up for a coffee date." And there's another problem with dating in Los Angeles, Balash finds: an excessive emphasis on material wealth.

But there have been successes, too, like one 9-month relationship that ended, but "we're still great friends." And sometimes, even when a date doesn't work out, the woman will fix him up with one of her girlfriends. "What could be a stronger endorsement than that?" he asks.

Of course, it's all a question of chemistry. The spark you perceived during countless e-mail chats can simply fizzle upon meeting the person in the flesh.

Gladstone has traveled to another city to meet someone, only to feel no connection. Now, she's resolved to take fewer such risks.

And for Balash, there was the moment he suspected his coffee date was a transsexual.

"You could tell from the hands," he said.

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Success on the Internet - 3 Crucial Steps

00:52:23 by Julia Dorofeeva

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There are at least 3 important steps to a successful plan when working on the internet. These 3 steps can be applied to just about any plan, and when coupled with the right amount of determination and perseverance, will result in success! But remember, you must persevere through the dry spells and difficult times. Everyone has hard times and this is just a fact of life. The key is to keep working toward your goal and never give up.

Three Important Steps

1) Develop the Right Philosophy.

The first point is to develop the right philosophy. How you approach your business (and life) will determine your success or failure. Try to always be growing and expanding your horizons in some way. You might want to think about continuing your education or contributing to your local community in some way. (Make sure to set-aside enough money for personal development.)

Success University has a faculty of over 50 of the best personal development coaches available. Jim Rohn, Zig Ziglar, Brian Tracy, Dennis Waitley are but a few of the coaches. The tuition is very reasonable.

Most successful people do not blindly follow someone else. They learn, evaluate, and make the necessary adjustments in their approach to career and life. Excellence is the goal, and continuous training and instruction are a very important part of the process.

As you continue to grow and develop, be sure to find other individuals who can help in the process. Good mentors are hard to come by, but indespensable when it comes to personal growth.

2) Decide What You 'Really" Want.

Determine your true inner desire and then do it! If you don't really desire to accomplish what it is you are currently doing, when the difficult times arrive you will simply quit.

It's a fact of life! Thousands of dollars are lost by people who invest in ill-suited programs which they soon quit. The inner desire and the "real" interest were not there in the first place.

Always remember...to be successful you must first determine your true inner desire. Identify what it is that you really want in your career and life. The answers to these questions will lead you to success.

Always make sure you are committed to achieving what you desire. A lack of commitment is a sure way to insure you spend money without sufficient return on your investment. You always want a positive cash flow within 3 months of starting your business.

3) Take Action.

Do your homework, but by all means step out and do something. Not just anything,mind you...you can actually be busy and not accomplish anything.

Everything you do either takes you closer to, or farther away from your desired result.

Clearly see your target and take a straight line approach to reaching your target. Little diversions can be deadly to your business. While you are doing mindless tasks someone else is taking consistent action.

Consistent action in the right direction will produce results. It is the law of sowing and reaping. You reap what you sow. In other words, you get what you deserve not what you need. Plant enough seeds and you will find growth. Ask enough people and someone will join or buy what you are offering.

Never leave the sight of a goal without taking action.

I look forward to seeing YOU at the top!

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Online Dating: Who Is Lying to You and How Can You Prevent It?

00:42:18 by Julia Dorofeeva

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How online dating profiles at most of the major dating sites are full of lies and what one company is doing to stop it.

The term "dating services" returns more than 2.4 million results on Google and if you consider the wide variety of companies that do match making services, this market adds up to over a billion dollar international industry. With all these companies competing for the same user base, you would think that all niches and consumer needs would be completely serviced. Yet there is a large unfulfilled market need.

It’s a widely know fact that most people stretch the truth about themselves when creating an online profile. They use someone else’s photo, lose half their weight at the click of a mouse, grow all their hair back instantly, etc… Why not? Everyone else is and besides the industry has known this for years and has done nothing to prevent it.

The reason that the larger dating services refuse to fix this problem is money. The major players would end up losing a large percentage of their online profiles and paying customers if they were to put in the types of tools HonestyFirst.com has developed. Paying customers on these large sites would have to be turned away because they either had a criminal record or would leave because their rating was so low that no one would contact them.

That’s where Honestyfirst.com comes in, by creating a business that only targets “Quality” customers and putting measures in to empower members to keep each other honest, they never have to make the tough business decision to cancel millions of dollars worth of paying customers. In return, the paying customers they do have will have a safer environment to meet people, save time, avoid stress by ending up on less of those really bad dates, and more.

Honestyfirst.com is based on a technology they call “Real Profile tm”. Using this technology they give members the ability to rate the honesty characteristics of another users profile. This technology enables you to see profiles with:

* Real and recent Photos
* Honest information about kids, marital stats, drinking habits etc.

You also don’t waste as much time with people who have not taken the time to complete a proper profile or have bad ratings.

“Real Profile tm” works by keeping track of the number of times that users contact each other via the internal chat or email messages. After amount of communications between two members, HonestyFirst.com assumes that you have had the opportunity to meet or see one another. The software puts a link on the member’s page that enables them to complete a survey about the user that they have met.

Each response in the survey is worth points. It is rather complicated on the back end but easy for member to use.

On the back end there are:
* Points that are added or removed based on survey question answered.
* Creditably factors that come into play when people get caught lying in surveys!
* Confirmation factors that are used when more than one person answers a survey question the same way.

On the side that the member would see and use, there is a short survey you fill out. That’s it.

To complement “Real Profile,” HonestyFirst.com (http://HonestyFirst.com) has partnered with a company that does background checks and verifies key pieces of identification like name, age, last know address etc.

Some people discount these types of checks saying that they are easy to beat. When asked why a company would do background checks on a dating site, HonestyFirst.com’s response was:

“Here is an easy way to look at it. Many people have a lock, dead bolt and chain on their front door. They lock them each night before they go to sleep. Now if you also have a four foot by six foot window less than a foot away from that door, what is the purpose of locking the door? Someone can break the glass and practically pull their car into your living room.

There are many answers to why lock the door but the two that get to our point are the noise and discouragement. First, the locks are there to say you’re not welcome to just walk in and noise acts as an alert that something is wrong.

Will it keep all the bad people out? I really doubt it, but we believe that it is necessary to discourage them from signing up in the first place."

Honestyfirst.com is positioning itself as a premium service that still wants to appeal to the greater online population. Some personalized dating services that offer high quality profiles and background checks charge 1000’s of dollars. The major sites do little or nothing to ensure quality and charge you $20- $30 per month.

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Deputies Use Online Dating Service to Catch Man

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Lexington County deputies have tracked down a man wanted for not paying his child support--and they used an online dating
service to help them find him.

Deputies say they arrested 31-year-old Brian Lee Todd Monday up in Fort Mill, where he was living. Investigators say he owes more than $5,000 in court-ordered child support.

Officers say they found him by setting up a date on an online service. Deputies say they learned last week that Todd logged onto the dating website. A female detective with the sheriff's department then logged onto the site and contacted him, claiming to be a woman from Fort Mill interested in dating Todd.

The two then set up a meeting; however, investigators say the first one didn't happen because Todd crashed his car on his way to see her. He made the second one, and the female officer and another detective arrested him after a short foot chase.

"We want deadbeat parents to understand that our agency's fugitive unit will use whatever legal means are necessary to find and arrest parents who refuse to pay court-ordered child support payments that their children need and deserve," says Lexington County Sheriff James Metts.

Todd is currently being held at the Lexington County Detention Center.

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Dating Success Strategies: 10 Dating Lessons To Spice Up Your Social Life

00:21:35 by Julia Dorofeeva

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If you are ready to start winning in the dating world, follow this simple strategy for success:

Lesson 1: First Impressions

They are immediate, long lasting, and usually permanent. Regardless of how great you are, and no matter how sweet you can be once someone gets to know you, the reality is, your dating success will be based almost entirely upon the other person's initial sense of who and what you are.

Lesson 2: If you want the part, look the part

Statistics show that how we appear speaks more about us, and is more important, than what we say verbally.

Lesson 3: Act the part

It is a fact that in our personal affairs, as in all our business dealings, we sell ourselves first. Poor attitude, image, and behavior will adversely affect your dating success, just as it will negatively affect your success in business.

Lesson 4: Be the part.

The initial impression you make on a prospective date predicts whether she (or he) will take the time to get to know you. Dating, as well as business, is all about sales. You must think of yourself as a product and the person you want to date as the buyer.

Lesson 5: Dating is about sales and sales is a numbers game

If you want to multiply your success immediately in dating (or just about anything else), learn, understand, and embrace the concept behind "the numbers game." Accept and follow these tenets:

You are a product

You are the product's salesperson, its packager, and its advertiser.

The person you're trying to attract is your customer. They make their buying decisions based upon presentation, packaging, and advertising.

The world's best salespeople don't have a 100 percent sales rate, a 75 percent rate, a 50 percent or even a 25 percent rate. The world's best salespeople are lucky to maintain a 10 percent sales rate and count themselves lucky if one out of every ten "pitches" results in a sale.

Lesson 6: Confidence = success

The number one quality both men and women seek in a date or a mate is confidence. Confidence is also the key attribute that all professional salesmen must possess in order to be successful. People do not buy products or services from someone who has no confidence in themselves or the products they represent.

Lesson 7: Establish a goal

A confident person is one with a plan and a goal. What's yours?

Lesson 8: Know your target market and give them what they want

Understand to whom you are trying to sell yourself and what they are interested in buying.

Lesson 9: Analyze the competition and do things better than they do

Just as you would study a competitor in business or a rival sports team, study your dating competition if you want to win!

Lesson 10: Take action and follow through

Deal with your fear of rejection. Stop investing your energy and self-worth in outcomes. Instead ofthinking of 'misses' as 'failures,' think of them as 'practice shots'. Dating is a process. Stop placing so much importance on what the person you are interested in thinks of you. After all, you don't know if you would even like them once you get to know them, do you?

Set small goals and accomplish them, one by one. Get passionate about your goals and your life. Enthusiasm is contagious, if you are excited about your life, people will be excited about being with you.

Dress for success. Always put your best foot forward And don't forget to perfect your sales pitch. If you keep doing the same thing, you will keep getting the same result.

Lesson 10: Live as if there may be no tomorrow

Realize there are no guarantees, no dress rehearsals, and (usually) no second chances. Make each day "your day," one in which you did all that you could do.

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April Masini is the best-selling author of Date Of Your League and Think & Date Like a Man, the online magazine AskApril.com and the critically acclaimed Ask April advice column. Nicknamed "the new millennium's Dear Abby," by the press - April writes what Dear Abby will never print, and what your shrink doesn't have the guts to tell you! Visit www.askapril.com for more dating success information.

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Online Dating mistakes men make that put women off

00:21:00 by Julia Dorofeeva

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In general, there are more men dating online than there are women. So if you are a man trying to find love online, you will want to make sure you’re going about things the right way.
Although there are no failsafe written rules for online dating, there are certain unwritten etiquette rules that are advisable to follow if you want to get the best result out of your online dating experience.
Below is a list of ten things that are likely put women off dating you online.

No picture

Women (and men, for that matter) like to know who they are talking to. Having no picture makes women think you have something to hide. This could be anything from bad looks to already being married. Don’t worry about your looks, different people have different tastes. However, having no picture up would make women imagine the worst, even if, in reality, they would actually find you attractive. A clear headshot of you smiling says you are genuine, friendly and serious about finding someone.

Naked pictures

It’s hard to believe that this needs saying at all, but some men choose to upload nude pictures of themselves to websites rather than headshots. This is acceptable behaviour on adult-themed dating sites where people are generally only after sex, but on all other sites this causes annoyance, if not distress. Even people who specify they are interested in casual relationships are not likely to respond favourably to naked pictures. Unless you are certain this kind of behaviour is acceptable on the site, don’t do it.

Accusing tone

People who have had bad dating experience occasionally try and protect themselves from being hurt by writing a profile warning off “undesirables”. Obviously, no one likes having their time wasted by the wrong kind of people, but filling large parts of your profile with references to the sort of people you don’t want to meet can make you sound unapproachable, unfriendly or even paranoid. Saying things like “no time wasters” are unnecessary -- no sane woman would sit in front of the computer and think “I feel like wasting someone’s time today”. The only thing a statement like that would do is make you sound impatient and demanding. Phrases like “no fat chicks”, “no old hags” etc. would make you sound rude and offensive and make most women stay away, regardless of their age and shape. Instead, concentrate on positive aspects of who you would like to meet.

List of demands

Be careful of turning your profile into a long list of demands. While it’s good to include information about your ideal woman, don’t let it turn into a ransom note. Always include information about yourself in your profile and if you have high expectations from your potential mate, it’s good to complement them with details about your own qualities so that you don’t come across as arrogant and fussy. For example, a phrase like “I go to the gym 4-5 times a week and take care of my body, so I want to meet women who take care of theirs” sounds much better than “I want to meet fit women”.

Going on about your ex

Your online dating profile is not the place to go on about your past dating failures. It’s a place to show your optimistic, hopeful side that is ready to move on. Don’t fill it up with details about how bad your break-up was, how nasty your ex was and how you think all women are out to get you. You won’t be doing yourself any favours.

Boasting

There is a fine line between describing your finer details and showing off. Going over the top with describing how great you are will only make women think you are arrogant and full of yourself. Be particularly careful of anything sexual, including describing body parts or how good you are in bed. Most women wouldn’t believe it anyway and would be immediately put off.

Asking for sex

Unless you are on an adult-themed site, you are unlikely to get anywhere by messaging women and asking for sex straight away. Obviously, there are some exceptions, such as when a woman has specified on her profile that she is looking for sex as well. Otherwise, it’s best to be more polite. Depending on the site you are using, it may be acceptable to say in your profile that you are looking for sex, though different sites will have different levels of tolerance to such requests. On mainstream sites, it’s best to keep such information to a minimum, without going into any graphic descriptions.

Empty profiles

Women will probably not bother contacting you if your profile contains no information about yourself. Put the effort in and make sure you say enough to make them interested. It’s worth spending the time to do this properly as the amount of responses you will get will significantly rise.

Jealousy and possessiveness

When starting to communicate with women online, don’t act like you’re married straight away. Demanding to know where your new friend is every time she is not speaking to you is not likely to make her want to stick around. Let things develop at their natural pace without being too pushy.

Acting Desperate

It’s somehow hard to gauge the different between acting cool and acting distant and the difference between being affectionate and being overly-eager. Still, sometimes it’s best to err on the side of caution and not flood your new match with over the top romantic behaviour. Turning up to a casual first date with a giant bouquet of flowers is an example of over-eagerness. If you like someone, do let her know, but again, don’t expect her to commit to marrying you after a single phone call or date.

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Learning to Open Your Heart

07:54:48 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Tips on how to achieve you dreams successfully by doing that most important task of all – opening your heart.

Five years ago a psychic in Key West, FL told me something I’m only just now beginning to understand. As I sat there in front of her, in a darkened room all full of incense, she intoned: “You’ll have the success you want, Suzanne… but only when you open your heart.” I wasn’t sure what this meant, exactly, but I did what any good self-help devotee would do. I set out to crack the code on what ‘opening your heart’ meant.

My first stop was the aromatherapy store, where I spent a good hour sniffing this and that until I’d whipped up my own little brew designed to split open a congested heart chakra. (Mind you, I had no idea what I was doing, but this did seem like the place to start.) Then I headed over to my friend, Mary, the Oriental Medicine Woman. Mary listened to me quite seriously when I requested she set lots of needles that would open my heart. After the third treatment, she gingerly asked how it was going. “I don’t know,” I replied. “Well, what would ‘opening your heart’ be like?” she asked. Again, I could not answer. Meanwhile, a nightly application of my heart chakra oil was giving me nothing but a greasy, rose-scented chest.

Ultimately, I forgot about opening my heart as the whirlwind of life sucked me on toward the next endeavor. Then one night I sat up in bed, suddenly aware of exactly what opening my heart really means. It means working hard on your passion, and investing time, money, and energy in getting it out there. It means doing whatever you have to do to follow your gut instincts and act on them. And it means facing down fear, and being uncomfortable, and having the courage to truly share yourself with others.

I knew this already. I’d learned it the first time I put together and lead a How Much Joy Can You Stand? workshop. During the weeks that I created it, I was racked with doubt; in the following weeks, when I worked on filling it, I had to keep making one uncomfortable phone call after another. Then, when I actually led it, I leapt from one peak of euphoria to another slippery point of fear, again and again. And yet, when that first day was over, we all seemed to be floating a few feet above the ground. For the first time, with my own eyes, I saw how I had really moved people. The feeling was one of deep, intimate connection; it was profound and unforgettable.

These days my work seems to be carrying me along in a tidal wave that moves at warp speed. I used to worry about being overwhelmed; now I’m just hoping I remember to do basic things like eat and meet the school bus. I wake up every morning flooded with ideas and instructions on the many projects I feel guided to do. And instead of worrying or panicking — I find I’m just following along, open, willing, doing.

That seems to be what opening your heart is all about. And I’ve gotten here not by some external mechanism like aromatherapy, but simply by following my path and doing what I’m intuitively guided to do.

‘Open your heart’ is another way to say “Touch someone else, as truly and deeply as you can.” And as you do, prepare to be touched in return. For this is the continuum your creative gifts will always provide. You long to express yourself, so you do. And what you receive in return is not only creative fulfillment, but the beauty of knowing you have had an impact on another soul.

So why does such a pure act of goodness require courage? Because ultimately we fear that very power that we crave, just as much as we shy away from the tenderness of our love for our fellow man. Such intimacy brings up all our most ‘uncool’ feelings; it makes us realize the tremendous responsibility that comes with living a life of integrity. Suddenly it is no longer okay to live with mediocrity. Instead, you’ve tasted true depth and meaning… so you have no choice but to open your heart again and again, as you make sharing your gifts a regular part of your life.

This is a perfect plan, one you can even enjoy once you relax into it. I invite you to dig a little deeper and open the piece of your heart that remains hidden. All you will receive in return is love, growth, and a sense that all is right with the world.

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The black woman's dilemma

02:08:00 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Many are unmarried but uncomfortable with interracial dating

In her third year at the University of Pittsburgh law school, she's looking forward to graduation in May.

She also would like to start laying the foundation for the part of her life that will take place outside the law office.

"Everybody is engaged at this point in law school when you're about to graduate," says Ms. Norfleet, 25, of Pittsburgh.

She doesn't want to be young, gifted, and black - and alone. She'd like to meet a great guy with whom she can eventually settle down, and she'd like that man to be black. She is uncomfortable dating outside of her race.

"My preference is black men, not that I've not seen white gentlemen that I'm attracted to," says Ms. Norfleet, who plans to go into international business, human rights, or real estate law. "It takes a lot more for a black female to date outside of her race, and I feel that it's less accepted."

A 2000 statistic in a newspaper article that 42.4 percent of black women have never been married inspired the filmmakers behind Something New, a romantic comedy that explores a professionally successful black woman's issues-fraught decision to date a white man. The film stars Sanaa Lathan and Simon Baker.

"I know a lot of fabulous, sharp, professional women that are still single and I thought, 'This is a movie,' " the film's screenwriter Kriss Turner says in the movie's press materials.

"When you get to your late 30s and you're still single, the thing that comes up - especially among black women professionals - is, are you going to go outside your race?" Ms. Turner says. "If you want to find love and get married, you are probably going to have to open it up and think outside the box."

In 2004, the percentage of never-married black women 16 and older was 42.3 percent compared with 22.7 percent of white women, according to the Joint Center for Political and Economic Studies in Washington.

Between 1950 and 2004, the percentage of never-married black women more than doubled, increasing from 20.7 to 42.3. During that same period, the percentage of never-married white women increased from 19.9 to 22.7.

In Toledo, one in 14 children under age 5 has two or more racial backgrounds. That's 10 times the rate of the city's senior citizens who are multiracial, according to a Blade analysis of the data released inJune, 2001.

When the territory is expanded to the entire 18-county northwest Ohio region, the rate of multiracial infants and toddlers drops from 7 percent to 4.4 percent, but the formula still holds. The region's rate of young, multiracial children is still 10 times the rate of its multiracial seniors. That means the multiracial population is roughly growing at the same rate from tightly compacted city neighborhoods to the one-stoplight towns that dot the region.

"In a nutshell, the real crisis facing black women is too few men with too few resources," says Larry E. Davis, author of Black and Single and dean of the School of Social Work and director of the Center on Race and Social Problems at the University of Pittsburgh.

"The education and professional advancements of black men have paled in comparison to those of black women. Two-thirds of all college degrees that go to black Americans go to black women."

If a white man were to ask Ms. Norfleet out, she's not sure she'd give him a fair hearing.

"I'm paranoid," she says. "I'd be thinking, 'Why are you dating a black girl and will your parents be OK with this and what about our kids?'

"I've had my share of drama with black men, but it's drama I understand," she says.

Many of the black women she knows who are single, are single almost by choice.

"They don't want to settle or they don't want to date outside of their race," she says.

Toledo attorney and holistic health counselor Diana Patton, 37, who is biracial, can relate.

Reared in Fostoria, Ohio, by a white father and black mother, Patton said her upbringing was steeped heavily in African- American culture and she had never dated someone white until she met her David Patton, who is now her husband. Both were students at the University of Toledo when they began dating around 1989.

"I ran track and he played baseball, so we were always in the same circle. I really felt from the beginning that there was love there. We were always good friends and there was something that really connected us," said Mrs. Patton, who has been married for eight years to David, 38, a financial advisor/stock broker at Smith Barney. The Pattons have two children, son Cameron Jackson, called "CJ," age 7, and daughter Ciera Rachelle, 4.

At first, the love she felt was not enough to overcome societal norms and her own internal pressures about race. Diana dated David off and on for 10 years before she committed to him fully.

"I was racist, I believe, in my own way against interracial [dating]. The biggest issues I had were self-identity. I didn't really know who I was. David and I had a lot of love for each other, but I allowed for other circumstances to get in the way," said Mrs. Patton, owner of Equilibria, a holistic health company. She added that her husband had no problem with dating outside of his race, until friends would bring up issues or talk about blacks.

"He gained this whole new awareness once he started dating me. He had this huge learning curve. He got more self-identity and now he's totally sure of who he is," said Mrs. Patton.

While growing up in an interracial family, and now having her own, taught her to put blinders on societal hang-ups about interracial dating and marriage, she admits that, "You have to have some tough skin. People say negative things because they lack self-identity and everything is tied to a struggle, or a race, or a history and not with people, or their essence, and beauty, and fun and laughing," said Mrs. Patton, who like the lead character in Something New, had an image of what type of black man she would one day hook up with.

Mrs. Patton said it was her faith in God that eventually helped her cope with who she was as a person.

"That's when I said, 'Oh my gosh, I really do love this guy. He lifts me up and he's my friend. To think I wasted all that time on society's norms and being worried about what people might say on all that stuff," she said.

Now, Mrs. Patton's biggest concern is raising her children to be aware of their self-identity and to be proud of all of their heritages.

Lorenda Layne, who also is biracial, grew up in the predominantly white Plum neighborhood of Pittsburgh, and always has been open to dating men of all races.

"All the black people in my high school were girls," says Ms. Layne, 26, a Pitt biology major and Allegheny General Hospital research assistant. She didn't meet lots of black guys growing up, in high school or in college. In high school, the white guys weren't interested.

"It's hard to find somebody [of any race] you can tolerate on a daily basis," she says.

Today, she's engaged to marry a white man she met in an Episcopal church although they're both Baptist. "He'll tell you he never expected to marry a black girl, but he's fine with it now," she says.

His parents are OK with it, too, she says, although his grandmother may not attend the wedding. "When his grandmother saw a photograph of me, she said, 'Has he considered eHarmony.com?'"

Family, friends, and even perfect strangers can be extremely critical of someone's decision to love across the racial divide.

Ms. Layne's black cousins used to tease her about dating white guys.

The parents of a white, male high school friend of hers transferred their son to a college across the country after he expressed interest in dating her, she says. She had been friends with him for years and a frequent dinner guest in his home. She was surprised and very hurt to learn his parents didn't want him dating her.

There's unspoken pressure on both sides.

"For men, when they're with white women, it's the white women who get a lot of 'Why can't you stick with your own kind? There aren't very many good black men out there. Why do you have to take one of ours?'" Ms. Layne says.

"Black men get mad when they see a sister with a white guy, but they don't have a problem dating white women," says coke plant worker Audrey Massey, 49, of Pittsburgh.

Ms. Massey opposes interracial dating. She came of age during the James Brown era, she says, when the slogan was "Say it loud, I'm black and I'm proud."

"To me, when people [interracial date], it's low self-esteem," she says. "I think it's a self-hatred thing. ... Black people should be together and build on that."

Black pride has eroded among younger generations and black people with dark complexions could be bred out of existence, Ms. Massey says.

Rasheda Davis, 33, of Pittsburgh, thinks there's still a double standard regarding society's view of black women and black men dating people of other races.

When she and her Lebanese boyfriend of six years go out together with their two children, they receive a lot of strange looks from people.

"When my brother goes out with his girlfriend, and she's white, nobody says anything," she says.

Ms. Davis believes society is more accepting of seeing black men with white women. "It's more common," she says.

Ms. Norfleet wonders how many white men really are open to dating black women.

"I don't know how many Robert DeNiro's are out there (the actor has twice been married to black women), but I think the number is small."

In 2002, there were 279,000 white female-black male marriages compared with 116,000 black female-white male marriages, according to the U.S. Census Bureau.

Ms. Norfleet, the law student, says she has friends, like Sanaa Lathan's character in Something New, who have a checklist of the qualities they want their Mr. Right to possess. However, she says her IBM - Ideal Black Man - doesn't have to be a doctor, lawyer or other professional.

"If I'm dating a man who isn't as educated as me, that's fine, but I want him to be comfortable in his skin," she says.

She remembers a black guy she dated her first year in law school.

"He wasn't in school, but he was good to me and then he ended up cheating on me," she says. "He just didn't think I really wanted to be with him. He would always say to me, 'Why do you want to be with me?'"

She also wants a black man who can be supportive of her aspirations. "If I want to get a job that pays twice as much as yours or get another degree, is that all right with you?"

Sometimes women are willing to settle for a black man instead of the right black man, she says, because the pickings are slim.

For example, there are only a few black men in her law school class.

"One is married. One is with a long-term girlfriend. One was single but now has a girlfriend and the other is crazy," she says.

Ms. Norfleet is planning to graduate and move to Atlanta, which has a much larger black population.

Toledo psychologist Linda Whittington-Clark says that the "black woman's dilemma" is very real.

"Regionally speaking, there may be different levels of 'distress.' Obviously there are more eligible black men and more [who are] compatible - educationally speak-
ing - in major metro areas. The [African-American] churches are trying to confront the gap [black men and black women] with singles ministries and ministries to black men on correcting their ways and thoughts and understanding about relationships in God's eyes," said Ms. Whittingon-Clark, a black woman whose ex-husband is white.

She adds that the whole concept of race is a misnomer, and that society needs to begin to embrace the concept of culture instead. "Once we get that cleared up … then going across cultural lines is not threatening to our self-concept," said Ms. Whittington-Clark, who has a doctorate in psychology and is owner of Whittington-Clark & Associates, a local counseling and psychology clinic.

Ms. Whittington-Clark adds that the bottom line in finding someone to date, love, or marry should not hinge on abandoning your own cultural values:

"That's destructive," she said. "It should simply be about what are their shortcomings and what are their strengths and whether a person with a certain cultural upbringing meshes with yours."

When Elaine Lee of Pittsburgh was a girl, it was unfathomable for a black woman to even think of dating let alone marrying outside her race, but she is happy that she's seen change in her 70 years.

"I, for one, have accepted the foolhardiness of allowing color to play a role in the choosing of a mate," says Ms. Lee. "Permit common sense a place in relationship decision-making and I believe future generations will be less racist, more tolerant and accepting, with young black women finding partners who love, care and respect them - all that is necessary to a happy union/fulfilling life - not his color!"

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Sexy after 60: Seniors get more active

02:03:07 by Julia Dorofeeva

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AS THE veterans of the sexual revolution head toward retirement, the golden years are getting hotter.
Carol McConnell, single after her husband of 18 years died, approached dating with some trepidation. But she found men her age and older to be ready and willing — if not always able — sexual companions.

"At first I tried the seniors' dances," said McConnell, 63, who lives in Ontario, Canada. "They're meat markets."

On the Web site Wired Seniors, she met several older men, including an 83-year-old who sent her $1,000 to pay for a visit to California. A 70-year-old from Canada wooed her too.

Today's seniors are meeting their later years with a more liberated mindset, with access to multiple partners through the Internet and with more movies and books that depict their sexual adventures. But with more grannies getting busy, there is a need for education about health risks.

Studies show older married couples are staying sexually active later. And seniors dating again after divorce or the death of a spouse are sampling an increasingly spicy singles scene.

A National Council on Aging Study found that sex didn't stop with a few gray hairs. Findings showed that 71 percent of men in their 60s, 57 percent in their 70s and 27 percent over 80 engaged in some kind of sexual activity at least once a month. For women, 51 percent in their 60s, 30 percent in their 70s and 18 percent in their 80s were active in the same period.

As adults stay healthy longer and surgery and drugs improve sexual performance and drive, these numbers could rise even higher.

Viagra and nursing home orgies are frequent topics for Frank Kaiser, a Florida journalist whose column, "Suddenly Senior," is featured in 56 newspapers. His equally bawdy Web site of the same name gets more than 5 million hits a month.

Doctors are just starting to get a broader glimpse of sexual activity for older adults, said Dr. Marc Agronin, director of Mental Health Services at the Miami Jewish Home & Hospital for the Aged.

"I remember working at the Veterans Medical Center in Los Angeles before we had Viagra. When they began a sexuality clinic, using a vacuum pump or injections, men came in by the droves with walkers and wheelchairs," Agronin recalled. "There still was this vital need and desire to remain sexually active."

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Save Your Relationship With A Romantic Getaway

01:50:35 by Julia Dorofeeva

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If the cliche familiarity breeds contempt is starting to take shape in your relationship then you might want to try a quick and easy relationship fixer. Get you and you significant other to go to a romantic getaway that will surely get you in the mood for some much needed quality time. Here are some great romantic getaway hotspots that you and your honey can hightail to even for just the weekend.

1. Jersey Shore, New Jersey

New Jersey, highly known for its Beachy Glitz, is the place to go for couples who love to go clubbing all night long while spending their days in luxurious long sanded beaches. Down and out couples will get a chance to enjoy and relax themselves and hopefully even bond with the various great beaches and fast-paced casino action. A recent addition to the many wonderful attractions in Jersey Shore is the Vegas-worthy Borgata Hotel Casino and Spa whose presence has surely livened up the whole Jersey Shore area. A quick insider tip from Jersey Shore is that bands from the '80s have always been headlining the shows at Atlantic City, try checking out Ticket master on what's available during your visit there.

2. Lake Tahoe, California

For nature tripping couples, a great weekend getaway will be in Lake Tahoe in California wherein you will surely get to experience nature's best. From the most pristine lake that you will ever see in your whole life to the most picturesque mountains, nature loving couples will surely get a kick out of this whole romantic getaway. Also, when you start looking for other Lake Tahoe attractions, you can start going around this adorable little town or enjoy a bit of gambling at their fantastic casinos. The hippest resort in Lake Tahoe is the Mammoth Mountain especially in the fall wherein you will surely feel like having the place all to yourselves since the skiers who frequent Lake Tahoe would not be arriving 'til winter.

3. Monetelago Village, Nevada

Considered to be too cool for Las Vegas, Monetelago Village in Nevada is actually only 17 miles from the world famous Strip. But unlike Vegas, the atmosphere here in Montelago Village is a lot more laid-back and completely the opposite of the fast-paced scene that you will find in Las Vegas. This romantic getaway hotspot is filled with relaxation that will surely get you in the mood for some loving. From various spas, to boutique shopping, even cobblestone streets as well as jazz on the lake performances and romantic yacht rides, there a lot of romance filled activities that you and your honey can enjoy in this romantic getaway. If you opt to take this romantic getaway, you can either stay in a condo or in a casita (a little villa) that is actually a whole lot more affordable than renting out a condo. Great food, views as well as wine flights await you and your significant other at the Sunset and Vines restaurant

4. Central, Pennsylvania

Here, you can find a place great for some rural romance for your romantic getaway wherein you can head off to Hershey, Pennsylvania wherein you can book a room for your romantic getaway at the historic Hotel Hershey. You and your loved one can enjoy various chocolate-themed body treatments at the newly renovated spa at the Hotel Hershey as well as cocoa-infused entrees at the Hotel Hershey's restaurant. You can also relive you childhood at this romantic getaway by taking fun rides at the Hershey park. An insider trip for those who are thinking of going on a romantic getaway at Central, Pennsylvania, you can take a highly interesting trip to Dutch Country that is home of Pennsylvania's Amish community and is only a 30-minute drive away from Hotel Hershey.

5. Saugatuck, Michigan

For a coastal cool romantic getaway, head off to Saugatuck, Michigan wherein you can find nestled on the shores of Lake Michigan as well as the Kalamazoo River this great romantic getaway resort town. This is exactly the perfect place wherein the two of you can just mellow down for a couple of days to enjoy the vintage char of this charming little resort town. From an unusual collection of galleries to various restaurants and shops as well as the top-rated beaches in the United States there is really a lot of things that you can do in Saugatuck during your romantic getaway here. Also, Saugatuck, Michigan is considered as the Bed and Breakfast Capital of the Midwest so expect some good old homey hospitality from the locals. A good time to stop by Saugatuck is during the month of October wherein you and your loved one can have a few brewskis during Octoberfest.

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Dating Sites and Dating Tips

01:49:58 by Julia Dorofeeva

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There are certain tips that should be born in mind when using a dating site, because although you may be the best person on offer on the site, it will come to nothing unless you can get yourself noticed.

First of all you need to write a good profile, one that will catch people’s attention. Women for example should avoid the pitfall of mentioning sex; it will lead to the wrong kind of responses. Men should write about themselves and not just what they are interested in e.g. football.

Please try to remember what you are trying to gain out of dating; a long term relationship. Therefore be prepared to put some effort into your profile, a little work at the outset will make it so much easier to attract the right sort of person for you. Try to identify your traits, are you a naturally happy person, are you outgoing or shy? Try to give your prospective date some real information about your character. If you have a particular hobby or something you enjoy doing, for example – cooking, let them know about it.

People often ask if they should include a photo with their profile. I would advise that it is best that you should include both a full length photo and a close up one. But please remember to make that recent ones! Don’t be tempted into including a 10 year old photo because you will get caught out! It is a fact however that dating profiles that include photos attract more responses than those without; I guess people like to see what they are getting!

So, once you have got a date, what should you do and what are the no no’s?

Men – tips for you…

Listen to what the woman is saying and take an interest; ask her questions on what she is talking about. Try to ask questions that encourage conversation rather than just a yes or no answer. For example, you could ask what was it about a book that made them like it rather than ‘did you like the book?’

Never talk about your previous relationships; it’s not something she wants to hear about!

Always tell the truth on a date, if you don’t it will catch up with you somewhere down the line!

Don’t go overboard on the Dutch courage! A couple of drinks to be sociable are ok but don’t get drunk – you won’t make a good impression. You make think your telling the funniest jokes and talking perfectly normally but believe me, you aren’t! I know because my wife tells me so!

On to the tips for the ladies!

Try and compliment the man –he will love you for it. Praise him for what he is good at and don’t criticize him over his bad points.

Try to be positive when talking with him; don’t discuss your previous relationships in detail.

Be confident. Men are attracted to confident women. There subconsciously feel that a confident woman has the ability to attract men more easily than a not so confident woman, so the fact you are with him will flatter him!

Keep eye contact for that little bit longer than normal. This is a sure fire sign for the man that you are interested in him, but subtle.

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Does The Law Of Attraction Really Work?

01:49:20 by Julia Dorofeeva

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“Thoughts Are Things” Napoleon Hill wrote it in his famous book “Think and Grow Rich” a few decades ago. Yet to this day not many people understand its profundity.
To someone who might not be familiar with the concept of manifestation, it seems like a nonsensical statement – even absurd! But to a success conscious individual, it is a powerful statement and within it contains life’s most precious secret.

Everything starts with a thought. The Wright brothers had a thought about making flying a reality. Soon enough it became a reality for them and we are the beneficiaries. Donald Trump had a thought of being rich which led him to the right people, right opportunities that helped him along the way and he became rich. Bill Gate had an idea (thought) about making the computer easy to operate and accessible to everyone. His thought manifested. These men (and women) and many other successful individuals understand the most fundamental law: the Law of Attraction.

The Law of Attraction states that similar things attract to one another, thus, the saying “birds of a feather flock together.” If everything begins with thought and the Law of Attraction plays a big role in manifesting the thought, then it can be illustrated as follows:

A THOUGHT ? (attracts) OTHER SIMILAR THOUGHTS ? (attract) OTHER PEOPLE OF SIMILAR THOUGHTS ? (attract) CIRCUMSTANCES THAT ARE IN HARMONY WITH THOSE THOUTHTS ? (lead to) THE THING DESIRED BY THOSE THOUGHTS EXPRESSED IN PHYSICAL FORM

At the level of thought “things” are nothing but random energy waiting to be “assembled”. Yet they are as real as electricity is real. We can’t see electricity, but we know beyond shadows of a doubt that it exists. We also know that thoughts are real because everything that has ever been invented or created in our physical world began with a thought. The manifestation of the “thing” from the invisible plane into our physical world is enabled by the persistence of thought.

Scientists teach us that the whole universe is made of energy. Energy has frequencies. Thoughts are energy in its primitive stage. Thought energies radiate frequencies just as radio antennas radiate frequencies. The level of thought frequency determines the kind of physical manifestation and circumstance that we have; low thought frequencies correspond to the physical expression of similar frequencies while high thought frequencies correspond to things, people, or circumstance of similar frequencies.

The key to keep in mind is that thoughts are as real as any physical thing. You must be completely convinced as that it is so just as you are convinced that the earth is round. Hold your thoughts long enough and in time you’ll see them manifest in your reality.

So go head. Think yourself into riches, a new home, a new car, an opulent lifestyle, happiness, meaningful relationships, peace of mind…whatever you desire. You’re limited to the kind of thoughts you hold in your mind. The Law of Attraction does work. All you need to do is check your thoughts.

Manifest a great life!

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Getting Started with Online Dating Websites

01:48:13 by Julia Dorofeeva

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For anyone who is new to the world of online dating, things could get a little confusing. Online dating differs from real life dating in many ways. One of the key differences is that with online dating, all of the action is done via the internet.

Individuals or groups of people who want to meet other people for social purposes, romantic attachments, or just to make new friends can do so through the means of online dating services.

This is a new, fun, and exciting way to meet people. Almost everyone is getting in on the action when it comes to online dating services. It has been assessed that approximately 1 out of 5 Americans participate in an online dating service.

There are numerous online dating services that cater to all types of people. Individuals ranging in age, interests, and different demographics and various walks of life.

The numbers of people who are participating in online dating services are on the rise. More than ever young people nowadays are using this method as their main route to meet people. They see nothing shameful about this way of socializing. Plus, the anonymity that online dating services provide is appealing.

After all, participants of online dating services don’t have to meet the individuals they communicate with in person until they’ve achieved some level of trust and comfort with the other person. In the end, a participant always has the choice to meet or not to meet.

The more reliable online dating services are those that require memberships from participants. They have a given set of requirements that must be met before anybody is allowed to participate. This allows the online dating service website to accept or reject aspiring members. Some of these online dating services are not free. They charge a monthly fee for the services they offer.

Subscribers to online dating services are asked to create a profile which contains a picture of the subscriber and other useful information. This is where the subscribers get to post some basic personal information like interests, hobbies, and the description of the type of persons they’d want to connect with. The great thing about this is the subscribers have a chance to express themselves, and show their personality through their profiles. Also, they can specify exactly what they are looking for.

The subscribers are then matched with fellow subscribers who match their descriptions. Afterwards, it is up to the subscribers to pursue the connection with the other subscribers that they’ve been matched with.

This way of self advertising on an online dating service doesn’t differ much from a personal, which basically operates on the same principle. These are the little pop-ups that appear on a lot of websites on the internet. It basically relays basic personal information, interests, quotes, a picture, and contact email of the person who has posted the personal. Any interested party can then contact that person.

The great thing about online dating services is that participants get to choose the persons they’re going to communicate with. Plus, they get to read their profiles ahead of time, so they’d pretty much have an idea about what type of a person they are dealing with, before they make contact.

The downside to online dating services is that not everyone tells the truth on their profiles! Some married individuals have been known to lie about their marital status. This has been an ongoing problem that has plagued the online dating service world since the beginning of its inception.

But a lot of online dating services are now enforcing more stringent rules to crackdown on this problem. Some are even doing background checks to make sure aspiring subscribers don’t have a criminal record. This adds to the safety of the members of the online dating community.

The availability of online dating services makes this an appealing option for anyone who is looking to meet new people. Now, with the popularity of online dating services, the interactions people can have are not only limited to their set of friends, acquaintances, and co-workers anymore.

It is so easy to partake in an online dating service. Anyone who has access to the internet can do so. Now, with just a simple click of a button any individual can be launched into the new and exciting world of online dating.

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First Date Etiquette You Should Always Follow

01:47:01 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Think you know how to act on a first date? There are some basic rules of etiquette that you should always follow if you want to get a second date. Too often people are far too nervous to remember their own name, let alone these rules. But, when you do relax and be your mannerly self, you will find you will in fact be more successful in dating.

Dress Appropriately

If you’re going to an elegant restaurant, don’t show up in ripped jeans, a tank top, and a baseball cap. Conversely, if you plan to do something active, like hike or rollerblade, now is not the time to show off your mini skirt or Brooks Brother’s suit. Always ask what you will be doing when someone asks you out or ask if the dress is casual or elegant.

Be Prompt

Everyone has run late at some time or another. Maybe the babysitter didn’t show up on time, or a traffic jam clogged the highway. Plan to be ready fifteen minutes early so you have some breathing room in case something happens.

Act Polite

Maybe the two of you clicked right away. Or perhaps you knew instantly that this person wasn’t right for you. Either way, always avoid rude activities like talking on your cell phone during the date or making disparaging remarks about your date’s appearance.

Be Honest

If you don’t plan on calling her the next day, or if you have no interest in seeing him again, it’s best not to gush about the wonderful time you had. Don’t make promises you have no intention of keeping.

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Woman Recounts Dating Adventures Online

01:13:15 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Online dating -- once thought to be a fad -- is emerging as the most popular way for singles to meet in the United States. Not only are they forming relationships online, some are also talking about their experiences in cyberspace for the whole world to read. It's a new kind of literature called the dating blog or online Web log.

Melanie Boyer, 29, writes for the online dating site known as Matches. She writes - sometimes in graphic language -- about her adventures meeting men online.

"I have a storehouse of experiences, so this is something that I can write about.," she says. "It still makes me a little [nervous] -- I cringe a little bit. I hold my breath and think, 'My mother is going to read this.' And then I let it all out and then I just breathe and say, 'Okay, be brave.' The success of a genre like this, of a column like this, is having no filters, no fear. For me, I'm telling a real story. It's very raw, very real, and it's the human experience, and I think that's what hooks you.

Like the time, after a date, that the fellow she was out with offered to give her a ride to her car. Boyer says she was thinking, "What's going on?"

"In my head, I was already chronicling it for the blog because I found it be so hilarious -- because here we are: I'm 29. He's in his 30s. And we're still pulling these high school [-age] moves to be alone with each other," she recalls. "We're still [saying], 'Hey, why don't we go to my car?' which is what you did when you were 15, and there was nowhere else to go. So the irony of it all was too good to pass up, too good to not share with the world."

So what happened when she got in his car?

"He only turns the car key halfway, so just the stereo comes on and only the lights from the dashboard come on," Boyer says. "He's trying to make conversation with me about [the musician] 'Sting.' He's playing a 'Sting' CD on the radio. And then he put his seat belt on, which I thought was even funnier because we both knew what we were there for. I thought, 'What is he doing?' Is he trying to pretend that we're not here to [kiss] in the front seat of the car.' Maybe I was wrong. Maybe he was going to drive me to my car."

To make a long story short, he kissed her with his seat belt on. So in Melanie Boyer's world, every date can lead to a blog. She does ask her date's approval, given the fact that the whole world can follow her adventures.

"I warn the guys who I go out with, because I figure it's only fair that they know that anything [embarrassing] they do can be used against them on the World Wide Web for everyone to read," Boyer says. "I don't use names but it's a little weird to read about yourself even if you're prepared for it. I also tell them they have veto power [to kill the story]: they read it before it goes up. "

Boyer recalls one of her dates exercised his veto power very clearly. "He said, 'Tell me you're not going out with me just as a writing experiment.' I never heard from him again."

Melanie Boyer says the truth is she doesn't go out with guys just to gather good writing material. She wants to meet men and feels compelled to write about her experiences, which she admits can sometimes be like leading a double life.

"It is hard. I don't know what's the perfect medium: 'Am I having a real date? Am I not having a real date? Am I genuine and sincere? Is he genuine and sincere?'" she asks and admits, "I don't know, but there comes a time when I turn it off [stop thinking about writing a story about the date].

Melanie Boyer's dating blogs are a lot of things: sad, funny, sexy real-life stories. If or when she gets married, Boyer says the days of her sharing her love life online will be over, not just because she won't be dating anymore. As she puts it, she'll want to keep the man she loves for herself.

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Online Dating Is Fine, But What About Some Of Those Photos?

09:03:37 by Julia Dorofeeva

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A few years ago when the internet as we know it today was the latest and exciting form of communicating, shopping, and finding information, most people, computer literate or not could not wait to catch a glimpse of this information highway called the internet.

If some one did not own a computer, he/she became ecstatic at the mere notion of being close to one so maybe he/she could catch a glimpse of what all the fuss about the internet was.

Now, with a much improved and widely used medium, there are many services one can find on the internet. Things ranging from online shopping to chatrooms, places where one can place resumes to land that perfect job, and even online dating.

And what if one’s search for the ideal mate leads him/her to a profile that seems too good to be true.

Like maybe the individual whose profile is being viewed has all the things one has been searching for in another human being. Things like the attractive looking face, education, likes/dislikes and a date is set.

And upon arriving at the appointed place at the time on which you both agreed, you realise something else.

That the person who is waiting for you looks a bit different from the way he/she looked on the online dating services website, maybe even older.

But say somewhere along the evening, the individual lets you in on a bit of information about the photo he/she placed on the internet. That bit of information being that the online photo was taken more than say ten years ago.

Would you instantly feel as though you have been cheated or deceived? How do you think he/she would react had you placed an old photo of yourself on there? Would he/she expect you to just laugh it off and move on much like he/she expects you to react?

Some might say that if the individual looks just like the image in the photo, then there should not be a problem, and if your date is happy with that, it’s fine, but sometimes it’s the principle that counts.

That if you want some one to think highly of you, then sometimes it’s worth the extra effort to send the right message.

For just like you examine that item in the store that you are going to purchase, so would most people prefer to get a good look at what he/she is getting before he/she embarks on that date.

Now not everyone owns or can afford the luxury of a digital camera, but there are alternatives out there.

For example, if some one wants a recent digital photo of himself/herself and does not have a digital camera, he/she can go to any photo shop or even some department store and have them, for a small fee, take a photo which can be saved to a disc so you can upload it to your computer later on.

And it’s far better than feeling or making your date whom you met online feel awkward on that first date where first impressions do count.

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A forgotten generation ... a wasted opporuntity

08:54:53 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Judging from the image projected by most online dating sites, you would be forgiven for believing that online dating is only for the under 30s crowd. Why is it that so many online dating sites appear to reject what is perhaps their biggest market - the older generation (40s upwards)?

Perhaps that demographic isn't seen as cool or hip to use the web. WRONG. Perhaps they think that only young people have trouble meeting friends or dates. Wrong, wrong, wrong.

You have to suppress a snigger when a new dating site comes out that's ultra-hip cool and trendy, because we know that in fact the 18-30 demographic are the least likely of all to need the service. Why? Because students and young people are already surrounded by friends, through whom most relationships originate.

However, in the older age groups it's a different story. Divorce, bereavement, and relocation are just three ways in which people can become extremely isolated. That's why, when presented with a non-patronising, non-judgemental, realistic web site, aimed at them, they will flock to it in droves.

Some thoughts - older people aren't interested in technological bells and whistles but they are interested in integrity, safety and the genuineness of other members. They are totally turned off by spam and fake profiles. They are attracted by simplicity and ease of use. They appreciate help and support, and can instantly detect if a site has been designed with them in mind.

Strangely there aren't that many sites about that are designed specifically for this demographic. I think it's a wasted opportunity.

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Attract Females with Confidence, The Secrets to Finally Dating Women

06:34:41 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Single and strong yet at the same time desperate females are the new images of women these days and you see this portrayed in the media. I am not talking about Desperate Housewives-- for one, I never hop the bandwagon and watch or like what everyone else likes. But that doesn't not make my judgment of men out of sync and "whack." I digress. My point is the reason why so many women out there are single is because they believe the "good men" are all taken. Having a larger population of women in the world generally does not help either.

So women are desperate. Why are so many men still single and seeking help from articles such as this one?

For one, men need to have more confidence. Not to the level where they shoot their noses and chins in the air and they are disgustingly arrogant. A slight air of arrogance is sexy. Too much is not.

Building more confidence can start slowly. Learn to look a person and not just a woman one is attracted to in the eye. Stand up straight and tall. Don't try to distinguish oneself with stupid comments, jokes, and noises. Immaturity is such a turn off, especially when women these days are out for the kill, meaning they are serious most of the time. It doesn't mean boyish charms are turnoffs as well. Just be able to differentiate between the two. A shy smile, some genuine naivete is not the same as hair pulling, fart jokes, burping, and butt scratching.

Relationships are so hard to form and so easy to destroy these days, proven by the vast amounts of Dating for Dummies and other such literature on the subject. Love is taken granted for, hearts are broken, and bonds are not ever-lasting. We have cynics and skeptics, we have the strong romantics, we have so many females out there waiting for romance.

Sometimes, people are overlooked, males and females alike.

It is also the sad truth that we are build to be superficial-- yes, we are, no matter how much you think you aren't, you will still like what is beautiful to you-- and a good population of people are generally not good-looking.

For men, confidence can help with your looks. As well as a nod to the metrosexuals, just don't overdo it. A guy who spends more time obsessing about his looks than a typical woman is not exactly attractive. Showing vanity is a no no. It doesn't mean you should spend five minutes in the bathroom each day, throw together some mismatched outfit and have pieces of dandruff in your hair and dead skin/dirt on your face and hands.

Just know, you are doing this for yourself. When you are ready for a relationship, build your confidence, take care of yourself, and try to loosen up a bit. Sweep girls off their feet. They are tired from waiting for the right one. Compromises, people... We must all compromise and make little sacrifices for what we want in the end!

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Why Women Want the Man Other Women Want?

06:32:46 by Julia Dorofeeva

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How is it that a person or character such as James Bond can always get women everywhere he goes? Why is it that women do not reject the idea when they see a man with another woman but actually become more interested in him?

It is generally true that single women will want a man who is desirable and seen with other women. Part of this is because by her seeing him with other women, this gives her instant social proof that he is a good catch. A lot of this stems from biological roots.

The male who has the most dominant character or personality is often the one that is chosen by females to allow the procreation because he will be more likely to protect her and her young.

This happens in many species of animals. Of course as humans we have evolved beyond the basic necessities and have climbed the Maslow's hierarchy of needs in the civilized world. Most of our biological foundations of attraction have been covered up by many other things which have changed the dynamics (or at least people have let the new dynamics influence their behavior without understanding the greater picture).

It is not uncommon in the wild for other females to want the same male because they instinctively know that he can provide the most protection and security for them. This will often leave the other dudes out of luck. A lot of this behavior is carried over in humans.

When a woman sees that a man is around other women, that alone separates him from the crowd because there must be some reasoning behind it. This is instant validation for a female. When so many men today are just alone and desperate for any kind of attention from beautiful women, it is refreshing for a woman to see a man who is attracting other women. He is really unique all of a sudden.

This will make her instantly validate him and she will be much more likely to take a strong interest or even approach in him. She wants to prove to that man that she is a good catch herself because now the tables have turned to their original and natural paradigm where the man is the one with power and selection.

Even in the wild it is not uncommon for an alpha male of the species to mate with many different females, essentially having his own harem and then he will leave them while they take care of the young.

The behavior is a little bit different with men (in our civilized world) because when we see a woman with another man we kind of just respect that and know that she is in another man's territory and probably for a reason. Men will say things like, "I wish that I had Jesse's girl" or "I want a girl like that", whereas women will say, "I want THAT man".

She is specifically interested in you when you are this man because there is a reason that specifically you will have attracted these other women around you. She wants to possibly be one of those women as well even if it means cat-fighting with the other women in your life. Women are just interesting like this because biologically they want the strongest alpha male (inherently) to provide and 'protect'...now this mixes with social proof and validation of seeing him with other women.

All of this works to your advantage when you understand everything I can teach you.

So a man who is a pure natural (a la James Bond) has even more natural selection and choice because he is aligned with the natural order of biology, tradition and evolution.

Women will often put aside common sense and logic easily to be with a man who knows how to spark that inherent attraction mechanism which lies dormant within her.

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Does Online Dating Really Work?

06:30:27 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Online Dating is the biggest and best product to come out of the Internet…ever! There are millions of members worldwide and thousands more singles are signing up on a daily basis! But does this show that Dating Online really works? Ok, so with millions of members worldwide your initial impression is that Online Dating Must work, other wise why would there be so many single men and women joining? And I would have to agree, that Dating Online does work, but there’s a catch (as always!)

The easiest way to explain (and most enjoyable), is to compare Online Dating Sites to buying a house (bear with me….)

When buying a house, you don’t settle for the first house that you see, you have a look around inside, you see what the house offers you, you weigh the pros and cons of the house and then you make the decision on whether this house is right for you! Not, any one else, but you. After all, you’re the one buying it. And nothing is more irritating than the little sleazy estate agent trying to encourage you to buy, am I right?

Well, Dating sites are the same. There are different dating sites to suit different needs, after all not everyone are the same. There are dating sites for Single men and women, Gay Singles, Jewish Singles, Christian Singles, people looking for ‘fun’ (if you no what I mean…), people looking for that perfect match. You name it and I bet theirs a dating site for it. And each dating site owner is the sleazy estate agent trying to encourage you to buy!

But the trick is….

The trick to getting the most out of these sites is to know what your looking for, and then look at what each site in that category offers you. I mean why bother joining a Jewish Dating site if you’re catholic? Why join a matchmaking site if you’re just after a bit of fun? This all seems quite obvious but you would be surprised how many singles fall into this trap and that’s why a lot of single men and women aren’t successful!

Right, so now you know the key to Internet Dating, but what should you be looking for from a dating site?

Well to start with, would you give your details to any stranger? I’m sure not, so why start now. There is some Internet sites that I would personally never give my name too, let alone my personal details!

Would you feel a bit uneasy going out on a date with someone and not knowing his or her full background? Do they have a history that they don’t want to share and if so then why don’t they want you to know?

I’m not trying to scare you (I’m a very strong believer in Internet Dating and have been doing it for years!) but getting these little details right will ensure that you get the most enjoyable, successful time out of Online Dating! In fact, my favorite site (http://www.truedating.biz/) covers all these points. They do criminal background checks on all singles joining! Most importantly I just felt so safe when using this dating site, it made my dating experience ten times more enjoyable!

But I Digress….

Overall, Internet Dating is brilliant! It’s bought literally millions of singles across the globe closer and given much happiness to peoples lives. And knowing the basics and essentials as described in this article will provide you with every bit of knowledge you need to get going and to meet all those sexy singles that are just waiting for a reply!

Happy Dating!!

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Major Tips for Online Dating

06:27:58 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Creating and posting your profile to a website specialized in online dating can be your chance to meet your soul mate. But how can you tell you covered the essential points in your profile or what proves you your profile is a complex one ready to attract many persons? Here are some steps you can follow this assuring your success.

1. Don't pretend to be something that you are not
You should not be afraid to show what you really are as you are unique.These 150 words can bring about an exquisite personality if you are sincere. Don't try to be something you are not as online dating is encouraging the most intimate feelings to come out. You can tell everything about yourself with no reason to be ashamed of: it is impossible that you won't find someone to be attracted to your real-self.

You should state loud: I really believe I should be sincere to myself and others because I believe in trust and I am not afraid of being criticized. At least one quality can be found here: I am honest no matter what. I know that there are persons who will disagree but what I can do least is state my own belief and principles because they make me what I am.

Online dating can be understood as a commercial for your person but a sincere one with no trace of manipulation and mischievous intentions. For once in your life you can be 100% proud of what you are.

2. Be unique and original
You must have confidence in yourself and strongly believe that you can be yourself without stopping to be original in the mean time. You should fear what is average, common and usual and come up with something which is entirely fingerprinted by you in your profile for online dating. All your passions may be stated because they are unique and matching only with you. These are important for the person reading your profile so as to make a clear idea of what you really are. However if you feel the need to be outstanding or at least different do it. This will not be considered outrageous but original.

3. Try to think like the person reading your profile for online dating
If you do this you will get rid of that vital need of our's for coming along everybody's expectancies. You should always think of what you want that person to be like, according to your own standards. Try to be funny if you are looking for a person with a good sense of humor-that person will respond only to a person who is not boring.

Online dating cannot be criticized as it is the best way to make friends with no connection to some persons you already know. Why am I saying this? Because when you are introduced to a certain person you can never be sure of the opinion he has about you as you don't know what he was told. Online dating helps you create your own image with no alterations.

If searching for the perfect match date give a try to online dating on http://www.date-find.info/

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Internet Dating Services! Where Quality Finally Exceeds Quantity

06:27:06 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Internet dating services are growing in popular demand, however, there is a decline in memberships, and many of the dating singles are now happy to be experiencing matchmaking quality versus quantity!

It's very easy to see who are the major Internet dating service players on the Internet, and with the current growth of online dating you will quickly notice the dating values on these sites are increasing.

What this means to you, is the quality of these sites are becoming more important than quantity, and many dating services online are adopting this with important features that cater to you as an individual that seriously wants to find a compatible person online.

Dating singles have demanded more from their singles service providers, and as they sign-up to become a member, they want to know that their dating site can offer a quality database of reputable singles, with the many matchmaking features.

As these reputable dating companies listened to their members, they have provided easy to use communication tools, and a safe, secure, discreet environment! For new people, they're still offered free personals services, but with limitations.

Most single individuals don't mind the free personals that are provided to new guests. It gives them an opportunity to explore the services offered before signing up, but once they want to proceed further and start meeting the currently available internet singles, it's time to take it to the next level and pay for their membership and additional services.

Free members and dating members are the big difference in finding that right man or woman online that fulfills all your personal needs! As the dating sites started to only offer limited access for the free memberships, this had created a decline in bogus, non-serious members, and the end result is that it attracted more long-term online single members.

Now with the opportunity to experience better matches and a higher success rate in a dating relationship, even though memberships have started to decline over the years with many of the dating personal sites, this has been great news for the women and men that are paying to truly find their romantic partner for a quality not quantity experience!

About the author: William is the owner and the author of “Intimate Adult Dating Web Site” available at http://www.intimate-adult-dating.com A great source for Dating Services available online! Find a variety of Internet dating services that offer you quality matchmaking features such as Yahoo Personals, eHarmony, AmericanSingles, and PerfectMatch. Take some time to visit our site, and choose the right dating service online that's right for your needs!

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Why choosing a Dating Company is the most crucial step of Online Dating.

06:26:17 by Julia Dorofeeva

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There are literally thousands of Online Dating companies on the Internet. And at first glance they might all appear to be the same, offering very familiar services. But take a deeper look into the Online Dating world and you will see that not all of these companies are the same, but in fact very different, and it is at this most crucial stage where you will either succeed or fail in the Dating game.

At first glance, all Dating companies seem to be offering the same service, and it is usually down to financial reasons why you would choose a particular company to join. But by taking a closer inspection of what each Dating company offers, you will realise that they all differ from each other, in different ways. And the way to truly succeeding is to ask yourself what you want and what you hope to get out of becoming a member.

For example…

Are you looking for a friend in whom you can share similar interests and hobbies?

Are you looking for someone in whom you hope to develop a deep and personal relationship?

Are you looking for that perfect match?

Are you looking for someone to go out and have some fun with?

Are you looking for someone who is the same religion as yourself?

And the list just goes on!

By asking yourself these questions you are immediately increasing your chances of succeeding as you are narrowing down your list of potential dating companies to the ones you are most likely to have success with, therefore increasing your chances of having more successful dates.

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What is Romance, and how can you be more romantic?!

06:24:00 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Whether you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, or whether you’re single, learning how to romance and love can be one of the greatest skills to learn (and believe me being romantic takes a lot of skill, for both men and women!). But what exactly is romance? I mean if you don’t know what romance is, then how can you ever be romantic?

Being romantic is more than just a bunch of red roses and a box of chocolates, it is showing your partner that you love, respect and admire them for who they are and it is form of showing them how much they mean to you. Romance comes in all shapes and forms, big and small, from that small gesture of giving them your last rolo, to that romantic getaway. The most common misconception about being romantic is that you have to spend a lot of money. Money should be no factor in being romantic, as true romance doesn’t mean you spent loads of money on them, but that you put long hard thought into how you could really ‘woo’ them.

Red Roses and chocolates is a very popular and good way of being romantic, as all women love them, but instead of just giving them to her, why don’t you go that bit further to really impress her. Set a scenario for giving these gifts. Good scenario’s would be the place you first kissed, where you went on your first date, or even where you first met. None of these places cost, but they show her how dear this place is to you, as it was a milestone in your relationship.

Ring her. No matter how busy you are or where you are, ring her to let her know that you miss her and are thinking of her. Ask how she is, what she’s up too, is she having a good day. Take real interest and show her that you care. This means so much.

Set the scenario in the bedroom. When she’s out, set up the bedroom to create a romantic atmosphere. This can include tidying the bedroom, changing the linen, set some soft music, light scented candles, dim the light, get massage oils and get a chilled bottle of wine. Create a relaxed setting where you can really cut off from the outside world, and be together. Give each other massages and talk. Show them physically how much they mean to you.

Overall there are no rules for how to be romantic; it changes from person to person. Just be personal and think of what would they want the most. It’s all about showing your partner how much they mean to you and it’s your form of telling them. And remember, actions say more than a thousand words ever could!

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What is Romance, and how can you be more romantic?!

06:23:59 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Whether you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, or whether you’re single, learning how to romance and love can be one of the greatest skills to learn (and believe me being romantic takes a lot of skill, for both men and women!). But what exactly is romance? I mean if you don’t know what romance is, then how can you ever be romantic?

Being romantic is more than just a bunch of red roses and a box of chocolates, it is showing your partner that you love, respect and admire them for who they are and it is form of showing them how much they mean to you. Romance comes in all shapes and forms, big and small, from that small gesture of giving them your last rolo, to that romantic getaway. The most common misconception about being romantic is that you have to spend a lot of money. Money should be no factor in being romantic, as true romance doesn’t mean you spent loads of money on them, but that you put long hard thought into how you could really ‘woo’ them.

Red Roses and chocolates is a very popular and good way of being romantic, as all women love them, but instead of just giving them to her, why don’t you go that bit further to really impress her. Set a scenario for giving these gifts. Good scenario’s would be the place you first kissed, where you went on your first date, or even where you first met. None of these places cost, but they show her how dear this place is to you, as it was a milestone in your relationship.

Ring her. No matter how busy you are or where you are, ring her to let her know that you miss her and are thinking of her. Ask how she is, what she’s up too, is she having a good day. Take real interest and show her that you care. This means so much.

Set the scenario in the bedroom. When she’s out, set up the bedroom to create a romantic atmosphere. This can include tidying the bedroom, changing the linen, set some soft music, light scented candles, dim the light, get massage oils and get a chilled bottle of wine. Create a relaxed setting where you can really cut off from the outside world, and be together. Give each other massages and talk. Show them physically how much they mean to you.

Overall there are no rules for how to be romantic; it changes from person to person. Just be personal and think of what would they want the most. It’s all about showing your partner how much they mean to you and it’s your form of telling them. And remember, actions say more than a thousand words ever could!

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Writing Your Profile

06:16:31 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Oh, I’m so sorry to hear that! You showed up for a date and they didn’t say anything the whole night? Not one interesting thing? That’s horrible! I guess you’re not going on a second date . . . Wait, you are? Are you nuts?

No, they’re probably not nuts. They’ve just been out with a supermodel. For the rest of us mere mortals who haven’t been blessed with a face or physique that’s been handed down from the gods, we face a far different challenge. We have to be interesting and entertaining so our dates will like us – and we need to do all this while trying to figure out who the person across the table is and if we want to go out a second time with them. If it sounds tricky, that’s because it is. And that’s exactly how you need to think when you’re writing your online personals profile.

Here’s your chance to get someone you’ve never met before really interested in who you are – and you should take it! People fall into two categories: those that read profiles and those that just look at pictures. Not everyone is a master wordsmith but, with a little thought and a bit of help, we guarantee you’ll have both the peepers and readers taking note!

You are the most interesting person on the face of the planet – the masses just don’t know it yet! This is your time to wow them with who you are, what crazy stuff you’ve done, what you’re into as far as style, lifestyle and romance are concerned and why they need to be sending you a message RIGHT NOW!

Here are some tips to keep in mind…

Sum peeple ar big phans ov profylez, but if they read them and they’re littered with spelling mistakes and grammatical errors, they could easily be tempted to flip on to the next one. If you don’t take the time to build the best profile, you’re saying something about who you are — and it’s probably not the best foot to be sticking forward! Make sure to spell check your work before you publish it online and get a friend to look it over, too. The extra set of eyes always helps and there’re many free resources to check your spelling and grammar available on the Internet. Use them and you’ll open the door to many more people – at least the ones that read!

Honesty is always the best policy so write about who you are, not what you think others might be looking for. If you write that you love adventure sports but you’ve never thrown yourself out of a plane at high altitude, bungee jumped off a tall bridge, kayaked down a dangerous river or scraped your knee pulling corners on a sports bike, you’ll be facing some tough questions from a person who has ‘been there and done that’ and contacted you because of it. Save yourself the trouble and write about the real you.

"If you complain in your profile, come across as angry, jaded or selfish, then you’ll turn more people off than you’ll turn on. Definately not a very good idea"

At all costs, stay positive! People easily pass a profile that has negative vibes. When you write your profile, make sure you’re in a good mood and thinking happy thoughts. If you complain in your profile, come across as angry, jaded or selfish, you’ll turn people off more than you’ll turn them on. I know I’ve said that you need to write about who you really are – and I realize you could be all of those things! Never lie, but it might be better to be focused on the brighter aspects of life just for now. Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to keep the negativity to a minimum and you’re bound to get more positive results from your personals profile.

There are certain things that just need to be said – so say them. If you’re only looking for someone over six feet tall, someone who has the same religious beliefs or a person who must love mayonnaise on their fries (it’s really good!) then write it! Don’t be afraid to put it at the top of your profile. If it’s that important to you, make sure people read it. Don’t stick it at the end of your profile where people who haven’t read all the way through might skip it. Say what you have to say first off and you’ll ensure that you’re attracting the right kind of attention.

When you write, you’ll want to talk about your interests and accomplishments. We’re sure you have many, but try and avoid “the list.” Instead, take a few of the more interesting ones and expand on them. This will save you looking like you are your own favorite subject and help people get to know you through your writing.

It’s always better to show than tell. “I rock climb and wakeboard” is better that “I’m into adventure sports.” What’s even better than that is, “I was rock climbing in Montana up this face as the sun was setting. The rays on the rock made it glow with the most spectacular light. If we get a chance to chat, I’ll send you some pictures I snapped.” Show them your story through words and you’ll be leaps ahead of the competition.

Make sure to change your profile up from time to time. Your taste and interests may shift as well as your focus in life. Imagine retooling your profile is like a fresh coat of paint. Changing your picture regularly is integral to attracting the most attention, but profiles deserve a fresh face, too.

Keep these tips in mind and you’ll find the “right” emails in your inbox in no time at all.

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10 tips on being a romantic

06:13:56 by Julia Dorofeeva

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1. Send her flowers unexpectedly. Choose a bunch of her favorite flowers of her favorite colors or ask your florist (man’s next best friend) for suggestions.

2. Write her a check for a million kisses, and let her take it to the bank.

3. Have your song playing on the stereo when she returns home from work or errands, and whisk her into a spontaneous dance.

4. For a change of pace ? eat breakfast by candlelight or have dinner in bed.

5. Fill her car with red balloons.

6. Write her a love letter ? it doesn’t have to be perfect, poetic or long ? just from you.

7. Have a "play date" once a month, where you get away together for a day of fun.

8. Fill her answering machine or voicemail with romantic messages.

9. Kidnap her? blindfold her and take her to a favorite restaurant, the theater, the racetrack or another place you both enjoy.

10. Draw her a bath sprinkled with rose petals, and light some candles.

Finally, remember that romance is easy, just give it a try!

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A Successful Dating Profile

05:43:32 by Julia Dorofeeva

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This dating profile was tested on an online dating agency, and achieved a 40% response rate from the girls viewing the profile. A photograph was not included in the profile. A 40% rate of response from your profile really is incredible when you’re dealing with online dating agencies, and especially where a photograph has not been submitted! In my opinion, you need knowledge to create a profile that works and gives you responses, which can come from experience, as in my case, or from getting tips from articles such as this. It’s worth the time and the effort to create a good profile, because otherwise you are wasting your time, and possibly your money, on online dating sites!

The dating profile is as follows:

The tag line: “Isn’t it time you found a man of mystery?”

The description: “With interests in martial arts, dancing, clarinet playing and flying, you could do worse than to get to know this software engineer! Cool, suave and sophisticated are the watch words. Dubbed as the next Johnny English, er… James Bond by his friends, you’re sure not to go far wrong by clicking through lots of ads to send him a message! Be quick, because he’s sure to be snapped up soon by the millions of women here!”

Let’s analyse the profile in detail:

1. The tag line is the first thing people see on this particular dating site. You want to get them to click through and view your profile. There are probably more successful tag lines than this one, but you do want yours to tie in well with your profile if possible. It’s a little like search engines. If you are searching for information, and click through to a page that didn’t contain useful information for you, what did you do? You headed straight for the back button on your browser! This is what you don’t want your profile readers to do, if you can help it.

2. Note that I have not used the word “I” in the dating profile. Instead, I talk about myself in the third person, and I’ve used the word “you” a great deal more than will be seen in your average profile. Who is the one person you’re most interested in? It’s you. If you can factor the word “you” into your profile, it will help. The reader is asking the question, “What’s in it for me?” This also makes the profile more unusual.

3. The dating profile is short, snappy, and to-the-point. Nobody’s going to read an essay, however interesting you think you are! However, if you can make your profile compelling reading, it’s OK to make it longer. There are differences of opinion here, but my personal belief is that you should not reveal too much about yourself in your profile. If your profile contains all there is to know about you, what would be the point in somebody sending you a message to learn more?

4. I have listed some interests that girls would especially find interesting. With regards martial arts, the attraction is obvious. Girls like to know their man can take care of himself! Secondly, dancing. Plenty of girls really enjoy to dance, but it’s a skill that many men won’t pluck up the courage to try, or even admit to. I actually play a wide variety of musical instruments, including the keyboard, saxophone and drums, but I think the clarinet has the most romantic and warmest sound of all these instruments. Lots of people in my position may have chosen to write about the saxophone at this point. Finally, what girl could resist a date with a pilot? I haven’t actually stated that I am a pilot, although in actual fact, I am a trainee pilot, but I could equally well be someone who enjoys travelling a lot, which would also be very attractive.

5. Many girls are not interested in geeky software engineers, but I’ve written about my hobbies that show I’m a well-rounded person who has other interests besides programming. Also, software engineers do pull in a respectable amount of money. Girls are partly looking for someone who is financially secure, and this goes some way to showing that this is the case. Finally, by writing about something that may not appeal to girls that much, I’ve given some credence to the dating profile, and have essentially suggested that I’m telling the truth in it.

6. I have added some humour to the dating profile. In case you don’t know, Johnny English is a James Bond spoof film, where the main character, played by Rowan Atkinson, is a complete idiot! The part about clicking through lots of ads is specific to a UK dating agency where you can choose not to pay for the service if, instead, you view advertising emails that they send you, and visit the advertised websites. You earn credits by doing this, and once you have enough credits, you can send someone a message. Probably the most requested trait in personal ads is a good sense of humour.

7. I am lucky to be a skilled writer. There are no spelling mistakes or problems with grammar that I am aware of in the above dating profile. If you are not very good at writing, you can quite easily check for these by writing your profile in Word for Windows, and checking spelling and grammar. Even better would be to have someone who is good at writing look over your profile for you!

You have to think like an advertiser, but you also have to try to paint an honest picture of yourself, and your profile should be a mixture of these two elements. Think what makes you attractive; perhaps ask your friends; and then write about it! Put in some of the elements that I’ve used, such as humour, and you’re sure to get results!

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Dating Horrors & Embarrassments

05:39:15 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Well, my own story is more funny than it is embarrassing but at the time, it was plenty embarrassing.

I was 16 and had a "flexible curfew." That meant try to get home by midnight but if I wasn't going to make it, call home and give my Mom my best guesstimate of when to expect me. I actually didn't try to bend the rules too often and I chose not to stay out past 9 or 10 on a school night because, by 16, I was already past high school curriculum and was taking college-level courses. I wanted to go to college after taking a year off after high school graduation but that's another story for another day.

Back to the dating scene. My steady boyfriend at the time had a nicely appointed station wagon and, with the back seat down, we'd park backwards at the drive-in, watching the movie out the open back as we snuggled up under the covers. Funny how he liked playing the mature male (he was about 20 or so) and insisted that we meet all my Mom's rules and he wouldn't take me out if my G.P.A. threatened to droop. What an old nanny he turned out to be.

So this one evening at the drive-in, the movie must really have been extremely boring and we'd necked as far as we were going to go so we had nothing left..to..keep..us..awake. That's right. We fell sound asleep, BOTH of us snoring away.

I came slowly awake to see a long shadow beginning to loom over my boyfriend's car. I almost screamed. I nudged him. He wouldn't wake up. I nudged him again. More snoring.

Then the shadow became a live human being. It was the drive-in manager or security guard or some employee who leaned down and said, "Wake up, kiddies. Show's over. Time to go home," just as I delivered a final powerful wallop to my boyfriend's ribs and he came awake with a jolt.

We both stared out at the drive-in. Ours was the only car there. It was time to cue the "Twilight Zone" music. Very creepy.

The employee said it again, "Wake up, time to go."

We scrambled back through the car to the front seat. I quickly got over the horror and now thought it was hysterically funny and was having a difficult time suppressing my giggles. My boyfriend, however, was in a CRANKY MOOD. Either he woke up too fast or he was just pissed off at getting caught like that in an embarrassing situation but he gunned the motor and took off over the humps of the parking lot... but he'd forgotten to disconnect the speaker from his car door!

The window never cracked. Instead, the speaker was ripped off the stand and stayed glued to the car as my boyfriend roared out of the drive-in.

We were having a huge custody battle over who got to keep that speaker by the time we pulled up in front of my house. I said the boyfriend always let the girlfriend have what she wanted. That was like in the official by-laws of girlfriendship-boyfriendship. Everybody knew that.

He claimed the speaker since it was HIS car it got stuck to and HE PAID for the drive-in. I gave in, not because I thought his argument beat mine but because I saw it really meant more to him than it did to me.

As he dropped me off in front of my house, the thin fringes of daylight were just starting to break. My Mom let me in the door and all of a sudden, the whole thing got embarrassing again. It was almost 5:00 A.M. I'd spent the whole night SLEEPING with my boyfriend. I told my Mom what happened and she laughed. She knew I didn't do all that on purpose. And then she said, "Tell me again about the part where the movie speaker ripped off." Oh, we had thought about stopping to give it back but my boyfriend didn't know if he'd have to pay hundreds of dollars to replace it and he didn't have that kind of money, so... he kept on driving.

And ever after that, anytime one of my oldies stations played the Everly Bros.', "Wake Up, Little Susie," my Mom couldn't resist saying that was Greg's and my song.

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Rejection, Fear, and Dating

02:01:55 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Single again? As we travel through life, we often end up single. There are many reasons why. It could be the result of meeting the wrong person, death, cheating, lies, divorce, location, goals, and more. Losing a relationship impacts us in many ways. It can be very painful, or it can be very refreshing, or anywhere in-between. No matter what the cause or the degree of pain, there is one truth we all share: We don’t want to end up alone. We want to find companionship.

In order to get into a new relationship, we have to be willing to meet and go out with people. It’s our own fear, however, that often gets in the way.

? We fear getting rejected.
? We fear having a bad time.
? We fear getting hurt.
? We fear having to reject someone else.

All these fears are valid yet easily overcome. If someone rejects you, it only means that that person feels you are not right for them. Believe me, there is someone else who would love to be with you. You have to accept rejection. It is only through trying do we get to the right person.

Many dates and relationships don’t work out. You may look back and think of it as a bad time. It is all right to have a bad time. Only through bad dates do we get to the good dates. It is through our bad relationships that we have the opportunity to learn more about ourselves and what we want, to then approach relationships with more knowledge to succeed.

No one wants to get hurt but if we do not dare to fall in love and get hurt, we cannot be in love. Getting hurt is part of the process. We do get through it and the pain does go away. The best part is there is new love waiting for you.

You may also be fearful of rejecting someone. The truth is no one is obligated to stay with someone who isn’t right for them. Rejection is part of the dating and relationship process.

Change how you look at rejection and see it as a favor. When you reject someone you are releasing him or her to go find someone who will truly appreciate that person. Look at it that way also when someone rejects you. After all, do you really want to be with someone who doesn’t want you? It’s better to be free to find someone who actually wants to be with you.

Can you predict the future? I can’t. In fact, most of us don’t think we can. Yet we continue to believe in self-limiting thoughts about the future. We believe so firmly in these thoughts we allow them to stop us from moving forward and realizing opportunities.

Instead of predicting pain, I can predict for you that if you embrace the dating process instead of watching life pass you by, you will have both good and bad times. I can also predict that these good and bad times will lead you to even better times.

Embrace the journey and release your fear.

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I Don't Even Know Your Last Name, But Let's Hook Up!

02:00:31 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Teen Relationships

The times are changing. I have come to the conclusion that old fashioned dating is a thing of the past; today’s youth have turned to casual and random “hook ups.”

Teens are in such a hurry to grow up. As the mother of a teen daughter, I have seen this first hand and it is frightening. Parents want the best for their children, but how do we protect them from the unhealthy consequences associated with random hook ups.

Excuse me, but ladies you need to have a little self-respect here.

In high school, dating has been replaced with random hookups that in turn result in meaningless relationships. What happened to taking things slow and getting to know one another? Young girls feel a need to have a boyfriend. They are unable to be independent. It is low self-esteem along with a need to feel loved by a male figure that leads girls into these unhealthy relationships.

Unlike when I was a teen dating, young men now no longer need to earn a girls respect. There is no longer any courtship. A young lady meets a young man and the next day there already boyfriend and girlfriend. What happened to the date? What happened to dinner and a movie and the hope for that kiss good night.

I guess I've been "out of the dating scene" for a long time. Courtship appears to be dead. What ever happened to the dating that we knew in high school? Girls need to look at Grandma and Grandpa. They are the reality of true love. Honestly though, the person they’ll be spending the rest of their lives with is most likely not going to be found in grade nine.

They may feel that they’re in love, but it is too early to be thinking of making that boy a life partner. There are many more fish in the sea. Teen girls shouldn’t be in such a rush to grow up. These are the years that they should be enjoying life, because one day they are going to wake up and look back on their teen years with regret. They’ll be thirty-seven years old with sagging breasts and a big behind. They will look in the mirror and say, “goodness what happened?” At that very moment they’ll long for the teen years that are now gone.

It’s okay to have crushes, but girls need to forget the steady relationships and if they do find a boy they like, they need to slow down. Take time to get to know him. Teens need to recognize the consequences of random hook ups and not getting to know a person. According to a poll conducted by NBC News and People Magazine nearly 3 in 10 (27%) thirteen to sixteen year-olds are sexually active. While some teens may realize the consequences of being promiscuous, many teens are not taking the measures to protect themselves. Sadly, random hookups represent today's culture, a culture where courtship is dead.

It's a scary thought, but if courtship is dead, what does this say for the future of marriage? Today’s teens will be tomorrow’s adults. Marriage, here today, gone tomorrow.

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The big five when it comes to dating

01:14:27 by Julia Dorofeeva

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When getting into a new relationship, one has to wonder how much information is too much? Many college students tend to "play the field" until they find that special someone, but what is the best way to retrieve these facts of his or her past history and present views?

What issues are considered a taboo to bring up in the first months of a relationship; family, religion, morals, expectations and sexual partners? How does one know when these important topics should be discussed?

Is their some secret manual I have never read? Or does our young society no longer find these questions pertinent to a relationship?

The first of the big five questions to ask is about family. Is it important to know what views your partner has on family ties? Does one's relationship with his or her family affect the kind of person that he or she is?

I know I am a little replica of my parents - no matter how much I fought it. I wonder if it happens to us all.

Did we fight so hard as we grew up that some how we inadvertently become exactly what we fought so hard against? Is it fighting the inevitable?

If this is true, then I would say yes, it's important to know what his or her family is like and to have some insight on his or her upbringing.

Religion is the second question of the big five. On an episode of "Sex in the City," Charlotte, one of the main characters, converted to Judaism just for a guy.

I found myself wondering how one could to that and if I would or could. I have always found that my religion is the base of my life, and when everything else crumbles around me I still will have the strength to make it through. If you are so quick to give up your religion, who are you?

You know longer have something that you stand for. So discussing the other's views on faith would help see how strong his or her sense of self is and that they won't just go with the flow of others.

The third big question is a person's moral standpoint. I find that if someone displays strong, well thought-out morals and performs selfless acts of kindness it makes him or her shine, and even more attractive.

Being a moral human is challenging in today's world, but even more so in college. To display this characteristic makes a person a role model for others to respect and mimic.

What the expectations are for the relationship is the fourth question to ponder. Regardless if it is verbalized or not, people expect certain things out of the people they're dating; it varies from talking on the phone, holding hands, kissing, and arguably the hardest question to talk about, sex.

Knowing where your dating partner stands on these expectations, and how he or she can meet yours, is important. If one chooses to avoid the expectation topic, he or she might be setting themselves up for a bumpy road ahead. Couples need to find those issues that they differ on and try to compromise to make both sides happy.

The last question is sexual partners. This topic may not only be difficult and awkward to discuss, but also a painful recap of mistakes.

However, if one chooses to be sexually active with his or her partner it maybe the most important question they can discuss.

According to avert.org, in 2004 in the U.S. there were 33,401 cases of syphilis, 929,462 reports of chlamydia and 330,132 cases of gonorrhea.

The big five topics to discuss in a new relationship prove to be just as important today as they were years ago. Though there are several more issues that need to be discussed, the big five is a good place to start. Every time you give yourself to a person, they take a piece of you that you can never get back.

I don't mean to lecture, but remind people to stop and think about making smart choices as to who they choose to share their life with.

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Most Americans Think Online Dating is Dangerous

07:53:10 by Julia Dorofeeva

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There is now broad public awareness of the online dating world, and the internet users who are actively seeking dates have found a variety of ways to pursue their romantic interests online.

Some 31% of American adults say they know someone who has used a dating website and 15% of American adults – about 30 million people – say they know someone who has been in a long-term relationship or married someone he or she met online.

While online dating is becoming more commonplace, there are strong concerns in the wider public about the dangers of posting personal information on dating sites and about the honesty of those who pursue online dating. Some 66% of internet users agree with the statement that online dating is dangerous because it puts personal information online. And 57% of internet users agree with the statement that a lot of people who use online dating sites lie about their marital status.

These are some of the main findings in a new report from the Pew Internet & American Life Project entitled, “Online Dating.”

The survey found that those who describe themselves as single and looking for a partner comprise about 7% of the online adult population. Among this cohort of about 10 million internet-using adults, 74% have done at least one dating-related activity online—ranging from using dating websites, to searching for information about prospective dates, to flirting via email and instant messaging, to browsing for information about the local singles scene.

“Those who are looking for dates have learned to use the internet both as a roadmap for the offline world and as a destination to meet people,” said Mary Madden, Research Specialist at the Pew Internet Project and co-author of the report.

Some 11% of internet users, about 16 million people, say they have gone to dating websites and a majority of them say they have had positive experiences and believe their use of such sites helps them to find a better match. A notable number of these online daters have found firsthand that lasting romance can be forged online; 17% of them, or roughly 3 million people, say they have entered long-term relationships or married someone they met through the services.

Another distinguishing feature of the dating scene in the digital age is the newfound ability for singles to “Google” each other or search online for information relating to a potential date before they meet or even agree to meet. Of those internet users who are single and looking for romantic partners, 17% have searched for information about someone they were currently dating or were about to meet for a first date.

“Whether you meet someone offline or online, email and other forms of online communication now play host to some of the most crucial interactions in the early stages of a relationship,” said Amanda Lenhart, Senior Research Specialist and co-author of the report. Indeed, a substantial segment of single and looking internet users, 40%, say they flirt online, and 28% have used the internet or email to ask someone out on a date.

However, many who use the websites don’t take that extra step to follow through with an in-person meeting. Just 43% of the online daters in our sample, about 7 million, said they had gone on a date with someone they met through the sites.

These findings are based on a national survey of 3,215 adults conducted last fall by the Pew Internet & American Life Project looking at the place of online dating in the larger picture of romance on the internet and relationships in America. The margin of error for responses based on all adults is ± 2 percentage points at a 95% confidence level.

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The reality of attraction and dating in a post modern society

06:00:14 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Many men today are confused as to how to attract and deal with women. Today our women are more beautiful (through natural selection and beautification), capable and empowered than at any point in history, and though this is a wonderful thing, it's had many ramifications when it comes to relationships.

Countless guys including 'great catches' are frustrated as to how to deal with, attract and succeed with these desirable women. In fact many men are so frustrated that we now have 40 year old virgins. The major social dilemma that I see exists is this: Men are wondering "what is wrong with the women (and why do they treat us like this)"?

And women are wondering, "Where are all the real men?"

Guys want to be a nice guy and they will even do what society tells them to when it comes to dating and attracting women yet almost none of it works. In fact it usually repels women away or incites them to reluctantly partake in the free gifts they're getting in exchange for their own time even though the women are bored, not really interested and definitely not attracted.

Societal 'dating' is a lot of presumptuous false expectations and ideals that cater to her social leanings and not what her heart truly desires (also because few of these men have 'character').

Despite what the experts say, it often ends up being what neither of them want (to appease arcane social norms) and the guy goes home with an emptier wallet and a good night hug and she'll end up (having sex) with a jerk who she is biologically attracted to.

If he's 'lucky' he can maybe this beautiful woman's friend. "Let's just be friends"...the kiss of death for him if he only wanted something else.

So in order for men to be more effective with dating they're going to have to do some different things. And I'm not talking about becoming someone they're not so they have to 'seduce' women or act like a jerk, be a playboy or even to 'give her some of her own medicine'.

Women are just wondering why that can't find a man they are attracted to who actually IS healthy and stable.

First of all society promotes 'courtship' which is a socially derived function which worked great throughout modern history when people lived in the same communities and the focus was immediately on raising a family. Simply put, things changed.

Today's independent women are more interested in exercising their freedoms and seeing what happens instead of putting up with all of the implied expectations dealing with having to marry each guy they go out with.

Take a look at the hit 'Sex and the City'. Quite a long ways from 'Leave it to Beaver' (and modern programming would have been blasphemy back then; that's how far we've come).

So I don't know why dating experts keep teaching dating as courtship; it's just so antiquated. Is it really to 'protect' women (who are more independent and powerful than ever before anyways)?

Maybe they just don't want to face the reality of what women want.

Yes, most women eventually want to get married but they want it to happen casually and naturally when they meet a guy now to see how it develops (with someone she's interested in) INSTEAD OF having guys wooing and courting her from date number one with flowers, dinner, walking on eggshells and lots of incoming phone calls from someone she's not interested in (unless she's letting her parents or social expectations rule the decision).

Usually that's a LOT of pressure and expectation to deal with plus the guy's are coming on too heavy and it's SO predictable...they all seem the same to her just about and it's very tiring. Now it's the good guys who are getting their hearts trampled (see pop music) by these women.

In a traditional 'dating' situation (which we know mainstream society promotes) she's not necessarily being herself (although her grandma may have been), she's being what society tells her to be (although times have changed) and how to act.

Plus the man isn't getting anywhere either because he's putting a fake foot forward to essentially buy her attention.

He's not being his true self upfront and those things will surface later on both ends anyways. With the progression of independence and advancement in both men and women, there's more 'demons' that are being hidden as well as incompatible personality traits.

Not to mention that everyone looking for a 'date' is only looking for an interpersonal solution for themselves...they don't really know the other person, just what they are judging.

So, if a man follows society's advice of (courtship) 'dating' women, it's like living an incongruency (or lie) with what he REALLY wants and what she wants unless they really ARE looking and about ready to get married.

Most single, young (and now older) men want to have physical relationships and aren't looking to get married right away until they really get to know a woman and courting her isn't really getting to know her.

If there was a price on love then a lot of people would be permanently out of luck. Women know that love doesn't cost a thing and I believe it (ie. J.Lo's natural and not social side) yet people will continue to try and buy her affection.

Today, desirable and empowered women want to express their (newfound) sexual freedom without having to have this guy dragging her down. Basically girls really DO just want to have fun but there's so much PRESSURE.

Now a man can do this without having to seduce her or be the nice guy of courting her and getting both of them nowhere. Most importantly he doesn't have to become someone he's not or being an abusive jerk just to succeed.

If men and women could just be upfront, casual and honest with each other in their intentions they could both have a lot of fun and get to know each other without false expectations.

And another important point, sex isn't likely to happen with traditional courtship dating because society tells her to delay sex so she can hold onto a keeper (which makes sense for COURTSHIP). The focus is more on their social/fake/expected relationship and less on who they really are as people.

When guys take the 'dating route, it's like they have a hidden agenda to get somewhere with her taking this route and she knows it and in the wrong metaframe of courtship with him pursuing, it makes her want him less.

It looks like he's hiding his true self and paying for her attention. She often feels obligated to give him at least a hug in exchange for everything he bought her and yet she'll run off with a more dangerous man she is attracted to because of the way SHE feels when she's around him.

She doesn't get these feelings of intoxication from the wooing, low independent character men who are responding to their perception of her. She wants to be respected and treated as an equal (and nice guys put her above themselves) so she often ends up pursuing an independent man.

Women have changed dramatically in a social and personal matter so that they now have tremendous power, capability and favor in life. They're marrying later and less interested in men wooing them when it comes to attraction and dating (unless they want to take material advantage of the resources men are throwing at them).

A woman will often wonder if she will ever find a real man who she can just have a fun and REAL time with which may or may not naturally end up in sex. She doesn't want men following her around like a whipped puppy, having them by the string and not respecting her own independence.

Gold-diggers might like this to maintain high social status but healthy women don't feel attraction for these men. It's unnatural.

The power has shifted and it's changed almost everything. Tradition is thrown off course and nature itself is being slapped in the face by social culture and it's influence (just turn on the t.v. and you'll be inundated with it non-stop).

Men are wondering what went wrong and if they themselves are the problem when it comes to dating. Their entire psyche and outlook on reality has been affected and this affects all areas of their life.

All of this is NOT desirable to alot of these women who have really improved themselves in all of the aspects of their life...a woman doesn't want to settle for LESS, she wants men that are worthy of her time and not afraid of her for just being herself (who she has become.

Little does she know though that she would be a completely different woman if she were raised in another culture. Little do men realize that they would have natural success with women without really trying if they went to many other cultures in the world.

They would be SHOCKED to find that 'it just happens'. This is what nature or intelligent design intended. This realization on my part is what I call 'cultural differentiation'. The socio-cultural 'forced reality' which began in America around the 1960's has influenced the relationship dynamics of countless millions of people now around much of the world. It's the impetus of a 50% divorce rate.

Thankfully there is still the natural reality of attraction; the ability within man and woman to know what to do when it comes to attraction. It's within all of us and more important than the social pervasive reality that defines almost all current relations in these societies.

For man to truly begin to succeed with women and attraction, he must cut through all of the junk, see the matrix for himself and understand his relation to it.

The fact that women respond to men of high natural character still doesn't change; it never will or we would be threatened with the thought of extinction (note the birth rate is increasing rapidly in traditional or natural cultures the most).

Independent career women have less time to raise more kids in their natural/traditional role as mother and nurturer (reference; the neighbors in 'Cheaper by the Dozen').

Choosing a path of seduction or 'pick up arts' in order to get the end result is now not the only option. There is another and more powerfully effective way.

You see, current social byproduct (response solutions) like pick up and seduction have become very popular because the way women are responding to these men.

Women not being interested, ignoring them, and rejecting them is very real (and common) so some men have found another way to counteract it and deal with it (responding to woman's general social power as the stimulus). The unnatural transgression of sexual energy had to find an outlet.

In order to become a successful seducer or 'PUA' generally a man has to study a system of countless techniques and psychological triggers to try to bring a woman's level of interest and attraction up to where it matters.

He will have to face a lot of rejection through his training to start seeing results...results that work with women starting on the social level where she has the favor and he will often try to break down her social identity and her belief in it so that her judgment becomes more clouded and in his favor.

If he can 'talk her into' it to a point where he comes close to her expectational/ideal response, then he may 'get lucky'. This is the hard road and it's not natural, although with practice he can be more effective than being a nice guy of confused/diminished character who follows the outdated courtship dating (not mating) ritual.

Overly 'wooful', courting men (nice guys) or PUA's (pick-up artists) are BOTH trying to work against the natural energy of what women really want by trying to deal with her on the social level where she has received the power and they are now essentially below her (and almost always act it).

She likes the attention and social proof plus all the gifts and meals at times from the nice guys but there's a part of her that is hollow and missing something (no pun intended).

She's not really attracted to these men and he doesn't understand why he keeps buying her all these gifts and she doesn't call back and dumps him.

There's no win/win situation there. I teach my men to keep things interdependent and not to abuse their power (potentially over women) when they attain awareness but to respect women and add value to their lives.

If a woman can just find a man who is upfront, honest and congruent with who he is and how he lives she'll respect him (probably be greatly relieved from social pressures) and then can decide whether to join him on his adventures or not...and he doesn't get rejected.

In the game of attraction and who she is attracted to (who she chooses and not what she or society says), her decisions are almost always made on the natural level (although unhealthy gold-diggers base their decisions on the social level and teenage boy band fans will become infatuated with a star's independent character portrayal).

The biological and natural mating instinct is the timeless authority that guarantees something like social development wouldn't throw nature off it's course (although it's now being threatened).

Everyone knows how to reproduce; we don't have to be taught (Return to Blue Lagoon). Social influence has just gotten in the way. It has confused some men so much that they wonder if they were ever meant to reproduce or go through the mating ritual. This is a very true reality for many men.

And yet woman will often end up with jerks and losers instead who are fearless and strong in natural character because they're the closest options available to her attraction response ideal (of how she 'feels' when she's with him). Basically our biology is stronger than our social programming.

And nice guys everywhere will just not get what's going on and they will remain confused and disparately powerless or less than they could be most of their adult lives unless they really find their own path through the mire.

The answer lies in discovering what society has hidden from him. It's not in being the wife-beater t-shirt guy, it's about being a man of character; a man who is comfortable in his own skin and can handle (and please) women without having to say a word.

This is what women want. A real man. One who is respectful but never panders to women or let's them violate his own (respectful) boundaries. The fact that women have become more demanding today just makes real relationships harder but I'm teaching attraction and not 'dating' or marriage.

I don't know when the dating experts will EVER catch up but they are right about one thing (which is skewed by the seduction experts); women WANT men to be themselves.

The way seduction experts see it is if you just 'be yourself' you will fail with women so you have to basically turn yourself into someone you're not just in order to get the end result (usually sex).

The way I see it is that men are NOT really being themselves in the first place. This is where the problem lies; society has diminished a man's own sense of masculinity, independence and his place in the world in relation to everything else..it's all watered down so that he has become a man of lower character and almost unable to instill the
attraction response in women.

It seems the only men that women are 'attracted to' (we're not talking about what society says she wants about marrying a 'nice guy', etc.) are the bad boys and jerks who used to be social outcasts.

Why is this so? Simply because the other men aren't stepping up to the plate anymore. Our grandfathers were men of high natural character.

And the men like this that are balanced and high in character, they're taken right away by women or in the greatest demand. This balanced man is rare to find today; a man who can be himself, has qualities that women want and isn't afraid or intimidated of being around beautiful women.

In more scientific terms, men today have become the response to women as the stimulus (in empowered, forced reality cultures because the whole world is NOT like this). The natural reality of attraction (and the MATING not dating sequence) is that men are the stimulus to which women will respond to.

A woman will do things to look good so that men will 'pick her' but their relationship or not rests on HER response to HIM and not how he thinks she looks. She has to sift through the men of different character to decide.

The men who have the most success with women anywhere have a high level of 'character' in any of the three areas I define in my free ebook; his natural, independent and social character.

Good news for men is that women KNOW to respond to men of high natural character and pick them out of the crowd. Unfortunately for many women, that means they'll keep irrationally choosing to sleep with bad boys who aren't emotionally healthy until more guys like us come along.

In fact high social status men wonder if a women are just using them for their money/power or not (ie. what Jay-Z raps about).

Women know when a man is who his body says he is; it's hard to 'trick' her intuition about whether he can give her the indescribable psychosexual response that only a man of high natural character can give her (few men reach this level but about all could).

She is extrapolating and judging men just as harshly as men judge women. This is a whole area I get into in my free downloadable ebook on the website.

These physiologically and emotionally based decisions she makes about men will overrule her strong social influences; her body and physiological desire can't resist. And if a good man can just develop himself and his own character, he can have great consistent success with women (while respecting them) and when he does want to settle down he can find a good woman from many options.

For women, there could be more options of 'real men' and they will stop choosing the bad boy or jerks when they finally have the option of stable guys who have healthier character (with just as much natural connection and ability to please her as the bad boys).

Women will be grateful because there would be more real men so they don't have to fight over them as much or be as lonely. Men just have to become men of higher character and improve themselves in the 3 areas that matter to women. This CAN be done with the right resources to bring a man into his natural destiny.

When a man can be more of himself at all times and he can communicate with women that he is a man (nonverbally and verbally) who is not ashamed of who he is; she can respect this and will know where he stands on her interest/attraction level (hint; he has a good chance).

And the further he communicates that he really IS the man she idealized, the easier everything will be to take things to a connected interdependent experience.

She's the one who will make the choice and decision of whether anything's going to happen so it's up to a man to help her out there. Most guys fail before they start by not being what women want and not following the natural order of things.

For a naturally successful man who has lots of options of women he can take his pick but it's still the woman who are (eagerly) choosing to be with him.

She can't tell a man to be 'more of a man', he just has to be that man and then can have all the success he dreams of with much less dependency on the words to say because he will be operating from where HIS power lies, his natural character and ability to make women swoon despite his other personal faults.

This is about something more important than a quick-fix, this is about bringing balance back to the force of male and female relationships.

So my advice is for men to become their true selves of high character potential and strength in all three areas (natural, independent/personality and social) which will henceforth fix almost ALL of their other problems with attracting and succeeding with women they once were infatuated.

It's all about the man and developing his character so that women will respond (to his characteristics as the stimulus) the way she dreams of responding when she finds this kind of man.

That is the underlying current in this crazy, mixed up world that is still the source of pure hope and life throughout most cultures. It's up to a man to embrace and represent the characteristics of his nature and self that will drive women wild in reality instead of in their fantasies.

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All About Love

05:43:35 by Julia Dorofeeva

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How do you know if you’ve ever been in love? Most people would argue that although being in love with someone is non-tangible, there is absolutely no doubt in their mind of it existing. In fact, if you are questioning whether or not you are in love, then you are most certainly not.

While I do not doubt for a second the existence of being in love (albeit being one of those sad individuals yet to experience it), I am somewhat perplexed over our perception of what constitutes humanities most sought after experience.

For me, falling in love with someone is a decision made based on the successful matching of ones own predetermined criteria or preferences.

I fondly refer to the preliminary stage of partner selection as the ‘terminator glasses’ phase, since it filters through a potential mate’s attributes and matches them off against our own unique preferences.

On the New Years Eve just passed I went to meet friends at a bar where we would be celebrating the evening. There, waiting at the door with my friend, I saw HIM for the first time. I did a quick terminator scan:
Height: Around 6 foot. MATCH.
Build: Not too skinny, not too fat, not too buff. MATCH.
Hair: Short dark brown. Not over the top alla David Beckham. MATCH.
Complexion: Dark olive. MATCH.
Lips: Plump. MATCH.
Smile: Oh my God. MATCH.
Eyes: Big, brown, expressive, with long thick lashes. MATCH!
Stance: Gentle, not cocky. MATCH.
Nationality: Clearly foreign, probably Brazilian. MATCH.

With the terminator glasses still firmly planted on my face, the confirmed Brazilian was permitted to move onto the second part of phase one: interaction. This is often the most fatal part of any potential relationship, since every sentence uttered, every look given, and every movement is put through the filter of the terminator glasses. Any miss-match could lead to premature relationship death. Very little is forgiven during this part, especially if one’s program is set at ‘long term mate’. In saying this, it is also my favorite part of the process as it is the most fun. I see it as a game we both know we’re playing, but refuse to acknowledge as existing. One can withdraw from the game at anytime without repercussion (that is, of course, when both parties are working under the same set of rules. If this is not the case a few unwanted phone numbers are collected, followed by a few awkward conversations. And depending on how weak one is - unwanted dates followed by unwanted kisses, possibly ending in unwanted sex!).

Stage two, ‘the rose coloured glasses’ phase, is extremely dangerous and not usually approached with caution by either candidate. Depending on the impact of stage one, bombs warning ‘relationship doom’ could be dropped right in front of ones eyes, yet getting let go un-noticed. Everything appears and is, invariably, utterly workable. Despite my cynicism, this stage is defiantly more exciting than the terminator phase, albeit being laced with the fear of it all ending. The premature ‘I love you’ could escape ones mouth, falling like a ball onto a roulette table. The stakes are high, but it could also very well pay off and pass you onto stage three. Or not…

Declaring the title of stage three is difficult. And the truth is, I don’t know what to call it because I’m usually making my way to the green exit sign above the fire escape before you can say ‘marry me’.

My experience with stage three is that I usually realize Mr Perfect is human. I resist accepting him just the way he is, and try to point out where he is lacking (he is usually not so open to my constructive criticism. I wonder why?). This of course does not lead him to change his ways, but firmly ground himself in them (and resent me in the process). Love and commitment gets swapped with fear and dependence. Some stay to battle it out to the very end, most head straight for the green exit light.

People claim at this point that they have ‘fallen out of love’. My argument is that they were never in love in the first place. One of my favourite movies, ‘Moulin Rouge’, melodically states, “The greatest thing you will ever learn, is just to love, and be loved in return”. I believe this is what we think being in love is all about. Yet being loved in return implies that there is a condition to your giving love. So romantic love is conditional love. If romantic love only goes one-way, it is termed unrequited love or even ‘desperate’.

What if I said that true love can only be unconditional? And inside of that, true love can only mean 100% acceptance of the subject, just the way they are and just the way they’re not. What if love, real love, is just loving?

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Online Dating

05:21:37 by Julia Dorofeeva

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An online dating system that gives you the opportunity to get to know people before you waist your time, money and energy. We have learned that not all people we take out would really turn out to be a prospective partner in future.

Matchmaking Do you have specific needs? We provide you with a healthy way to find and meet people that would very possibly meet your needs. A way to know very much about someone prior to even meeting them. You know and can check accurate data about someone and our members are encouraged to submit photos onto their profiles and this gives you a second method of really implying the “seeing is believing” method.

Chat Rooms This is where you really find out all about someone. Log on in your own time and chat to those you are interested in. Find out about their good and bad habits and get to know them. The fact that you are able to remain anonymous is your biggest benefit. You don’t have to invite unsafe and unpleasant situations into your life anymore.

Meet Friends that could become partners How many in the crowd you met last month are people you would like to make your friends or partners? A wise man once said that he would rather have a hand full of friends then hundreds of acquaintances. It is al about really getting to know people well.

A non embarrassing way to meet hundreds of single people online. That dreaded moment of walking up to someone and asking them if they single…the fear of being rejected by someone already in a relationship or simply not interested in you. We provide you with a method to go about dating without this initial embarrassment. With online dating you know that close to all profiles online, are looking for some form of companionship. Do you know this by watching a crowd of people in public? You don’t! But fortunately for you we have put a method in place for you to find out.

Personality Profiles This gives everyone the opportunity access the key data about someone in order to make a decision. You know their age, height, religion / beliefs. You can get to learn how they think, reason and get to what type of people they are and more important then any looks what type of personality the person has. You also have a means of contacting them. Not just any old way, a very advanced way to write an e-mail to them or chat in a live real time chat room. The old school methods of keeping a little black book no longer needs to be employed, we give you a state of the art way to keep track of everyone.

The Power to choose The best thing in life would be choice. You should be very cautious when choosing a life partner. We provide you with the opportunity to move onto a different person very quickly, if in the current one, you find unhealthy characteristics that are simply not compatible with you. Nothing compares to our ability to at one time, get so many potential partners together in one single meeting place. It simply does not happen in the physical world.

A cost affective method Have you done your calculations on the costs you really run up to find love? We have and it’s astonishing what people spend going out, buying movie tickets, taking people out for dinner and paying your way in general. Again, nothing wrong with spending money on the nice little extras in life from time to time. Do you however, really need to buy into being loved ? Does finding love mean spending your paycheck in one weekend ? Part of the reason why online dating was invented is to save our members big money.

A great magician once said : “don’t believe me, try it for yourself”

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Eleven pc of net users date on websites

05:19:13 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Romance is blossoming on the internet, with 11 per cent of US internet users, or about 16 million people, saying that they have gone to dating websites, according to a new national survey.

A notable number of these online daters have found firsthand that lasting romance can be forged online, with 17 per cent of them, or roughly three million people, saying they have entered long-term relationships or married someone they met through the services, the Pew Internet and American Life project report said.

Whether you meet someone offline or online, email and other forms of online communication now play host to some of the most crucial interactions in the early stages of a relationship, said Amanda Lenhart, senior research specialist and co-author of the report.

Indeed, a substantial segment of single and looking internet users, 40 per cent, say they flirt online, and 28 per cent have used the internet or email to ask someone out on a date.

Although online dating is growing, most internet users (66 per cent) believe it is dangerous because it puts personal information online and 55 per cent of the view that many online daters lie about their marital status.

Another distinguishing feature of the dating scene in the digital age is the newfound ability for singles to ‘google’ each other or search online for information relating to a potential date before they meet or even agree to meet.

Of those internet users who are single and looking for romantic partners, 17 per cent have searched for information about someone they were currently dating or were about to meet for a first date.

While some stigma about online dating persists, most internet users do not view it simply as a last resort. Of the 3,215 adult internet users surveyed last fall, about 61 per cent do not think that people who use online dating are ‘desperate’.

The survey also showed that online men are more likely than online women to view dating services as a good way to meet people.

The Pew Internet and American Life project is a non-partisan, non-profit research organisation fully funded by the pew charitable trusts to examine the social impact of the internet.

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Don't give me no lies and keep your hands to yourself

05:17:48 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Cheaters. Liars. Losers. Players The list goes on. I'm talking about the many men that exist in the dating world today. How many women have loved and then been heartbroken by one of these worthless men? And the classic line being "I didn't see it coming".

Well there are no more excuses. I am about to give you the lowdown on what to look for when picking up and dropping off a potential keeper, or a sure- fire loser.

Lead singers, drummers, and guitar players are for the most part all no-no's. I don't know if it's the microphone waves or the strings on the guitar, but one thing is for sure; they are all out of tune. Stay away or you will be singing the blues.

Baseball players are a classic. You may think that they hit that home run just for you, but I promise that out of town games are not the only thing they are playing.

Guys that dress better than you and guys that live with their mom are one of two things: gay or a mama's boy. While their is nothing wrong with either, chances are that you will get left for a hot stud in a pair of black pin stripe Gucci's, or mommy's chocolate chip cookies.

So what exactly do you look for when searching for Mr. Right? Nothing. Worry about yourself for now. He will find you sooner or later. Hang in there.

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Finding Women Online

05:12:32 by Julia Dorofeeva

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It’s no secret that we now face longer working days and more stressful lives than we ever have. In fact, it has become increasingly difficult to lead normal lives and many people find it impossible to socialize. This lack of socialization cannot only lead to a very lonely life but it will make meeting women very difficult. For this reason it has become an increasingly popular choice for both men and women to join online dating communities in a bid to find that special someone.

Online dating sites do not have the same stigma attached to them as they once did because of the increased popularity they have experienced. There are online dating success stories all over the world and there is a good chance that someone you know has formed a relationship over the Internet.

Dating sites tend to offer the opportunity to post your own profile and search through the list of others that are on the site. By doing so you should be able to find someone who’s profile and picture attracts you to them. Don’t be afraid to make contact, simply put together a quick email that draws a conversation and send it. Don’t forget you are still on the other end of an Internet connection so you can easily change your mind when you know a little more about them.

Don’t expect to meet someone and fall in love straight away and remember when you are looking to meet women online, you should definitely not rush into trying to arrange an offline meeting. You will come across as either being desperate or possibly worse. Let the relationship develop at it’s own speed and course and only arrange an offline meeting when you are both ready.

When you do meet offline, pick somewhere public so you both feel safe and let people know where you are going and with whom. It is possible to meet women online and the most important thing is to start looking.

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Social Networks as a Marketing Channel?

02:54:55 by Julia Dorofeeva

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A new wave of online social network innovation is upon us. In addition to online dating and Web sites where college students can hang out, this new wave is about collaborative publishing. Online advertisers and marketers see the potential and they are looking for a way in.

Within this growing world where users take charge by going online to chat, make connections, post photos and blog entries, there is certainly a viable role for advertisers, but it is a role that has not yet become clear. Tom Freston, CEO of Viacom, said recently to Reuters that his firm plans to enter the online social networking market later this year. But he noted the challenges that will be faced in this segment. "It's a difficult business to maintain your vitality in," Freston said. "(But) that's not to say it can't be done. Everyone wants to know how you're going to monetize it. You're asking people to advertise between conversations between two people."

The potential is undeniable. comScore Networks recently highlighted the growth of social networking sites, pointing out that MySpace.com and Facebook.com remain the leaders among those in the 18-24 age group. Both these sites attract comfortably more than five million unique visitors a month. The number of visitors to Facebook.com increased by 14% in December 2005, while MySpace.com saw a whopping 34% increase.

This growing consumer-contribution environment presents some challenges to advertisers and marketers. The social networking sites, characterized by the ad hoc nature of consumers posting text, photos and videos, means that advertisers and marketers have no control over the content. Viacom drew a lot of negative attention with its Janet Jackson imbroglio from the 2004 Super Bowl, and so the company is understandably cautious as it ventures into the online sphere. As Mr. Freston said, "(Advertisers) judge very harshly the kind of content they're advertising on. On television and radio, there are standards."

In a related development, there is growing eagerness of users to get a percentage of the advertising revenues around their sites. Business 2.0, in a special report on the "Next Net," singles out a number of companies spearheading this change. Two Web sites, in particular, point to the relationships that users will have with advertisers. Newsvine is a Web site where readers can submit and edit stories; they can also create their own Newsvine pages, for which they collect 90% of associated ad revenues. The same applies for Eurekster, a do-it-yourself social search engine, which allow a user to define the sites to search, post the results on a blog or Web site, and get a cut of any paid search impressions that the audience generates.

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New concessions in fees for the online dating subscription is on the anvil

02:52:56 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Nate Elliot at Jupiter Research has come up with an interesting concept for online dating sites called targeted discounting strategies. This is a concept worth serious deliberation and consideration.

Before going into pricing strategies, it's important to understand that his clever sound bite has a fatal flaw, discounting. Why spend a lot of time trying to figure out discounting strategies when in fact a cost increase could be and effective revenue opportunity?

Some people argue that charging people $50 a month is too much. I say it's not enough. Yahoo raised their Premium service cost to around $35. Not nearly high enough to justify the word "Premium.

Eharmony got it right, $50 monthly wager that it will marry me off faster than several months at $25 with the "commoners", sniff. People use price as a filter. That's why matchmakers charge $5,000.

At Chemistry and Eharmony, the value is not only the enhanced matching algorithm, you're paying more so you don't have to spend hours each week looking at profiles. Paying more to do less.

Funny how on Myspace it's the exact opposite. All people do is look at other people's profiles. Last week I looked at a friend's profile, and 30 minutes later I counted I had looked at 100 additional profiles.

Last night I saw a tv show that said 40,000 women are abducted into prostitution each year. Myspace is a prime hunting ground for this sort of thing. That's not going to happen on Chemistry or Eharmony.

There are no links between profiles on dating sites. However, FastCupid has done a good job creating blogs and groups, I spend more time there now because I'm interacting with others in my zip code. In fact, we're going out for drinks soon. Low pressure, just a group of singles. Try doing that on most other dating sites.

Chemistry reminds me of the DNA machines on CSI. Swab in mouth, put in reader, out spits a piece of paper showing if two people are connected.

The email I get is pretty much split 50/50, some people love it, others hate it. People are happy with matches, and disappointed because the service is so broken.

Match had a $500 service at one point, I think it lasted about 3 months.

Up-selling existing customers seems like a smart move, it's all the rage now. What about the new daters? I hear Match will not actively promote the service until Q3. They have to convert as many people over to Chemistry from Match as possible, where the cost per acquisition is as low as Yahoo marketing across their own network. Once the databases are full, the Match marketing jalopy will kick into effect and we'll be BinderMindingFinder to our hearts content.

Repeat browsers- been to a dating site's home page four times without signing up? Read the cookie in their browser and give them the first month for $9.00. It's better than nothing or losing them to the True Cleavage campaign.

Active user- Someone sends 50 emails a month, 25 flirts, keeps profile updated, new photos all the time. Treat them like a superstar. They do more for your service than you ever will. They are as close as you'll ever get to loyal members. At least for three months.

Zip code- if a particular zip code didn't have many people in it, reduce the rate until it fills up, 25% off.

Race/gender/age- too many old ladies, not enough young gay women, 15% off.

End of subscription- 2 weeks until they leave, 20% off. Some sites offer variations on this already. Most notably PerfectMatch. Balancing the strength of the offer without badgering is key.

Zip code jam-packed? Hot revenue zones need their own special incentives. Time to put in your thinking caps.

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Man Dated Gal on Iinternet for Six Months -- and It Turned out She's His Mother!

02:50:17 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Skirt-chasing playboy Daniel Anceneaux spent weeks talking with a sensual woman on the Internet before arranging a romantic rendezvous at a remote beach -- and discovering that his on-line sweetie of six months was his own mother!

"I walked out on that dark beach thinking I was going to hook up with the girl of my dreams," the rattled bachelor later admitted. "And there she was, wearing white shorts and a pink tank top, just like she'd said she would.

"But when I got close, she turned around -- and we both got the shock of our lives. I mean, I didn't know what to say. All I could think was, 'Oh my God! it's Mama!' "

But the worst was yet to come. Just as the mortified mother and son realized the error of their ways, a patrolman passed by and cited them for visiting a restricted beach after dark.

"Danny and I were so flustered, we blurted out the whole story to the cop," recalled matronly mom Nicole, 52. "The policeman wrote a report, a local TV station got hold of it -- and the next thing we knew, our picture and our story was all over the 6 o'clock news. "People started pointing and laughing at us on the street -- and they haven't stopped laughing since."

The girl-crazy X-ray technician said he began flirting with normally straitlaced Nicole -- who lives six miles away in a Marseilles suburb -- while scouring the Internet for young ladies to put a little pizzazz in his life.

"Mom called herself Sweet Juliette and I called myself The Prince of Pleasure, and unfortunately, neither one of us had any idea who the other was," said flabbergasted Daniel.

"The conversations even got a little racy a couple of times.

"But I really started to fall for her, because there seemed to be a sensitive side that you don't see in many girls.

"She sent me poems she had written and told me about her dreams and desires, and it was really very romantic.

"The truth is, I got to see a side of my mom I'd never seen before. I'm grateful for that."

When starry-eyed Daniel asked Sweet Juliette to send him a picture, Nicole e-mailed him a photo of a curvy, half-clad cutie she'd scanned from a men's magazine.

"The girl in the picture was so beautiful, I begged Juliette to meet me on the beach -- and Mom said yes," he recalled. "Mom says she was falling for me, too, and she just wanted to meet me, even though she knew I'd be disappointed when I saw her.

"As for me, I figured I was going to find the girl of my dreams.

"I guess that's about as wrong as I've ever been."

Daniel admits he and his mother could do little but stammer and stutter around each other for days after their cyberspace exploits came to light. And his father Paul -- Nicole's husband of 27 years -- wasn't too happy when the story hit the news and his beer-drinking buddies made him the butt of their jokes.

"Dad was ticked for a while and he forbid Mom to talk to anybody on the Internet ever again," said embarrassed Daniel.

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Are You Made For Each other?

02:44:35 by Julia Dorofeeva

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The couple was walking on the sidewalk. They looked to be totally absorbed with each other. They were not speaking to each other, but a glance at them could tell that they were in deep love and were made for each other. What is this mystical quality of being made for each other? What qualities does this kind of relationship have? Are all the choices same? Or as we say in science, opposites attract. So the choices are totally different? Will a couple having different choices in every aspect love each other or fight over the choices? We can say that at least most of the choices should be very common. If I say that my partner and I are made for each other, what I must mean is this - he/she is the right person for me. There is no other person in the world other than him/her who can make a better couple with me. We are happiest being together and our happiness comes from our relationship.

Are choices the only factor that matter in our life? Is it enough if my eating habits, my dressing choices, my color preferences, my weather preferences and all my other likings are same as my partner, we are made for each other? Is that all to the relationship supposed to be made for each other? There must be something more? What can be that? Let us find out.

Love for each other, a deep longing for others body, heart and words and a feeling of deep satisfaction that is derived when the couple is together. The couple has only one desire- to share everything, every thought, and every emotion. The main goal in life - make and keep the partner happy and feel happy in his/her happiness. Whenever we look at a mother with her child, we never say that they are made for each other, but they share a bond that is very deep. If a couple can somehow share that kind of bond, it can be called 'made for each other.'

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Romantic Birthday

02:43:43 by Julia Dorofeeva

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You are in love and your beloved's birthday is coming soon. Imagine the explosion of feelings. Already in romance, a person
loses all his sanity. Combine that with birthday of the beloved and you will get a perfect madcap.

I know of a lover who had sent 32 mails to his beloved on her 32nd birthday. He had no chance of sending anything else. It
was difficult to select 32 ecards, and hence all the mails went together, each expressing one particular message of love. Why
does one act like this? It is because of love. Love brings out the best in our nature. We feel on clouds all the time. Waiting to hear the beloveds voice itself becomes a great celebration. Looking at her/him is a bonus, and if one can be together for some time it is as if Gods themselves gifted this. It is romance.

A person in love will have the most difficult time on his/her beloveds birthday. What to do? What gift to give? Where to meet? When to meet? Mind goes in a spin thinking of all this. And the feeling of love is the icing on the cake. Till now we have spoken of love. Now let us talk of birthdays. You will find even people well beyond their every age, enjoying their birthday as if there will be no tomorrow. I have always wondered, why the birthday changes everything. The mood is different.

How the day manages to do this trick has always been a question for me. In the case of beloveds birthday, the combination is
of love with birthday. The result as I said earlier is explosive. Enjoy this explosion. Not everyone is lucky.

Enjoy life. Please do not let a single moment of pleasure slip away from your hands. You never know what the next minute will
bring. Life can be treacherous at times. Enjoy the moment with all your might and float in the bliss. The day may never come
again, as it happened with the lover of the story above. He was never given a chance to send 33 mails. The beloved had turned
into his biggest foe. The protector had turned the killer. Let that not happen to anyone again. So please, enjoy. I wouldsay, birthday or no birthday, enjoy your romance at all the times.

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Bring Love Into Your Life

02:42:06 by Julia Dorofeeva

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So many people are complaining about the lack of love in their life. They act as if some stranger decided one day to take away the love out of their lives. They hold on to lovers already gone since eternity, or they dream about a partner coming into their life to give them everything they are not able to give themselves. They balance between hope and desperation. They look for love outside themselves and believe one day a charming prince on a white horse will knock at the door and take them away to live for ever happy in a castle for away from reality.

Other people are trying to survive in a bad relationship that holds their greatness hostage. They live in fear and anger every day but don’t know how to get out of this prison.

Do you know such people? Does this sound like you? Do you feel lonely, are you dreaming of the right one who will show up one day and end all the misery you’re going through now?

The bad news is this will not happen.
The good news is YOU can do a lot yourself to feel loved.

Let me explain.
Life is like a building. There are a lot of floors : the ground floor, the cellar, the first floor, second floor and so on. The higher you go in the building, the more light there is, the easier and lighter things are, the more friendly and energetic people are, the higher are the vibrations and most of all : the more love there is.

Picture this building of life in your mental eye. In the cellar you will find people like rapers, thiefs, harassers, killers, people who beat their children or companion and others who made a life out of hurting others.
On the groundfloor you will find a lot of people. In fact most of humanity lives here. These are the ones who content themselves by vegetating instead of living. They don’t think by themselves, they undergo life. They do nothing. They live like robots. They go to their job every day, come home every day, watch the same television program every day with a beer in one hand and a hotdog in the other hand. They do not dream. They are stuck in their lifestyle and think everything will always be the same.

Then you go up. As I said, the higher you get, the easier, the lighter life is. Life IS easy, life IS light. The cellar, groundfloor and lower floors are creations from the human mind. We created these lifestyles by our heavy thoughts, thoughts about scarcity, fear, death, anger, sadness, revenge and so on. Here are the lives of those who choose to think low energy thoughts. Those who live in fear, hate, jealousy, doubts, low self esteem, troubles. Those have bad relationships, where struggle and anger and negativity set the tone. They are not happy. They maintain the illusion everything is someone else’s fault and they have either to wait for the other to change, so their life will change, or they have to destroy the other one to have a better life (think of the one who kills the husband of the woman he wants to live with, or those who kill other minded people in order to be free to live like they want). This will never give freedom or love.

So what to do if you want to move up in that building of life and live free and in love?

First you have to make a decision. Yes, you have to decide WHERE you want to be. On which floor do you want to live your life now?

Is it the cellar? No, I don’t think so. Is is the groundfloor? I don’t think it either. Let’s say you want to be at the 17th floor. But you feel you are at this moment in your life at the 3rd floor only. You hate your job, you have a lousy relationship with your partner, you’re in bad shape and your energy is low.
So you decided you wanted a life in the vibration of the 17th floor, where there is love, real friendship, positive expectations, inner strength, power, a job you like, health and wealth.

What to do? You decided where you want to be. What you will do now? Should you wait until someone will knock on your door to take you there? No way! Will never happen! Even if you would meet someone with an energy level of 17, he will never carry you from the 3rd to the 17th floor, because he will be exhausted. It needs to be YOUR decision and YOUR action!!

So YOU have to move yourself up. How? Read! Read more! Read how you can create your life by changing your thoughts and your behavior! Go to workshops where you can learn how to unleash you inner power. Use the wonderful information bank which is called Internet and which offers you a bunch of positive information and e-courses (often for free). Surround you with loving people. Learn how to love yourself.

So first you decide where you want to be. Than you do whatever you can to get there, on your own. You may ask help of course, you may find yourself a coach (which is really a good decision!) but don’t look for somebody to carry you. You will fall down immediately the moment he puts you down. If you didn’t get there by yourself, it won’t last, it is not worth anything because you moved yourself up with somebody else’s energy and you are depending on his energy.

Once you get at the floor of your choice, let’s say 17, you will meet automatically people who vibrate at this level of energy. Energy-17 people. Loving, caring, wonderful people. People who feel good about themselves and who don’t need others to steal their energy. They learned how to generate energy by themselves. They are not slaves. They are not dominators. They love and respect others.

Do you want to meet someone like that? Do you want to share your life with somebody who has a 17-energy (or more)? Go there! Go at their level and you will meet them, that’s a guarantee!

Move yourself up.

If you live in a bad relationship right now, and you do whatever you can to get yourself moving higher, you will see what will happen. Your partner, who is still vibrating on energy 3 or 2 or on cellar-level won’t be able to follow you and you will take separate roads.

Don’t make the mistake of trying to pull someone up who wants to stay at his low level. You will never succeed. Especially women should be aware of this : don’t spoil your energy at trying to get others moving up with you. It’s a waste of time. Everybody should decide for himself. Don’t carry others on your back, you will crack down! Decide for yourself, go for it, and see what happens. The higher you get in energy-levels, the better it will be. There you will agree with me : life is wonderful!

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Convenient way to meet Jewish singles from around the world.

02:40:15 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Two incredible dating sites were launched in late 2005. These dating sites provided a very personal and warm touch for Jews from around the world to be able to meet and hopefully take their relationships to the next level. The site operates out of two URL’s, these being http://www.goshalom.com and http://wwww.shalom.co.za.

Almost immediately the site was a hit in South Africa where like minded singles found the site to be a convenient and safe place to meet other members.

This dating service is directed at the Jewish communities across the world, including South Africa, Australia, England, America and Israel. Shalom.co.za is unique because of their matching system which matches local potential partners as well as international and long distance potential love connections. Shalom.co.za a dating service that matches you with religious and culturally similar people.

Some incredible of the features on the site are Instant Messaging, Add to Hotlist, Send a Kiss, Online Chat Room, Ability to add photos, voice and video. This is revolutionary in its approach in being able to get Jews from around the world to meet.

Finally there is a way for young Jewish singles to meet and get to know each other without the fears that are connected to dating in the 21st century. Daily our lives are filled with mundane chores and love seems to have taken a backseat. Now there is a site dedicated to the Jewish dating community, with a great success rate because Shalom.com is spread across Jewish communities all over the world, but instead of randomly finding a potential mate, Shalom.co.za focuses its search on local communities such as, South Africa, Australia, England, America and defiantly Israel. Finding local matches has deemed to be more successful and is matching young Jewish couples on a daily basis.

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Making Jewish Dating as easy as 123 or ABC

02:39:09 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Jewish dating need not be a complicated process. Together with Tailoredwebs and Shalom.co.za, the process is rather simple.

Together with technology and a caring group of individuals the establishment of a universal dating system has been released.

Shalom.co.za aims to unite single Jews from around the globe on the basis that certain matching criteria are met.

Shalom.co.za is rather interesting in its approach as it offers a very easy to use yet sophisticated tool in allowing the subscriber to make the best of his/her opportunity to meet other like minded single Jews from around the world.

Examples of this technology are the ability to load voice files, video files, multiple photos and icons. The subscriber is also presented with the opportunity in defining his/her matching criteria for the opposite sex.

Each subscriber is protected with the highest level of confidentiality and only certain areas are made visible to valid paying clients.
To date, subscribers from the UK, Australia, New Zealand and South Africa have made regular use of this dynamic and exciting service.

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Internet dating blamed for HIV rise

02:37:07 by Julia Dorofeeva

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AIDS foundation says plays a major factor behind rise in HIV infections among gay men; highest rise since 1985.

The AIDS Foundation believes internet dating is one factor behind the rise in HIV infections among gay men.

Figures from Otago University's AIDS Epidemiology Group show 183 people were diagnosed with the virus last year - more than in any previous year.

AIDS Foundation executive director Rachael Le Mesurier says internet dating has increased the opportunities for sexual partnering.

She says it is very expensive to advertise on websites, and so the safe sex message is not accompanying the rise in use of the internet.

Minister Pete Hodgson believes part of the problem is that HIV is perceived to be treatable rather than associated with sudden death as it was in the 80s.

He says it has a major impact on the lives of many, including children and if people let their guard down, the virus could get away on the population.

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Dating Safe Online

07:12:30 by Julia Dorofeeva

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With online dating reaching an all time high,one must always practice safety. At Gabby Inc. at http://www.gabbyinc.net where some of the largest dating sites are located, rules are definitely stressed.

Rule #1:Never Expose Your Private Information

Never expose your personal information such as your name,address,phone number,etc. until you get to know the person you are dealing with better. This is to insure your overall safety and well being. Generally most people online are basically harmless and sincere, but the internet does possess its’ share of bad characters. So act appropriately and be smart and cautious when dealing with people online.

Rule #2:Be Careful When Choosing Your Online Name

Pick a neutral gender name if you don’t wish to invite uninvited sexual advances online or sexual innuendo. However if your intention is to invite advances from the sexes,then be prepared for the potential deluge of advances.

Rule #3:Be Very Careful When Meeting In Person

When you feel the time is right, and meeting in person is appropriate, always meet in a public place with a group of friends. Never meet the person for the first time by yourself. By having your friends this presents a secure picture of support. If this person is worth it they will honor your request.

Rule #4: Trust Your Instincts

If your instincts are trying to inform you of something wrong,listen to them. If you are uncomfortable for any reason then there is a reason. If this person isn’t your type then let them know immediately. Remember there are all types of people and personalities online and people emotions should be respected.

Rule #5: Just Because It’s Free Doesn’t Mean It’s The Best

There are tons of free personals sites online and many of the larger directories may offer these services. But be wary of a service that is totally free because the quality of the person you correspond with will be lacking. Individuals who pay are looking for quality in the person they seek and in the service they receive from the dating site they utilize.

These are jut a few rules to keep your experience safe while dating online.

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Romance Blossoms On The Internet, But What About Safety Of Online Dating?

06:01:27 by Julia Dorofeeva

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There is now broad public awareness of the online dating world, and the Internet users who are actively seeking dates have found a variety of ways to pursue their romantic interests online.

Some 31% of American adults say they know someone who has used a dating website and 15% of American adults -- about 30 million people -- say they know someone who has been in a long-term relationship or married someone he or she met online.

While online dating is becoming more commonplace, there are strong concerns in the wider public about the dangers of posting personal information on dating sites and about the honesty of those who pursue online dating. Some 66% of Internet users agree with the statement that online dating is dangerous because it puts personal information online. And 57% of Internet users agree with the statement that a lot of people who use online dating sites lie about their marital status.

These are some of the main findings in a new report from the Pew Internet & American Life Project entitled, "Online Dating."

The survey found that those who describe themselves as single and looking for a partner comprise about 7% of the online adult population. Among this cohort of about 10 million Internet-using adults, 74% have done at least one dating-related activity online?ranging from using dating websites, to searching for information about prospective dates, to flirting via email and instant messaging, to browsing for information about the local singles scene.

"Those who are looking for dates have learned to use the Internet both as a roadmap for the offline world and as a destination to meet people," said Mary Madden, Research Specialist at the Pew Internet Project and co-author of the report.

Some 11% of Internet users, about 16 million people, say they have gone to dating websites and a majority of them say they have had positive experiences and believe their use of such sites helps them to find a better match. A notable number of these online daters have found firsthand that lasting romance can be forged online; 17% of them, or roughly 3 million people, say they have entered long-term relationships or married someone they met through the services.

Another distinguishing feature of the dating scene in the digital age is the newfound ability for singles to "Google" each other or search online for information relating to a potential date before they meet or even agree to meet. Of those Internet users who are single and looking for romantic partners, 17% have searched for information about someone they were currently dating or were about to meet for a first date.

"Whether you meet someone offline or online, email and other forms of online communication now play host to some of the most crucial interactions in the early stages of a relationship," said Amanda Lenhart, Senior Research Specialist and co-author of the report. Indeed, a substantial segment of single and looking Internet users, 40%, say they flirt online, and 28% have used the Internet or email to ask someone out on a date.

However, many who use the websites don't take that extra step to follow through with an in-person meeting. Just 43% of the online daters in our sample, about 7 million, said they had gone on a date with someone they met through the sites.

These findings are based on a national survey of 3,215 adults conducted last fall by the Pew Internet & American Life Project looking at the place of online dating in the larger picture of romance on the Internet and relationships in America. The margin of error for responses based on all adults is ± 2 percentage points at a 95% confidence level.

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Online Dating: attractivity and danger

04:55:38 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Online Dating: Americans who are seeking romance use the internet to help them in their search, but there is still widespread public concern about the safety of online dating

There is now relatively broad public contact with the online dating world. Some 31% of American adults say they know someone who has used a dating website and 15% of American adults – about 30 million people – say they know someone who has been in a long-term relationship or married someone he or she met online.

Yet, dating websites are just one of many online avenues that can facilitate a romantic connection. Three out of four internet users who are single and looking for a romantic partner have done at least one dating-related activity online—ranging from using dating websites, to searching for information about prospective dates, to flirting via email and instant messaging, to browsing for information about the local singles scene.

Some 11% of all internet users and 37% of those who are single and looking say they have gone to dating websites. A majority of them say they have had positive experiences and believe their use of such sites helps them to find a better match. A notable number of these online daters have found firsthand that lasting romance can be forged online; 17% of them say they have entered long-term relationships or married someone they met through the services.

At the same time, while online dating is becoming more commonplace, there are still concerns in the wider public about the dangers of posting personal information on dating sites and about the honesty of those who pursue online dating.

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New Online Dating Research Report

02:10:20 by Julia Dorofeeva

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A new report from the Pew Internet & American Life Project entitled, “Online Dating”, confirms the fact that online dating sites are just one of many online avenues that facilitate romantic connections between people. The report shows that there is now broad public awareness of the online dating world, and the internet users who are actively seeking dates have found a variety of ways to pursue their romantic interests online.

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Online Dating Sites

02:09:33 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Now that our world is slowly becoming an online world almost everything can be found on web. A person may even find dates or love on the net. For people who have very little time to go to bars or just hates going to clubs the internet is great help to find someone to date. There are now lots of internet websites that help people find a date.

However these dating sites may also not be that efficient. They may present doubts and problems to the potential daters. The daters are not really able to know the other person until they meet. One party may actually be fooling the other about things about him or herself. That’s the risk that one must be able to handle when trying to find a date online.

Dating sites should always give some sort of security and protection to the members. The members should or could be able to block those interested daters they seem will be just fluke people. They should also have policies on how a user must observe proper conduct or be barred from the site. These sites however do offer some sort of privacy by being able to ask for a private account that has passwords. Aside from that only those whom you have selected can be able to see your email.

Here are some other key things that you should be able to think about when using the internet:

• Try to find a dating website that is already well known and has been operating for at least 3 years.
• Try to find a site that allows the user to have free profile registration for all its users.
• It’s better to find a site that allows you to post more than 1 photo. However if you only have really bad photos, maybe having the 1 photo site is best.
• Use an online dating site that has a proven and safe e-commerce system.
• Using free dating web sites might not be that great. They may be free because the usual daters are aging people or people with problems. Such as having 6 toes.
• It’s better if the dating site offers emailing or private messaging that’s onsite.
• Avoid using dating sites that insist on potential daters sending their message through your email right away. It is better if the message is just sent to your private account on their site. This helps in protecting your privacy.
• Great dating sites have excellent customer service.
• It will be a great bonus if the site you have found offers great dating tips or advices.
• The dating sites should have their phone numbers or address listed so that you can contact them when problems arise. It would be even better if their sites offer you the service of chatting with you when problems exist.
• Registering in a website where there are a lot of different nationalities offers you more choices.
• It will be easier for you if the dating site you choose offers a variety of ways to pay. They could also offer you paying in different currencies. Unless maybe your money comes from Durkidurkistan.
• Try not to be scammed that you’d have to pay just to browse the profiles of other people. It would even be better if searching the profiles are faster.

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The Basics of Internet Marketing Promotion

02:06:04 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Thousands of business and web enthusiasts are taking the big risk and
joining the exciting world of internet marketing. While seemingly
overwhelming at first, internet marketing and promotion can actually be
classified into three simple categories: market research, search engines,
and e-zine advertising. Those interested in the internet marketing field
should first familiarize themselves with the very basics of what makes this
fast growing business venture tick.

Determining how much money to invest in your overall internet marketing
campaign, and deciding the people and places which to target the main
product, are defined as market research. This research is the most basic
section of the internet marketing focus. Investing the correct sum of money
to the right groups is essential in market research, and internet marketing
in general. Proper research will eventually conclude the outcome of your
entire business campaign.

Search engines have been a popular form of advertising, both past and
present, in the internet marketing community. Search engines are divided
into two sections: search engines and directories, and pay per click
engines. While the most favored and effective form of internet marketing
promotion, this category is also the most expensive. Excellent search engine
marketing and placement can quite time consuming as well, and it is best if
submission is left to an experienced professional.

Another extremely effective, yet inexpensive form of internet marketing
promotion is e-zine advertising. Using the information gathered from your
market research, you should be well aware of what your target audience
desires. Find out what kinds of online publication or newsletters your
internet marketing targets are interested in, and purchase advertising from
these sources. Ads generally are available in three basic types: solo ads,
top-line ads, and classified ads. Solo ads are the best ads because they are
sent to the entire publication list. These ads are also beneficial for internet
marketing promotion because they contain only your ad. However, solo ads are
the most expensive. While classified ads may be a low-cost alternative, they
will not be much help in your plight for internet marketing success. These
tiny ads are placed at the end of the newsletter, and are usually overlooked
by the majority of readers.

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Why Apple Should Start a Dating Service?

01:18:46 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Today's Joy Of Tech cartoon has Steve Jobs heckling the audience, complaining that they sit around all day obsessing about Apple and to go get a life. The punch line is that an audience member thinks that reading between the lines of Jobs' speech that Apple is going to start a dating service.

Chances of this happening are as close to zero as you can get, but it got me thinking about what an Apple dating service would look like.

It would no doubt be one of the best looking dating/social networking sites out there. Lean, clean, engaging and intuitive. It would be expensive, and worth every penny. It would never crash. It would have zealots, pundits and evangelists. Every visit to the site would make you smile. Everyone on it would be passionate about dating. Members would help each other out, answering questions, connecting people and making the environment as safe and fun as possible.

Imagine getting your latest matches in iTunes. Say goodbye to the stigma of online dating once and for all.

The primary difference between the Apple dating site and the rest of the industry would be the open profiles. When can I subscribe to my dating feed like I do my news feeds? Apple would own them but they would be freely hacked and remixed. It looked like Yahoo Personals was going to roll out RSS features so I could do this myself. I'm still waiting. Some smaller sites are experimenting with RSS feeds, but there needs to be a big player to take the first step, then everyone else will likely follow suit.

The walled garden approach to dating sites makes more money for dating sites for the time being but it is not doing much for the end user. With the industry running out of steam, it's time for them to set their people free and let developers come up with new innovative features, much like Amazon and Ebay have done. They make more money by opening up their databases than they would have keeping them closed.

Personality testing had it's day. By most accounts the results we not as encouraging as we had hoped. More incremental change, evolutionary but not revolutionary. It's time to move on. Open up those databases, build better audio/video chat applications that people actually use. Bring people closer together with dynamic real-time interactions instead of static Geocities-style web pages from 1999. That's what's going to push the next phase of online dating.

Article Source: http://dating.corante.com/

Why Apple Should Start a Dating Service?

01:18:40 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Today's Joy Of Tech cartoon has Steve Jobs heckling the audience, complaining that they sit around all day obsessing about Apple and to go get a life. The punch line is that an audience member thinks that reading between the lines of Jobs' speech that Apple is going to start a dating service.

Chances of this happening are as close to zero as you can get, but it got me thinking about what an Apple dating service would look like.

It would no doubt be one of the best looking dating/social networking sites out there. Lean, clean, engaging and intuitive. It would be expensive, and worth every penny. It would never crash. It would have zealots, pundits and evangelists. Every visit to the site would make you smile. Everyone on it would be passionate about dating. Members would help each other out, answering questions, connecting people and making the environment as safe and fun as possible.

Imagine getting your latest matches in iTunes. Say goodbye to the stigma of online dating once and for all.

The primary difference between the Apple dating site and the rest of the industry would be the open profiles. When can I subscribe to my dating feed like I do my news feeds? Apple would own them but they would be freely hacked and remixed. It looked like Yahoo Personals was going to roll out RSS features so I could do this myself. I'm still waiting. Some smaller sites are experimenting with RSS feeds, but there needs to be a big player to take the first step, then everyone else will likely follow suit.

The walled garden approach to dating sites makes more money for dating sites for the time being but it is not doing much for the end user. With the industry running out of steam, it's time for them to set their people free and let developers come up with new innovative features, much like Amazon and Ebay have done. They make more money by opening up their databases than they would have keeping them closed.

Personality testing had it's day. By most accounts the results we not as encouraging as we had hoped. More incremental change, evolutionary but not revolutionary. It's time to move on. Open up those databases, build better audio/video chat applications that people actually use. Bring people closer together with dynamic real-time interactions instead of static Geocities-style web pages from 1999. That's what's going to push the next phase of online dating.

Article Source: http://dating.corante.com/

Online dating is very big business indeed

01:15:25 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Last year, the U.S. online dating industry raked in $516 million in subscription revenues, according to Jupiter Research. Roughly 43 percent of American adults, or 87 million people, are single, according to the Pew Research Center.

Industry analyst Mark Brooks says before you pay for a membership subscription, use the traffic-ranking system on Alexa.com to gauge how many active users visit the site daily. A lower number generally means the site is better utilized. For example, Match.com's traffic ranking is 85 while BlackPlanet.com is 1,554 and GoodGenes.com (a niche site for dating Ivy Leaguers) is 1,067,339.

Brooks recommends paying only for sites that rank fewer than 50,000 to get the best use of your time and dollars. A site with a 100,000 ranking generally has about 100 active members a day.

Some niche dating sites
JDate.com
BlackPlanet.com
MiGente.com
AsianAvenue.com
interracialmatch.com
DateAGolfer.com
CatholicMingle.com
Geek2Geek (www.gk2gk.com)
MilitarySinglesConnection. com
DateMyPet.com
DeafSinglesConnection.com
Largefriends.com
SingleParentsMingle.com
GoodGenes.com (for Ivy League dating only)
positivesingles.com
herpespersonals.com
millionairematch.com
meet-an-inmate.com
tallfriends.com
collegeluv.com
motorcyledating.com
cowboydate.com
sciconnection.com (for science lovers)
disableddatingclub.com
35plusdating.com
liberalhearts.com
datingrepublicans.com
all4vegan.net
fitness-singles.com
true.com (does background checks)
singleartistdating.com
mind-n-magick.com
farmersonly.com

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A Look at the International Marriage Broker Regulation Act

04:41:32 by Julia Dorofeeva

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(Online Dating Industry Journal) Online Dating Magazine's most recent "Inside the Industry" Column lists some of the details and potential impact of the International Marriage Broker Regulation Act that goes into effect this month. The new law is intended to "regulate international marriage broker activity in the United States, to provide for certain protections for individuals who utilize the services of international marriage brokers, and for other purposes" as quoted from the bill itself.

Read more: http://www.onlinedatingmagazine.com/columns/industry/05-internationalmarriagebroker.html

Online daters report positive connections

04:38:04 by Julia Dorofeeva

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More than a decade after the Internet became a dating mecca, a new study finds that those who have looked for relationships online have more faith in cyberspace than those who never have.

An estimated 16 million Americans have used a dating site or other site to meet people, the Pew Research Center reports; 45% of these have never been married. Pew found that 79% say online dating is a "good way to meet people" and 52% say the experience was mostly positive. But 29% say it was mostly negative.

Among all Internet users — about 145 million single people, married people or those in relationships — opinions appear evenly split: 44% agree that Internet dating is a "good way to meet people," and 44% disagree.

Findings are based on a telephone survey of more than 3,200 adults ages 18 and older, projected to the U.S. Census Bureau's estimate of 202 million adults with household phones in the continental USA.

Amy Simmons, 31, of Loma Linda, Calif., "definitely recommends" online dating, even when she has nothing in common with some of the guys the sites suggest are good matches.

"I see it as all positive, because even when there has been a negative experience, you're always getting experience in dating," says Simmons, a university purchasing agent who has dated online for about three years and tried four sites.

Mike Manderfeld, 54, of Minneapolis also has tried at least four sites during the four years he has been Web dating since his divorce.

"I'm 100% behind it," says Manderfeld, an accountant who was married for 18 years.

Still, he says, he was interested in pursuing relationships with only about 10% of the women he met online.

Online dating sites overall are still growing, though analysts say growth has slowed — and some segments, such as personals sites, are down from last year.

JupiterResearch says growth of dating sites slowed from 75% in 2003 to 17% in 2004; the 2005 figure is projected in the single digits, senior analyst David Card says.

Meanwhile, 24.6 million people visited personals sites in January; down 9% from 27 million last year, comScore Media Metrix says.

Such trends have sparked more target marketing to singles who prefer a more scientific approach. Both eHarmony.com and Perfectmatch.com offer compatibility-based pairings, which entail elaborate tests. And Match.com this year launched two spinoffs: MindFindBind.com, which offers Internet-only video segments with advice from Dr. Phil, and Chemistry.com, which couples compatibility with the chemistry involved in face-to-face meetings.

"These sites have been able to respond to more specialized interests, and you'll see a lot more of that specialization and innovation happening," says Mary Madden, co-author of the Pew study.

Pew's survey was done last fall by Princeton Survey Research Associates International. The margin of error is plus or minus 2 percentage points overall but 8 percentage points for the smaller pool of online daters.

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Dating Sites Don't get Branding Yet

04:35:19 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Last year Friendster was on the block for a cool $200 million. Shortly after, an astute lottery winner could pick it up for around $20 million. Recently, Viacom performed due diligence on Friendster and came back with an offer for $5 million. Friendster has raised about $15 million from VC over the past few years.

Friendster's eight million monthly visitors, 20 million profiles and an ad-supported revenue model are outweighed by yearly operating costs in the $5 million range which continue to scare away potential suitors. PaidContent has more.

A friend worked on the original sixdegrees.com website (precursor to Friendster circa 1997) and I remember asking what people did on the site, only to hear the big deal was that you could email people you didn't even know were in your network. Big whoop.

MySpace decimated Friendster because they got the music angle and were hip to the kool kids from the get-go. A larger problem was that Friendster never had a concrete identity. In the dating space, I know that women on FastCupid are far more likely to be my type than on Yahoo or American Singles. I'm able to make a purchasing decision based on my experience on visiting many sites as someone in the industry.

What are dating sites doing to woo people that are coming to online dating for the first time? Often times I will ask people to tell me what kind of people drive Mercedes and Kia's. Most say something about the quality of Mercedes and the affordability of a Kia.

When I ask them what type of people go on different dating sites, the only thing I ever hear is, "I've heard of Match" and far less, "I hear Eharmony is for Christians." That's the sum total of branding in the online dating space. I assume that Adult Friendfinder would be mentioned as well, but who's going to tell a complete stranger they know about that site?

It's been a while since I've visited the home pages of the top ten dating sites. I'm willing to be nothing has changed in a year or so. Most will have stock photos on the home page of happy couples and weak or no branding phrase. Pretty much exact same features and pitch on each.

A cup of coffee later, here's what I found on the home pages of the top 10 dating sites from Hitwise.

1) Yahoo has a happy couple photo, and a permutation of a tag line I used at ProfileDoctor 3 years ago, "Better first dates, more second dates." Home page looks like a person who learned HTML last week designed it.

2) Match touts iteself as the largest and seems to have wrestled Dr. Phil from PerfectMatch. Someone in the search marketing group must have gotten promoted, because the top of the page is devoid of any branding and the bottom is hundreds of SEO-friends words and phrases.

3) Eharmony doesn't have a tag line on the home page. It touts a Free personality profile and has the usual happy couple photo.

4) Gay.com has no tag line, just sexy pix.

5) True.com says Live Love Learn and has the couple photo and another of a couple who are about to, or just have, completed a intimate act.

6) American Singles has great-looking people, "Where people Connect."

7) SinglesNet has a hot babe and the tag line "Dating made easy."

8) Plenty Of Fish's home page is a design atrocity, although Markus says that's going to be fixed soon. The pitch is "we are free."

9) Mate1 has a hot babe who's all about intimate dating and free for women.

10) MSN Match has no tag line, but does have a happy couple photo.

Interestingly enough, several sites list their patents on the home page. So consumer research showed that people are more likely to shell out cash if they see a patent number on the home page?

Overall, I was underwhelmed by what I saw. Poorly designed, lame stock photos and weak tag lines.

As a guy, cleavage may get me to a site, but it takes a lot more to keep me there. Where is the excitement and the mystery we associate with meeting people for the first time?

Each of these sites should market themselves different from the others, although this is clearly not the case.

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Why Online Dating Is The Opium Of The Masses

04:27:59 by Julia Dorofeeva

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With two out of every five singletons in Europe and the USA now turning to the internet to find a partner, it would be safe to say that the phenomenon of online dating has changed the social and dating habits of tens of millions of people from Newcastle to New York. But why has an activity that could only be classed as an amusing diversion five years ago become such an addictive and central part of so many people's everyday lives? The answer to this question can be encapsulated in the ten short paragraphs:-

1. No more smokey bars and clubs. In the bad old days, single people on the prowl would trawl the local hostelries in their towns and cities looking for that special connection with someone who takes their fancy. Well, now you can prowl the internet from the comfort of your armchair or office and if you happen to be having a bad hair day, who cares?

2. You don't have to be a teccy. Most online dating sites are simple to navigate and deliberately don't incorporate features which are difficult to understand. Even your average internet virgin can master the art of using a dating site.

3. There's a site that's just right for you. There are global sites, country specific sites, city specific sites and niche sites for seniors, bikers, single parents, gay guys and girls and just about everything else you can think of. If you can't find an online service that exactly suits your location and lifestyle, you're not looking hard enough.

4. A choice of thousands. Most successful sites have thousands of active members on their databases. When you walk into a party or a club, how many single people will you see who might be right for you? Probably only a handful. Well now you can switch on your computer and be completely spoilt for choice.

5. Find just your type. A good dating site will present you with a series of options when you start browsing through the profiles of other members. As well as finding people who you'll find physically attractive, you'll also be able to refine your search to people who you'll also find compatible in terms of personality and lifestyle choices.

6. Instant gratification. Now you don't have to stand in the corner nursing your beer or glass of wine vainly hoping that the good-looking guy or girl across the room will come over and talk to you. When you spot someone you like on an online dating site - you can just send them a message and introduce yourself. And when you do so, your real email address is never revealed so you don't have to worry about giving out personal contact details to complete strangers.

7. You control the pace. You can message people as and when you want to and respond to other people's mails at your leisure. It's completely up to you how frequently you use your chosen site and who you want to make contact with. Take it fast or take it slow - it's your choice to make.

8. There's always someone else. If any member you contact doesn't respond or you decide that someone you've been exchanging mails with isn't quite suitable, you can just move on to someone else. Good dating sites attract hundreds and in many cases, thousands of new members every day so why put all your eggs in one basket when you have many more baskets at your finger-tips?

9. Widen your social network. Yes, the majority of people join dating sites to put some fizz and sparkle into their love lives; but many people do so to make new friends as well. Maybe you've just arrived in a town or city to take up a new job and what better and quicker way is there to start making new friends than to join an online community of like-minded singles in your own age group?

10. It's great fun. Let's face it, we could all do with injecting a little more of the fun factor into our lives from time to time and surfing the net for attractive compatible dates is a great way to do just that. And it doesn't cost any more than a round of drinks so it isn't really much of a risk in financial terms. There's very little to lose and everything to gain.

So there you have it; the delights of online dating are available to anyone who has access to a computer screen and if you're single yourself and you've yet to take the plunge, why are you waiting? It's what the internet is for!

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The first mistakes of dating

02:25:03 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Here are a few things you should avoid doing in the initial stages of a relationship if you want it to last

The initial stages of any relationship are the defining moments that give the two people involved an inkling of the direction in which the relationship will go. Therefore how you behave in the initial stages of your love affair is very important to your relationship in the long run. There are a few mistakes that you should not commit in these early stages if you want the liaison to last. Here’s a list of common mistakes people make when they first start dating. So read on and try to avoid the following:

Gifts galore
Many people unfortunately spend money and buy their partner presents to show affection. You need to understand that there is more than one way of expressing your fondness to someone. Buying a bag full of gifts at the drop of a hat will make your partner wonder if there is anything to you besides gifts. They may be led to believe that you only quantify affection through giving presents. What is worse is that they might get into the habit of expecting a present from you all the time. So go easy on the love gifts and just offer yourself. It should be enough.

Space
Another mistake that is very common among couples who have just begun to date is that you decide to spend all your free time together. You do not realise that by doing this you almost give up your social life and soon start to lose friends. Also spending every single moment with each other will only make you sick of your partner sooner than you think. So let there be space and learn to balance the time you spend with each other.

One way decision
Just because you want your partner to be comfortable does not mean you leave all the decision making and planning to one person. This is by no way showing cooperation. If only one person is making plans all the time you will soon realise that you barely ever do anything you want. This could lead to feelings of frustration later on in the relationship and you won’t have anyone to blame except yourself.

We are family
Family is a very touchy subject. If you have just begun to date and are unsure yourself about where the relationship is headed, it is a bad idea to meet the family of your partner. They might misinterpret this as you wanting something long term. If you want to meet the family that’s great, but the wise thing to do would be to let the partner know your intentions before they make any presumptions.

Skeletons in the closet
Whatever skeletons you’re hiding, they’ll come out sooner or later. No one is asking you to pour your heart out about your entire past but be honest and don’t hide anything from your partner.

No confrontation
Communication is often the solution to solving problems. If early on in the relationship you start avoiding problems and do not want to discuss issues it could harm the relationship in the long run. The reason why talking helps, is that it gives your partner a feeling of security to know that you will always be there to communicate about anything. Healthy communication is integral for any relationship to work.

Taken for granted
In order to keep the glow of a relationship alive, seduction needs to be a lifelong effort. One of the biggest traps people fall into is getting too comfortable with their partner. You no longer care about your appearance, you stop being attentive, ignoring details about him or her and missing important dates and occasions. If your partner is special to you, show it.

I love you
If you decide to utter these words make sure you mean it. Many people start using these words in a very frivolous manner and you might not realise it immediately but in the long run it will affect your relationship in a bad way. To express your love to someone is the most beautiful thing in the world. But make sure you actually feel the love instead of just saying empty words.

To make a relationship last is not always easy. So make sure you do things the right way from the very beginning.

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Matchdoctor.com Combines Online Dating with Social Networking

02:15:05 by Julia Dorofeeva

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(Online Dating Industry Journal) Matchdoctor.com, a subsidiary of Online Singles, LLC, has sent out a release comparing their site to a MySpace-type service that is specifically focused on dating.

According to the release, Matchdoctor.com is a free online dating site with built-in social networking features. Users can post an in-depth dating profile, upload photos, add tags, post a blog, create a network of friends, and participate in forum topics created by other users.

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Effective Ways Of Ending A Relationship Gracefully

02:13:06 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Ending a relationship is never easy. Actually, it is one of the hardest things to do since you will have to consider what your partner will feel. Often times, you have sleepless nights thinking things over and over because you do not want to regret your decision in the end. So, ending a relationship becomes a challenge to you and you think of ways to do it in a way that you will not be able to hurt your partner too much.

In ending a relationship, it is often as hard on the person who is ending the relationship as it is on the person who is being broken up with. For sure, you do not want to hurt your partner because he or she has been close to you for months or even years and you do not want to be guilty because of your action. Therefore, you think of ways to do this as gracefully as possible.

The first thing that you have to keep in mind is that when ending a relationship, you have to do it in person. It is always better that you talk about it in person and you explain to him or to her the reason why it is better to be that way. By doing it personally, you show sincerity and integrity. That way, whatever is the reaction of your partner, you will be able to know immediately and closure will be easier achieved.

However, it is never easy to end a relationship personally. You have to choose the right words so your partner will be able to accept and understand your reason. It is always better to say things in person than to do it on the phone, email, or even through a letter. This has to be done face to face where both of you can have eye contact and see each other’s reactions.

Another thing that you should consider doing is that before you break the bad news to your partner, it is better if you tell her or him in advance this line of “we need to talk”. This line will somehow give your partner a hint that the relationship is really heading to an end. This allows him or her to prepare for what is coming and helps soften the blow of the revelation. But you have to see to it that once you said that line to your partner, you will do it sooner because the waiting time can be very uncomfortable and can make your partner very restless.

Ending a relationship is really a very difficult thing to do. However, if you know exactly what to do and how to do it gracefully, you will be able to go through with it without feeling guilty.

Just make sure that you say the words sincerely, maintain an eye contact, leave no room for doubt, and most of all do not ever back down especially when your partner started crying and you feel terrible about it.

You have to stick to your decision and make sure that your partner gets the message. If he or she could not accept your decision at once, then you have to give him or her some space but you should never give any false hopes of getting back together. This is the best way to minimize pain when ending a relationship.

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What Makes A Bad Relationship?

02:11:39 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Are you in a relationship right now? If you are, is it going smoothly or is it going through very rough times? Not all relationships are alike; there are always these good relationships and bad relationships. How you and your partner will handle the relationship will determine if it is a bad relationship or if it is a good one and going on smoothly. If you are in a bad relationship right now, perhaps you will wonder how your romantic relationship has a sudden twist. You might have asked yourself what you have done wrong or what your shortcomings were. Here are some things that you can think about why you have a bad relationship:

Lack of Communication

Communication is an important part of every relationship. Lack of communication can make a romantic relationship turn into a bad relationship because this keeps both you and your partner from having a clear understanding of what is really going on and why a certain problem is happening.

Aside from this, it also creates more conflicts since you do not know what the other exactly wants and expects from the relationship. Keeping oneself in silence when a problem in the relationship arises will not do you any good but instead it will aggravate the problem. It is not a good idea that you do not open up about what you really feel or how your partner feels. If both of you continue to be in silence, expect your bad relationship to turn into worse.

Infidelity and Dishonesty

Infidelity and dishonesty are two words that are often associated with each other. If a person is unfaithful, he or she is dishonest in so many ways.

Lots of break-ups nowadays are due to infidelity. If you find out that your partner is unfaithful to you, of course this can lead to a serious fight and more heated arguments. For sure, your initial reaction will be so outraged that you will not be able to listen to reasons anymore. Upon knowing your partner’s infidelity, you will come to realize some of the dishonest answers that he or she gave you in the past when you ask about some important things.

Your once happy and romantic relationship will now turn into a bad relationship because there is one important element which is lacking and that is trust. You begin to become more suspicious and jealous so from then your arguments will be in circles which can eventually lead to breakup.

Pride

Pride is another main reason to have a bad relationship. Conflicts and petty fights are part of every relationship so you should not be devastated if you and your partner encounter and go through these from time to time. There is nothing wrong in having arguments because you are able to voice out your views and opinions about an issue.

However, having these become more of a problem when you let your pride take over instead of humbling down and realize your mistake. Pride will never do you good if you are in a relationship. You should always know how to ask for forgiveness if you made a mistake or give way if you think that what your partner says will be beneficial to you and to the relationship.

These are just some of the things that can make a bad relationship. If you think that one or all these is the reason why you are now in a bad relationship, perhaps you should start reassessing yourself and the whole situation in order to save it.

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Tips In Solving Relationship Problems

02:08:04 by Julia Dorofeeva

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It can not be denied that relationships have been considered as the source of a loving relationship that is full of support, enthusiasm and pleasure, whether the relationship is in the family or to somebody you are intimately in love with. And we would like to experience such a relationship to last until death. Hence, we exert so much effort in order to nurture and to make it perfect if possible.

Whether we like it or not it can also be source of sadness and distress when it fails to address the basic elements for a good relationship. This is the reality of what they call relationship problem. To have a relationship problem does not necessarily follow that the relationship we started will automatically doom to failure. That will not be the case to happen. There is still a chance to fix it.

However, we will be required to do some extra effort to keep things intact. There are many couples who take things for granted. They do not bother their relationship problems, still with great hope that the problems will just disappear by itself. They reconcile with each other but never bother to examine what had occurred or why it happened and to find some solutions to the problem.

In view of this indifference, a majority of the couples are going through series of problems. There are some problems which are not too difficult to solve compared to others. And there is a need to really to ask for professional help from a counselor. A number of people believes that the professional guidance helps them in recovering their relationship and enabled them to discover different ways to work out their problems and resolve that it will not happen again in the future. Therefore, it is a must for every couple to deal immediately with their problems in order to be in the back in the right path and continually improve the relationship. Always seek some ways of getting back and relight the fading intimacy of love.

Relationship problems will always be part of our human existence. What do you think are the causes of such problems? Being too close to somebody can give us moral support, consolation and joy, but it could also be a source of grief, disappointment and misery. Secondly, we have ups and downs of being attracted. Sometimes, we do not feel to approach the person. We want to be alone. There are times that we are passive and not eager to see our beloved. And this can strain the relationship.

Sad to say, we have minimal control along this line of the relationship. Thirdly, we have the demands from our work and financial stability. We can not do away from their concrete pressures because are the sources of our life as a human being. They provide the basic necessities of life. Lastly, the differences in our goals to achieve and our expectations from each other so as to sustain the relationship. I suppose these are the areas of concern that we should immediately address in order to make some changes for satisfaction of the relationship. It will eventually lead us to grow together.

What are the most common problems of a relationship? We have the following problems namely, the communication is very poor, poor skill in solving problems, lack of support from one’s companion, and no quality time for each other.

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Simple Ways For Effective Relationships

02:06:16 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Most couples experience a stormy weather in their relationship at one point or another in their lives. This is very natural because there are a lot of factors that can create conflicts between couples and at times, nobody wants to give way. This is where most of the relationship problems start, when both partners do not recognize their faults and shortcomings and both are trying to point out that they are right and it is always the other who is wrong. However, conflicts should never be reason enough to end a relationship. There are still simple ways that can be done in order to achieve a successful relationship rescue.

Communicate with your partner

Communication is one of the most effective keys to complete a relationship rescue plan. This should always be included in the list as more and more couples these days broke up without even acknowledging the real reason why things did not turn out the way they expected them to be for their relationship. So when things are getting somewhat out of hand, partners should talk things over and voice out their sides and open up their grudges before everything is too late.

Through communication, both will have a clear picture of what is going on, why the conflict is happening, and what relationship rescue methods can be done to surpass this period.

Know when to keep quiet

Although silence could not be the best solution for an effective relationship rescue, but it does contribute a lot so as the problem will not aggravate. Most often, when couples are having conflicts, they tend to talk too much, thus, they neglect one of the most important parts of a relationship and that is listening.

Partners should know when to keep quiet during a heated argument. It is not a good idea to raise voices, shout at each other, and worse, resort to physical violence to silence the other. When both are angry, they should let their heavy emotions subside first before speaking because more often than not, an angry person speaks even without sense and never takes any reason.

Spend time to be alone for a while

If communication and keeping in silence did not work as part of the relationship rescue scheme, spending time to be alone could be the best thing to do for the meantime. Conflicts have two effects: one is to strengthen the relationship and two is to break the relationship. If these conflicts repeat in circles everyday, the tendency is that both partners will be fed up, and thus the first thing that comes to their mind as a solution is to end the relationship.

However, this can be prevented if both have some space for a while and try to reassess their feelings and realize where their mistakes are. This can be an effective relationship rescue method because sometimes people realize the importance of their partner when he or she is not around.

These are some of the effective ways that couples can do in order to achieve a successful relationship rescue. Both partners should realize that ending the relationship is not always the best solution to end a conflict, but instead follow these relationship rescue methods to resolve them. With all these things in mind, no matter what conflicts come in the relationship, both partners can get through these and make their relationship even stronger.

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How To Make A Romantic Relationship Work?

02:04:28 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Falling in love and entering in a romantic relationship with the love of your life is a really nice experience. But just like in any endeavor, a romantic relationship also has its ups and downs.

There are times that you and your partner will experience problems and conflicts that will sure test the strength of your relationship. However, sometimes, if these conflicts seem to go on in circles, the last resort you have in mind is to end the relationship which should not be the case since there are lots of things that you can do to make your romantic relationship work.

First, you should never expect a perfect relationship because there is no such thing. There will always come a time that you and your partner will experience conflicts that will sure test the strength of your relationship. How you handle these problems will determine how intense your feelings you have for each other and how important your partner is to you. It is not a good idea to end the relationship just because you see first signs of troubles. There are always measures that you can do in order to surpass any test and make the romantic relationship work.

Second, you have to be honest and loyal at all times. If you want your partner to trust you, you should be honest in every way. This does not mean however that you are obliged to tell every detail of what you do during the day. This is just a matter of saying the truthful answers when your partner ask you some questions because making stories or telling lies will not do any good in the relationship. This will just arouse more suspicions and jealousy and thus, bigger conflicts will arise. Aside from this, both partners should be loyal to each other. A romantic relationship is a commitment and so it requires loyalty on both sides.

Third, you should always communicate with your partner because this is one of the keys to a successful romantic relationship. Often times, misunderstanding occurs in romantic relationships because couples are unable to communicate with one another. You should always find time to talk about some issues especially when it is about problems that try to test your relationship. By doing this, both of you will be able to figure out what is really happening to your relationship, why it is happening, and what you can do to resolve the problem. And when communicating, you should know when it’s time to listen and when it’s time to speak because if both want to speak at the same time, how can you possibly understand each other.

And lastly, you have to keep in mind that in order for a romantic relationship to work, both partners should exert an effort to make it work. When you entered in the relationship, you have compromised or committed yourself to someone so this means that you can’t always have your way. In a relationship, there should be give and take in every situation. This is important in order to avoid conflicts and misunderstandings.

All these measures can contribute a lot to the success of your romantic relationship. But aside from all these, both should also exert some effort to keep the romance alive by doing simple yet sweet things. This will sure help a lot to keep the relationship from being so monotonous.

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Dating Dilemma: Who Pays?

05:13:42 by Julia Dorofeeva

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The dating circuit has gone through radical changes in the past few decades. From on-line personals to speed dating, single people face an ever-shifting landscape. But if there's one thing that hasn't changed, it's the universal dating question: Who should pick up the check?

Susan McGinnis went out to explore whether the rules have changed. She reported on The Early Show that while the dynamics of dating have evolved, the question of who pays the bill is less about independence and more about instinct.

McGinnis found that opinions vary among daters over who should pay, but says that a little scientific research shows it could come down to simple animal instincts, the birds and the bees.

Anthropologist Helen Fisher says it's natural for a man to want to pay the check and that something comparable happens all the time in the animal world.

"Chimpanzees will catch a little rabbit or hand over sugar cane. The bird catches a fish and hands it to the female," Fisher says. "The exchange of food for sex. It's called courtship feeding. You see it in insects. In fact, it's so common in insects that they call it the nuptial gift."

Is that behavior really so different from what's seen in the human world? "In the United States, they give candy, beer, fancy food and dinner," Fisher said.

A survey by Match.com finds that 71 percent of men think they should pick up the tab on a date while 58 percent of women agree.

Charlie Wininger, a dating coach, says it sends a very specific message: "It demonstrates generosity, the ability to pay and it sends a message that says, 'Hey, I'm not here just to explore the possibility of friendship.' "

McGinnis reports that dating experts agree it is perfectly acceptable for a woman to pick up a check without upsetting the "natural" balance. But while that might be a new development, it seems that the basic rules really haven't changed much.

"Deep in the heart of just about every woman I've ever known, she knows that when a man offers to pay for dinner, that he has begun the courting process," says Fisher.

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'Adult' Dating Sites Flourish

02:49:17 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Amid sluggish growth for dating Web sites, a different kind of matchmaking service is thriving online: so-called adult dating sites that dispense with courtship and urge members to head straight for the bedroom.

With names like AdultFriendFinder.com, SexSearch.com and IWantU.com, adult dating sites purport to help users find one-night stands, swinger parties and other sexual escapades. AdultFriendFinder, the most popular of the sites, draws 10.1 million unique visitors a month, according to Nielsen/NetRatings. That's twice the traffic of Match.com and Yahoo Personals, Nielsen says.

Adult dating sites work in much the same way as more traditional sites. Users create profiles by filling out questionnaires -- while many dating sites ask users about things like their views on religion and favorite books, adult sites focus more on appearance and measurements. Users are encouraged to post sexually explicit photos. The sites match members of similar locations and interests.

"We enable someone to express themselves sexually in a place that doesn't make them feel dirty," said Andrew Conru, the 38-year-old founder of AdultFriendFinder. He estimated that about half of his site's members are "actively seeking a sexual partner." Others take advantage of features such as chat rooms and blogs. Some visitors, he said, are merely interested in being a "voyeur into other people's lifestyles," and use the site to see the racy profiles and nude photos posted by members.

AdultFriendFinder's traffic rose 67% in January from a year earlier, according to Nielsen. SexSearch.com, the second-most visited adult dating site, tripled its traffic to 3.2 million unique visitors in January while running online advertisements that promise "real people, real sex." Nielsen said traffic to InterActiveCorp.'s Match.com, the most popular of the traditional dating sites it tracks, grew 7% to 4.5 million unique visitors over the same period.

Pursuing Fantasies

Members of adult dating sites say that while many members do find sexual partners, there is often a wide divide between what the sites promise in marketing materials and what they actually deliver. Anastasia Sidorowich, a 45-year-old member of AdultFriendFinder, said young men, in particular, "come in and act like it's a sexual fast-food service … They think they can just walk in, and order up the women of their choice at two or three a.m., and say, 'Can you pick up a pizza and six-pack of beer on the way, too?'"

Ms. Sidorowich said she joined the site eight years ago to find "a steady lover," and isn't particularly interested in marriage. She has become involved in long-term relationships with several men on the site. However, she said, success tends to come in waves, much like in traditional dating.

She has also noticed that some of the pitfalls of traditional dating sites are also present on sites like AdultFriendFinder: Users sometimes embellish when it comes to their age, weight, height and other physical attributes. "I know one woman who has been 46 for the last five years," said Ms. Sidorowich.

The allure of the adult dating sites is "the fantasy," said Kirk Brooks, 51, a former member of AdultFriendFinder who said he had mixed success finding partners. "We all walk around believing that there actually are unfettered sexual liaisons to be had, just for the asking. It's a con, but it's an alluring con." Mr. Brooks, who lives in San Carlos, Calif., said it's more difficult for men on the site to find women than vice versa. Among U.S. members of the site, "men seeking women" outnumber "women seeking men" by more than 11 to 1.

The interest in adult dating sites comes as traditional matchmaking services grapple with slow growth. Jupiter Research analyst Nate Elliott said the percentage of online users who pay to join traditional dating sites has remained stagnant at about 5% from 2003 through this year, while the percentage who browse online personals has slipped to 16% from 21%. The trends reflect price increases, as well as dating sites' decision to offer fewer features to nonpaying members, he said.

Mr. Elliott said AdultFriendFinder is faster at converting visitors into paying members than traditional dating sites because "you've got a type of content people naturally want to come to." AdultFriendFinder charges users $20 or $30 a month for premium features. Users at the $30 level have their profiles displayed more prominently on the site. AdultFriendFinder's prices are similar to those of traditional dating sites.

The FriendFinder Network

AdultFriendFinder is the largest of about 20 dating sites belonging to closely held Various Inc.'s FriendFinder Network. Mr. Conru, who is majority owner of Palo Alto, Calif.-based Various, launched AdultFriendFinder in 1996 after discovering that some users of FriendFinder.com, a more traditional dating site, were interested in posting sexually explicit photos.

The FriendFinder Network also includes such wide-ranging dating sites as JewishFriendFinder, KoreanFriendFinder and OutPersonals. The network is profitable, Mr. Conru said, but he declined to provide any details beyond saying that it generates "more than $100 million" in annual revenue.

AdultFriendFinder calls itself "the world's largest sex and swinger personals site" and claims it has 22.3 million users, though it declines to say how many are paying customers. Users can sign up for free, but can contact only a limited number of members unless they pay a monthly fee.

Mr. Conru is careful to point out that, while the site helps people find others with similar interests, it is not in the business of brokering sex. "Our members themselves are making decisions on mutually agreed-upon relationships," he said. "Every dating site is dating first. Of course, at all sites, at some point relationships go into being a little more sexual."

A Joke Turns Serious

Some users have been pleasantly surprised by their experiences on the site. Holly Fabian, 40, who lives in Warren, Mich., said she joined AdultFriendFinder "as a joke" to browse the amusing content. After she signed up, she received 150 emails in 24 hours from men, nearly all including nude photos. Many cut right to the chase, asking her if she wanted to have sex. "It would be from everywhere," she said. "I have had emails from Germany, Spain, Switzerland, China … It's like, 'Dude, I'm not flying 8,000 miles to see you.'"

But amid the mountain of come-ons, Ms. Fabian discovered a man who seemed to share a lot of her interests -- and seemed to have less of a one-track mind than other users. After some flirtation over email, the two agreed to meet for dinner, and have been dating for the past two years.

"I really am a hermit," said Ms. Fabian, who was widowed in her 20s and works at home as a medical transcriptionist. "At 40 years old, where are you supposed to go meet somebody? I don't want to go to a bar."

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Dating sites go ethnic

04:08:50 by Julia Dorofeeva

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Now I remember why I was so hesitant to try online dating. But this one is supposed to be different. It’s part of a slew of new Web sites geared toward religious and ethnic dating. These sites attract people who are serious about dating and know what they want, said Gail Laguna, a spokeswoman for Spark Network, the parent company of BlackSinglesConnection.com, ChristianMingle.com and JDate.com.

“When you reach a point in your life and you know you want to meet someone who shares your religious or ethnic beliefs, this gives you another avenue to do so,” said Laguna, who says her sites get hundreds of letters a day from happy couples who found love.

Debra Cohen, 28, of Westchester, N.Y., kept hearing about all those success stories and thought she’d give it a try.

“I’m not really a bar person and I thought this would be an easy way to meet someone,” Cohen said. “You don’t have to go anywhere, you just check your account every day. And the rejection didn’t feel like it was a big deal because it wasn’t face to face.”

She started communicating with a guy named Larry. “To be honest he had a terrible picture up, but I figured if nothing else it’s just dinner,” she said.

Two years after their first date, they were married in front of 200 people. At their wedding, Larry’s brother proposed to his girlfriend, whom he met on JDate.

“When I told people how I met Larry they looked at me like I was crazy,” Cohen said. “Now with all these sites it’s not so taboo. You know you automatically have something in common with the person, you’re both Jewish.”

Shopping for an ethnically specific mate may sound strange, until you realize that people already do that on the more mainstream dating sites (not to mention in old-fashioned courting). And new sites like DatingforSmokers.com and VeggieDate.com are creating even smaller niches for finding dates.

To some degree I’m skeptical, but I’m constantly hearing success stories, too. After all, nearly one million people worldwide are on these sites, which include IndianDating.com and LatinSinglesConnection.com.

After a nudge (make that a big nudge) from my Jewish mother, I pay the $34.95 for one month and sign up for JDate.

Talk about an ego boost. In the first 24 hours, guys from Florida, California and as far away as Israel contact me. And this is even before my entire profile is posted – customer service has to approve it.

Sorry, guys, I automatically deleted these. Some of us don’t want a man that desperate.

I find myself taking a half hour or so every day to weed through e-mails. I don’t respond to the standard ones, “I’d like to start up a conversation, can I write you sometime?” or “I’m intrigued, feel free to e-mail me.”

Those who write a more personal message make it to the next step – I view their profile. I look at three things, picture (must have one), height (must be at least 5-foot-11, I like tall guys) and job description (again, must have one).

But sometimes the profile isn’t quite the truth. One man who describes himself as 5-foot-10 (I let the 1 inch slide) is eye-to-eye with me at 5-foot-3. He brings flowers, a very nice gesture, but it’s hard not to feel tricked.

A bit discouraged, I keep plugging away and find myself constantly checking my account. I am addicted. I’m checking my account constantly.

I get an e-mail from a man who says he speaks English, Hebrew and Spanish. How could I not be intrigued?

Our first date is a lovely stroll along South Beach and a great sushi dinner. Enjoyable enough for a second date. I’m shocked. Maybe this online dating isn’t so bad.

On date No. 2, he takes me to Fat Tuesdays and tells me how much he missed me. I remind him that it’s been less than a week since we’ve seen each other and he can’t miss me – he doesn’t know me.

Needless to say, there’s no third date. And he doesn’t call, so I guess he didn’t miss me too much.

Despite years of online flirtations, Pam Murrell says she’s never actually met anyone she’s communicated with online.

Still, she’s trying ChristianMingle.com.

“I haven’t had any success. I don’t know who has had success,” said Murrell, 27, of Camp Springs, Md. “I’m starting to question who these people are.”

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40 Funny Reasons Why It's Wonderful To Be A Woman

04:05:43 by Julia Dorofeeva

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1. When a ship sinks, women (and children) get off first.

2. A woman can hug her best friend without worrying she'll think she's gay.

3. Women can talk to attractive members of the opposite sex without having to picture them naked.

4. A woman can never be blamed if it's wet on the floor around the toilet bowl.

5. If a woman cheats on her spouse everyone will assume it's because she was being emotionally neglected.

6. Women are capable of doing at least two different things to a passable standard at the same time.

7. Women live longer than men.

8. Women know how to cover up spots and other facial blemishes.

9. If a woman inexplicably disappears for two weeks, one of her friends will notice.

10. Women mature earlier than men (some men never mature at all).

11. There are times when chocolate is really the answer to all woman's problems.

12. Women don't feel uncomfortable with gay waiters or hairdressers.

13. A woman can fully assess a person just by looking at their shoes.

14. Women know the truth about whether size matters...

15. A woman can take a drive without trying to beat her best time.

16. If a woman forgets to shave, no-one has to know.

17. Women are capable of going longer than five minutes without thinking about either sex or football.

18. Women never lust after a cartoon character or the central figure in a computer game.

19. Women can be groupies. Male groupies are stalkers.

20. Women can cry and get off a speeding ticket.

21. A woman can get a whole new lease on life just by changing her lipstick.

22. A woman can congratulate her team-mate without ever touching her rear.

23. Women don't have to worry about catching anything important in their zipper.

24. If a woman says something stupid, most men will just think she's cute.

25. Women can admit to others when they've made a mistake

26. If a woman cries, she's sensitive; if a man cries, he's a wimp.

27. Women know who their children are without having a DNA test.

28. It's cool to be a daddy's girl. It's sad to be a mummy's boy.

29. Women can wear platforms - which is why there is no such thing as a short woman's complex.

30. Women can watch one TV channel at a time without getting bored.

31. Women have total control over their eyebrows.

32. Women can get drunk quicker and cheaper than men.

33. A woman's friend won't try to persuade her to get a tattoo while she's drunk.

34. A woman won't drive to Hell and back before she asks for directions.

35. Women aren't covered with hair like shag carpeting.

36. Woman don't feel threatened if their partner earns more than they do.

37. For women, a new season means a whole new wardrobe.

38. Women know exactly what buttons to push to get exactly what they want.

39. Women don't think reading the manual is a betrayal of all their species stands for.

40. Women can keep pot plants alive for more than a week.

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Fashionable Women Get Best Service, Study Shows

04:04:15 by Julia Dorofeeva

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A new Ohio State study finds women who get the most attention at clothing stores may the ones least in need of help.

Researchers observed the way customers were treated at three plus-size women's clothing stores and concluded that women who are well-dressed and well-groomed generally get the best service.

Consumer sciences professor and study co-author Sharron Lennon said salespeople at the stores were rated on their congeniality and their speed in greeting customers.

She said her team found the clerks were friendlier and often gave faster service to women with more fashionable and attractive clothing, hair and makeup.

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How Compatible Are You And Your Partner?

04:02:34 by Julia Dorofeeva

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What are the things you argue about? Where are the disagreements? The small resentments? Where do you have to give in to get along?

Do you argue over money? Are you fighting over sex? Do you have different ideas about how much time you should spend together and apart? Do you squabble over extended family and friends? Is one of you daring and reckless, while the other wants to play things safe? Does one of you want to be right all the time? Does one of you want to always be in control? Do you disagree about the fun activities in your life?

Couples may have conflict over many areas but do you know there is a simple explanation for the conflict? When looking for a life partner, it is a good idea to take a close look at your “Need Strength Profile”, based on Dr. William Glasser’s work in the area of Choice Theory. This simple assessment will determine where you and your partner are in terms of the five basic needs and help you determine what areas are compatible and what areas should generate discussion and possible compromise and negotiation.

There is a free assessment at www.therelationshipcenter.biz on the "Free Stuff" page that will provide a rudimentary understanding of where you are with regard to the five basic human needs of Choice Theory---love & belong, survival, power, freedom and fun. If you are seeking compatibility in a relationship, you and your partner can both take this assessment and then discuss your results based on the rest of this article.

The first need is called love & belonging. It is the need that determines how much connection you require with others. Generally speaking, relationships work best when you have equivalent strengths of the love & belonging need. This is the need that will help you determine as a couple how much time you spend together and how much time is needed apart. Loving sex and romance is another aspect of this need, as are extended family and friends.

The second of the five basic needs is survival. This is so much more than just the need to physically survive, although that is part of it. It is also the psychological need to feel safe and secure. Areas of potential conflict around this need involve the ability to adapt to change, how you spend and save money, preparations one makes for safety, spontaneity, among other things.

The third of the human needs is power, which can be a difficult need to understand because power generally has a negative connotation associated with it. When people hear "power" they often think of one person exerting their power over another person. While this is one way, albeit not the best way, to meet one's power need, there are two other ways which are more responsible and palatable.

There are three ways to meet one's need for power---power over others, power with others and power within ourselves. Power over others is not a responsible way to meet one's power need because it interferes with the other person getting his or her needs met. There are plenty of people who use power over others but I am advocating for the other two ways when seeking compatibility in relationships.

When people have a high need for power, they are born driven to get this need met. They don’t know how to get it met; they just know they must find power. Often, you can observe in small children the tendency to power over others. Then, hopefully, life teaches children the other two ways to seek power.

When you look for "power with" others, it means that you are able to work cohesively with a group of people to advance toward a common goal. Many winning sports teams display this "power with" concept, as well as effective work teams and even fully functioning families. "Power with" others can be a very satisfying way of meeting one’s power needs.

The final way to meet one’s need for power is "power within" oneself. This is generally seen as a need for pride or competence. Those with a high power need who meet it through power within methods like to always do their best. They may seem to be perfectionistic but producing their best is very need satisfying to them.

In relationships, this power need accounts for workaholism, people who always need to control everything around them and a low degree of tolerance for imperfection in others. The power need has a big influence in interpersonal relationships.

The fourth need to discuss is the need for freedom. People with a high need for freedom are independent and like to do things their own way. High freedom need people generally don't like rules---particularly ones that don't make sense. They also value their time alone. They like to do what they want, when they want.

There is usually an inverse relationship between the love & belonging and the freedom needs. When a person has a high need for love & belonging, he or she typically has a lower need for freedom and vice versa. Of course, there are exceptions but typically there is an opposite relationship between the two.

The last of Choice Theory’s basic human needs is fun. Fun seems pretty straightforward but there are some subtleties to it that are necessary to understand. There are basically three kinds of fun. There is the loud, energetic kind of fun that people might get from physical activity and parties, for example. There is the quiet, relaxing kind of fun that might be enjoyed by fishing, lying in a hammock on a warm summer’s day or reading for pleasure. Then there is learning as fun.

Now, I’m not talking about when you learned algebra! For most of us that wasn’t fun but I am talking about learning something you are interested in that has useful application for you. For me, the best example is when I learned how to downhill ski and made it the first time down the slope without falling and getting snow down my jacket, up my pant legs and various other places! It is the sheer joy of learning something that interests you. Everyone has various ways of meeting their fun needs and it is these differences that can drastically affect your satisfaction in your relationship.

It is not always true that in order for your relationship to succeed, you must have equal or almost equal need strengths in all five needs. For some needs, it is best when one of you is high and one of you is low in that need.

Go to www.TheRelationshipCenter.biz and take the free assessment today. It’s on the “Free Stuff” page, with a link provided on the home page. See what the assessment has to say. If you have some questions, join me in my chat room during one of my scheduled chats to discuss it, leave me a message on my blog (click on the “View our Web Journal” link on the home page) or check the events calendar for upcoming workshops.

There is so much to learn about improving the significant relationships in our lives. This provides you with one more piece to the puzzle. Our workshop and weekend conferences give you many more of the puzzle pieces to help you make sense of and work to improve your relationships. Don’t wait until it’s too late. Invest in your relationships today.

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Photo Tips

04:00:27 by Julia Dorofeeva

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You're ready to try online dating. You've polished your profile, and your best friend has concluded that you are so attractive that even they would like to date you. It's come to that time! Somebody online who posted a dating personal wants to see what you look like. What picture of yourself will you paint when you display a photo along with your profile?

There are a few guidelines that apply to online dating photos that you should observe which will improve your profile. These are as follows:

1. Do add at least one photo of yourself to your profile! If you don't, you're seriously putting yourself at a disadvantage. Many people search only for people who have uploaded photos. Still others don't like the idea of a "blind date," and won't go through with a meeting if they haven't seen what you look like.

2. Remember that you are trying to be a salesperson here; you're trying to sell yourself. Look at the photographs of other people on the online dating site. Is yours similar? If so, you will not stand out from the crowd! The photo you post should be good quality.

Do yourself a favour and forget the shot that someone took of you when you were at a nightclub last month, cut off just to one side where your ex was still in the photo. There are tons of photos like this, and they don't make people want to find out more! Your profile will be more attractive than if you hadn't posted a photo, probably, but you're still not going to stand out from the crowd and do yourself justice. Ask yourself what you would want to see if you were a member of the target audience (usually the opposite sex), looking at your profile for the first time, and be critical.

At the very least, have a photo taken of yourself for the express purpose of using with your dating profile. You don't need to have had it done professionally, although it certainly wouldn't hurt! I suggest you find yourself someone who has a digital camera (or have them borrow yours) and can take photos well, and offer them a pint or three to take several photos of you. Get them to take a fair number of photos (20 or so), perhaps on different settings, because not all of them may work well, and because you then have a good selection to choose from.

Choose your backdrop carefully! A nice simple approach is to go to a field or a beach when it's near sunset, and have photos taken of yourself against this background. The background you choose should show yourself in a romantic or fun setting, and your clothes should be appropriate to that setting.

How about an interesting alternative? If you know somebody who is good with art packages such as Paint Shop Pro, have them paint out the background, and change the photo so that it looks like a spotlight is shining on you!

3. It may be a good idea to try and improve the photo, as is often done of photos of models in advertising. If you have any obvious, but small, disfigurements, these could be airbrushed out with a painting package. If you can't do it yourself, you probably know someone who can do it for you. Don't go overboard with this; make sure the photo still looks like you!

4. Don't be tempted to lie by posting a photo of George Clooney or Catherine Zeta Jones, unless of course you really are one of those people! The photo must be one of yourself, otherwise when it comes to a face-to-face meeting, the relationship could be over before it's even begun!

5. This tip is not well-known. Add a border to your photo, coloured the same as the hyperlinks on the target site. The reason for this is partly to make your photo stand out, but also because most photos shown on online dating agency sites are also links to your profile. Your photo will then look like a link, and it increases the chance of it being clicked on. If there is any "outside" to your photo, this should then have the exact same colour as the background of the site. This can be found by using Alt-Print Screen to grab an image of your web browser when on the dating site, then pasting it into an art package, and identifying the colour from there. (Note that some online dating agency sites already supply borders around images; the trick will not work on these.)

6. If you have several photos of you doing interesting activities and the site permits it, post one photo of you doing each activity in addition to your head-and-shoulders shot. For example, photos of you skiing while on holiday; photos showing you braving the rapids in white-water rafting; photos of you doing your favourite sport. They help to prove that you do the things you say you do in your profile, and they make your profile more interesting!

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How Men Are Failing with Woman and Dating Today

03:58:00 by Julia Dorofeeva

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There are many reasons why men are failing with women and dating today but I'd like to look at it from an angle that you may not have thought about before.

When it comes to the game of attraction, many men will start becoming needy, clingy, overwhelmed, etc. this means they're giving up their OWN personal independence (during that time because it all that she sees and knows about him) and showing signs of dependency on a woman.

When your emotions start to take over you have to understand where they are coming from and where they fit into the reality of things. Many men fail because they just can't control their thoughts and physiological response to a beautiful woman.
Just because you're interested in her doesn't mean she's interested in you.

Women are world class body language readers (they were born to know what to look for and how to respond) and can see any sign of nervousness when you are around them.

Any uncontrollable emotional response you have with women upfront (or later on in the relationship when you only see her 'wonderful' side and 'fall for her') means that you are losing your own power, strength and independence (already confused and muddled because of growing up being hidden from the truth).

When this happens it means that she CANNOT be attracted to you. So all the nice guys out there that try to put their ‘best’ foot forward (and not really being their true self) are really failing and stepping on their own feet. They’re not being honest with themselves and their intentions.

Not to mention that many women today don’t want to be courted and feeling like they owe this guy a committed relationship, they want to be free and let things happen more naturally.

Many guys get so nervous and self-conscious around the women they desire that they don't realize there's nothing they could say to salvage it.

She already lost interest the second she saw him yet they’ll still try to learn pick-up lines in a desperate attempt to succeed to the point their devotion to it becomes unnatural.

All men were born with the inherent power to please women. And it's all done on a natural level that’s really more important to her than money (except gold-diggers. And she has to be able to trust the man to BE a man.

Women are waiting for the 'real men' (who respect her and her body without saying a word) because there are so few left anymore.

Just have to get in touch with your natural power as a man to reach the natural part of (all) women.

This power is greater than your own independent 'personality' or your social character and it's the power that matters when it comes to succeeding with women and giving women what they want.

Become a man who is 'comfortable in his own skin' and maintain that congruency and you'll find that women will treat you differently and actually notice you.

Her interest means everything because she is the one who chooses you or not (as a response to your character or approach) but as a man you will lead the way.

The nice guy will 'fail' in attracting women because he's not inspiring an instinctual or natural response in her to him.

Is it his fault for growing up in a forced reality which covers up his real power and effectiveness? No.

Does he have to take accountability for his actions and future? Yes. Understanding these things will allow him to move forward into a whole level of success that he has only dreamed of.

I like to see things this way:

You can't go with a fat, ugly chick just as much as she can't go with a man of low character.

Women today love sex just as much as men but they expect a guy they can trust first and if you're showing signs of dependency or that you're too interested in her and would change your ways to be with her, it ain't going to work out.

The good news is that women will KNOW when you are that man they want.

To prevent failure, just become a man of high character across the 3 areas that matter (natural, independent and social) and you will have women wanting to be with you and not giving up the chance to meet you.

The whole game turns around at that point and other guys will continue to fail because they didn't understand the big game of attraction and how to apply it themselves to be more naturally themselves.

Be what women want by truly becoming the man you were supposed to be instead of having to trick them into something and you'll be able to attract women nonverbally.

All men have this power and potential despite their money or looks. It's all about how she feels when she's around you and that ALL comes down to your character and who you are.

So I recommend to prevent failure and have success with women and dating!

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Write Your Own Love Letter in 6 Easy Steps

03:55:38 by Julia Dorofeeva

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You want to tell your partner how you feel about them but you end up staring at a blank screen for so long you give up. Or you try a few lines only to delete them all and start over. Again. Why is it so hard to tell the loved one in our life exactly what they mean to us? Do you struggle to find the words to properly convey how you feel? Or is it that you just can’t explain it? Don’t let words get in the way of telling your loved one how much they mean to you.

Everyone wants to be loved. When you are busy living life, there never seems time to slow down and really savour that central relationship that makes it all worthwhile. Oftentimes we think that those closest to us know exactly how we feel about them and how important they are to us. But the sad reality is that often they don’t.

So how can you write a love letter that you will feel proud to give and one that your loved one will cherish for all time? Where do you start? Follow these easy tips below and you’ll be on your way in no time.

1. First write down 5 things that you love about your partner and be as specific as possible. Rather than writing that they are kind, instead be detailed about how they are kind. Perhaps they always smile at waiters in restaurants or they are great at making people feel included, especially at parties.

2. Write down 5 things that they have done that confirms how much you love them and again, give examples. Perhaps they enveloped you in a hug last night when you were feeling frustrated about your family. Or maybe they knew how disappointed you were when you missed out on that promotion and they cooked a special meal to cheer you up.

3. Pick the best three examples from each of the above categories and weave them into your letter. You could start by saying ‘I love how you…’ and then include the three examples from the first point. Then you could say something like ‘I loved the way you…’ and then mention the other examples. Make sure you emphasise how their actions made you feel, how loved you felt and how grateful you are to have them in your life.

4. It is best to write up a draft first and then go over it to see if you can improve it. Sometimes it helps to write up what you want to say, edit it until it flows well and then leave it for a day or two before going back for a final edit and polish.

5. Buy some special paper and write out your letter. Don’t worry if your handwriting isn’t perfect – it’s distinctly yours and your loved one will appreciate the time and effort you put into the letter. If you feel your writing is so bad it will be difficult to read or if your illegible handwriting is something you’ve argued about before then pay to get it hand written by a professional. At a stretch you could use a more romantic font on your computer, say Garamond in italic, but you should really only do that as a last resort. The more personal you can make your letter the more your loved one will treasure it.

6. Think about how you plan on delivering this letter to them. Will you slip it in their briefcase? Mail it? Leave it under the pillow? Do you want to be there when they open it? If you want to see their reaction, then it is best to hand it to them. You could team the letter up with a small gift like flowers or chocolate but make sure the gift doesn’t diminish the letter as you want that to be the main focus.

If a birthday or anniversary or other special occasion is involved you’ll want to include mention of that too.

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